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trinny
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Less obvious benefits I realized about WM:
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1. I know my DD is resiliant. I don't stress about changes in her life (or as much!) because I know she's capable of adjusting and transitions. I don't feel the need to "prepare her" or get her used to things because we've done it before and we'll figure it out. Maybe it is because she is older too and I'm a more experienced mom, but I used to stress about her reaction to things (travel, sleeping in a crib, getting sick, taking bottles, etc) much more when I was home with her.
2. Our utility bill is about 1/3 less than it was 1 yr ago when I was on maternity leave!
What are yours?
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Re: Less obvious benefits I realized about WM:
1. I don't coddle or baby DD and she doens't expect me to.
2. She knows her routine and exactly what she needs to be doing and when
3. She learned manners ( please, thank you, your welcome, bless you)
4. she talked much faster than kids who stay home...i don't know if thats a blessing or a curse LOL
5. She has learned alot more than kids who stay home who are her own age ( not all, but some....like her ABC's, how to count, her colors, animals and their sounds)
6. She's very independant and I love it.
ditto pp - i spend less money. when i was home on mat leave for 3 months i blew through so much money on extra baby stuff that i did not need b/c i wanted to get out of the house with the baby.
i don't have to do all the potty training - love it!
I agree with so many of these! My two cents:
How my SAH friends who are so busy running erands, cooking, cleaning, getting things done that they only spend about 1-2 hours actually playing with their kids a day. That made me so sad! I would much rather be at work, enjoying my adult time and getting some money while DD gets a great experience at school and enjoy my 2+ hours with her after work/school. SAH doesn't mean crafts and puppet shows 24/7.
How I'd be a better employee when I returned. I figured if I was going to leave DD every day, I had better make it worth my time. I need to set a good example for her to follow.
How school has introduced her to things before I ever thought she could do them. She was eating with utensils, ditched the sippy cup, learned to count and ABCs, sleeping on a cot, and more long before it ever occurred to me to introduce those things.
How she adores her teachers and friends. We walk in and she's all smiles and hugs. We leave and she's blowing kisses out the door. She has friendships that I would never be able to give her if I stayed at home.
met DH 1995 ~ married DH 2006 ~ completed our family 2008
Life is good!
seeing her with her friends. She's so happy to see her 'buddies' each day.
I don't have to figure out everything on my own. When she was ready to potty train, they came to me and said "We tend to do this and it works, will that work for you?". I said sure, and bam - she was done just like that. They are a GREAT resource for all those tricky parenting areas because they see so many kids.
I definitely think she's learned more faster than if she would have been home with me.
She gets to do the cutest art projects that I just have no clue how to do.
Ditto all of this! I get so frustrated with art projects, but love to see the outcome. And potty training was a breeze due to all my dcp's tips and tricks (and help).
I see my daycare provider as someone else who loves my kids as much as me, because she does. Who couldn't use more of that in their lives?
I also love the daily feedback. It's one thing to know your child is doing well by what you see, but it's another to get to talk about it to no end with someone besides your spouse/family. My dcp is always full of positive things to say. It's like a daily ego boost for me
thanks to jennied
1. I never feel tapped out or stressed out when I'm with DS. I enjoy the time I do have with him - even if he's grumpy.
2. I don't have to clean up art/craft making messes.
3. I get to plan activities that are just for pure enjoyment without the stress of teaching him something since he learns so much in day care. We act really, really goofy together.
Everything everyone else says!
Plus, I have met some really nice people who are also parents at my DCP.
My DD is smart...really smart. She's going to blow the pants off of her kindergarten teacher in September, I just know it. I wish I could take credit for that, but alas, it's just super duper preschool teachers.
I totally spend less money now that I'm working more. That is a huge plus for me! I spent pretty uch my whole maternity leave shopping and walking the mall...I blew through so much of our savings, I'm still kicking myself for that. And have NOTHING to show for it.
I love that my DD gets cared for so well at daycare. Every day she is SO excited to see me and snuggle, it's great. I look forward to them potty training her, teaching her to read, etc.
I agree - both of my kids are really easy-going (at least around other people
my son is in the terrible twos so I don't always think he's easy going toward me) and adjust to new people and situations really well.
I don't spend a lot of money because I rarely have time.
I found awesome weekend babysitters (daycare teachers) who my son is thrilled with when they come over - makes going out sooo much easier.
My son has a best friend, Haylie - which I think is awesome. I never thought at his age he would be old enough. It's so cute how much they love each other!
Everything everyone else has said!!
I'm glad for this post because we are considering changing shifts so that our kids can stay home mainly to save on dcp. We don't have any family where we live and I'm not ready for our soon to be newborn to go a dcp at 6 weeks old, especially since I have not found one to my liking. Right now the kids go to a sitter that lives just a few doors down and they love it. I love ALL the benefits, so I'm not sure what the experience will be when/if we switch shifts...
Great post! I agree with everything everyone has said, especially the fact that DD gets to do cool projects that I would never have the creativity or stuff to do with her. And, like others have said, I don't have to stress about making our time together educational - we can just have fun!! I also think that the social aspect of having her in daycare is invaluable. Regardless of how many playdates we would try to have if I stayed at home, she'd never get the same amount of social interaction that she gets now.
this made me laugh. I love this part of daycare too!
I like that DH is forced to know how to care for our children as well as I do, and I am forced to trust him.