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F/U to wanting to quit.

JessMil10JessMil10
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

The baby woke up from her nap screaming her head off and wouldn't stop even when I was holding her.  I called her mom and let her listen to her scream and explained how I am at a loss for what to do.  The mom said that if I can hang in with her, she will find a new babysitter. She brought it up on her own which was nice, but I think she got the vibe from me.

I feel bad about myself as a person because she said again that I am the only one she does this for.  Even family she hasn't seen in 4 months she'll go right to and play with and be happy.

I explained how I love babysitting and love playing with them all day, but the baby just doesn't want to play with us or interact.  She wants me to hold her and walk around, and that isn't a good fit for our home.

I feel better, yet worse.

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Re: F/U to wanting to quit.

  • Chloe77Chloe77
    Awww, don't feel bad.  IMO, the mom needs to stop saying that the baby only cries with you.  There could be a MILLION reasons for this, if it's true.  The mom is probably embarassed, so just ignore what she's saying and know you tried your best.  All I would do at this point is try to act normally and be friendly to her so that your friendship doesn't suffer.  It might be awkward for a bit, but things will get back to normal as soon as she finds a new sitter.
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  • J+OJ+O
    It's not your fault and you were honest which is always best! 
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  • lpennie16lpennie16 member
    sometimes the hard thing and the right thing are the same :-)
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  • carolinagcarolinag member
    i'm so sorry jess. this is NOT personal. some babies just are weird w/certain people. and maybe she doesn't cry for others b/c they are just sitting and holding her, and not trying to entertain others as well. you are a great mom. don't let that crabby pants baby get to you! i'm glad you guys are on the same page though. hopefully they'll find someone soon. 
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  • alheystekalheystek

    I am sorry you have to deal with all of this. There is no way you should be expected to carry around a 10 month old baby all day to keep her from screaming. I think it is best if she finds a new sitter, definitely.

    I don't remember if you've mentioned this, but were you planning to watch them until baby #2 comes, or continue after she is born?

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  • JessMil10JessMil10
    imagealheystek:

    I don't remember if you've mentioned this, but were you planning to watch them until baby #2 comes, or continue after she is born?

    The plan was to watch them after this baby came and I had a "maternity leave".  By then though she would be 15 months and you would HOPE she would be happy.  But at this point, I want to believe she would still be crying.

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  • jamie4dukejamie4duke member

    I just read your OP and honestly it sounds like she gets held a LOT by people.  i had the same problem with a child and I discussed it with her mom and she said she had no idea why she was like that for me, when she wasn't like that for anyone else.  I asked her if I could videotape it for her, so she could see exactly what was going on, and she said that was fine.  In the video, the girl is crying.  I pick her up, and she instantly stops.  I put her back on the floor, she bawls.  I pick her up, she is fine.  I did this several times.  After I showed it to her mom, she was stunned.  Later on, her grandma (the little girl's great grandma) told me that the little girl gets held all.the.time. and that is the problem.  Great....  It finally got so bad that I told the mom that I was going to have to give her my two weeks' notice if this continued, because it was stressing me out, and stressing all the other kids out.  You better believe it got better pretty quickly! 

    Oh, and on a sidenote of that little girl being held all the time...she didn't roll over on her own until around 7 months.  Once they stopped holding her all the time, her development went so fast and she started doing so much more.

    I'm sorry you are going through that though. Hopefully you find another kid to watch!

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