help me out! WDYT?!

PMJacobsen · February 2010

DD is due in june and i am going through serious nesting. i know this post could be here or in TTC/Preg. but i wanted a lot of feedback. my brother is living with us (paying rent) and we don't want to ask him to leave. he pitches in and it really is helpful having another adult around to get the things like the yard and the trash done.

since we only have a three bedroom, that means our toddler and the new baby will share a room. we are totally fine with this, we co-sleep anyway so it's not really that big of a deal. i want to completely redo the room in matching bed sets so that the room flows. DH put a LOT of work into the room before charlie was born. he painted stripes and all kinds of other remodeling. it is the thing he is "most proud of" (his words, not mine). i want to repaint and do a whole new look. he wants us to either find girly bedding that matches the paint (dark blue, light blue, and red) or just not worry about DD's bedding matching. i know that it is just important that his desires are respected, and i really want to find a compromise, but i just don't see how!!

should i just give in, since he is the one who worked so hard in that room? WDYT?

LoriB00 · February 2010

Find girly bedding to match. Just tell your H that you can splurge on whatever you want for the bedding as long as it matches his paint job. If he's that proud of it, you can't possibly paint over it.

Skipperg82 · February 2010

I think you should let it be for now. What if your brother decides to move out when the baby is born and then they have to switch rooms around anyway? Plus, you said that you cosleep so your DD won't even be in your DS's room that much anyway.

I would wait and see, I know you probably want to make the room perfect, but to me it wouldn't be worth the work and upset to my DH for a baby who probably wouldn't sleep in the room anyway (nor would care what the room looked like).

Sorry, I know this is probably not the answer you want to hear!!

honeybeez · February 2010

We only have 2 bedrooms and 2 kids. DS sleeps in our room in his pnp because he won't sleep in the crib. DD is oldest and I have not changed her room because I feel that her life changed enough when DS was born....tough transition for her. The decorating isn't that big of a deal to me right now because of our sleeping arrangement.

vanillacourage · February 2010

If the stripes are the thing that your DH is "the most proud of" then no, I would not completely re-do the room

Can you repaint over just one color of stripe to make the room more gender-neutral? I.e. change one of the blue colors to yellow?

I also don't think matching bedding sets are important. Our toddlers are getting to the point that they'll want to have input on the decor in their bedrooms and I think that's something that should be encouraged, rather than keeping their tastes babyish to suit your nesting instinct (not trying to sound harsh here I promise, just don't know how else to put it).

avz2azb · February 2010

I'd leave it and find something kind of girly to match. How much do you really use the bedding set anyway? I've seen some really cute red and white polka dot crib sheets.

GRKaters · February 2010

LoriB00:
Find girly bedding to match. Just tell your H that you can splurge on whatever you want for the bedding as long as it matches his paint job. If he's that proud of it, you can't possibly paint over it.

My thoughts exactly.

CrunchOoEezyMama · February 2010

I would give in, and find girly bedding that matches. When, down the road, your brother moves out, you can go nuts and make your DD a girly girly room.

PMJacobsen · February 2010

thanks ladies! you are totally right! i am going to start looking at red/blue girlie fabrics and see if i can make a quilt and just get solid sheets/bed skirt. thanks again for the input Smile

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