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Two Under 2
LDQAM516
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Follow up to my "2u2 is easy" post...
LDQAM516
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in Two Under 2
Jeez...didnt think that post would cause such an uproar...I just wanted to post something positive...
When I was pregnant with our second...I often found negative posts about the struggles having 2u2 can bring. I dont think I ever came across a post that had anything positive to say about the whole transition (dont flame...I dont spend every waking hour on here so I am sure there were some out there)...I remember desperatly wanting to reading something positive that did not make me feel like I was making a huge mistake...Is it easy 24/7...of course not...but overall...it has been going WAY better than I ever expected and I just wanted to share that it is not ALWAYS as hard as everyone can make it out to be...especially when you are pregnant and people look at you like you are psycho when you tell them how close your babies will be. Our DD is a pretty fussy baby and still wakes up two to three times at night...is it annoying and difficult sometimes...yes...but OVERALL the experience has been amazing and not near has horrible as anticipated...even when dealing with the baby blues. As for the comments about being brand new to it...so what...2 under 2 is 2 under 2 and demands as much attention as if they were older...if not more...will they fight and bicker when they get a little older...of course...but atleast they will have each other for entertainment rather than it being all on me when you have a newborn. This is a support website and that is all I was offering...my support to those who will be entering 2u2 pretty soon...so if you are expecting your second...I wish you the best of luck and truly hope your transition is just as great...and remember that everything passes.
I read one follow up post from a lady that was happy to read something positive in regards to 2u2...how she handles it is up to her, but atleast I gave her a little hope that it may not be has hard as it is made out to be. Thanks!
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Re: Follow up to my "2u2 is easy" post...
You're right, the post did cause a lot of unnecessary drama. I honeslty appreciated you sharing that it wasn't this horrible experience, like you said we often hear the negative and not the positive.
I am glad things are going so well for you and am keeping my fingers crossed that they go just as well for me... I have 2 months till I find out!
Thanks again for sharing.
Don't take it personally... people here will drag drama out by its hairs from ANY post.
I'm also glad you posted! There's way too much negative vibe about 2u2 and why shouldn't those stressing out about it know that sometimes it is easy? we may not be in the majority but we are out there and have just as much right to share as those who find it very difficult.
I'm glad that it's working out better than you expected. It's certainly not the majority, but there are women that think it's easier than others.
There are many posts on this board that talk about both the positive and the negative. I'm sorry you only experienced the negative posts.
As much as I say it's hard for me the first year, it IS worth it at the end of the day. But it's certainly not easy for me, and I make it look VERY easy, to the point that everyone I know wants 3 kids close in age because they see how "easy" it is for me and DH...........I work HARD to make it look easy. So to me, working hard doesn't make something easy, but doesn't mean that I hate doing it every day.
GL in the future!
My mom had 3u3 when we were kids and she tells everyone that the hardest is when we were pre-teens and hitting puberty. Not that having 3 kids so close was easy, but it was not the hardest part.
The more kids you have, the harder it is. Period. No matter how close or far apart they are. Kids aren't easy but they are always a blessing. I'm glad you posted this too. I love being close in age to my sisters. We always had someone to play with, and now we are best friends as adults.
We are hoping to have 2u2 and I know it will be challenging. I also know I can handle it - I was terrified when I got pg with DD and I thought I could never handle being a mom. Now I am doing a great job and loving motherhood and looking forward to our next miracle.
Completely agree. And maybe it's more about semantics for me. Saying it's not as hard as you thought is completely different than saying it's easy. I think saying it's easy gives people false impressions.
I'm really sorry everyone seems to think this board is full of negative posts and drama. I feel like we must be on different boards because I really don't see that here.
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Ditto this. It never ceases to amaze me how seriously people take things here
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I didn't respond to your OP but I'm glad you are finding it easier than most. I also felt the same way as you do/did. YES some days were HELL but for the most part it wasn't as bad as everyone on here says it was, at least not for us. Now I will be joining the 3 under 3.5yr. world as on this wed. so really it wasn't too bad?
GL I hope it continues to go well for you and your family!!!
Well, as someone still pregnant with #2, I have to say that posts like that certainly don't make me feel lied to or misled. They make me think "Wow, she's having a really great day! How wonderful to know that those will happen too!"
I don't think ANY of us would ever truly think that this will be a piece of cake, but like pps have said, sometimes you just need to hear the puppies and rainbows.
I have certainly had my share of negative and even hurtful things said to me regarding the spacing of my children, and if someone posts something that makes me smile and feel optimistic, I really appreciate it. I'm glad it's going so well for you and I hope to share that luck!
I know exactly what you mean! I never got that either. However, I have actually seen lots of other posters mention that about this board, so now I am hesitant to even post much here at all. I used to post a good balance of positive things/cute pictures and negative/need advice posts, but after hearing that repeatedly (across other boards as well), I now rarely post about any down moments/days I might be having.
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This was my goal...and I agree with you...you would have to be a moron to have read my post and automatically assume it is going to be the same...for those that said I am misleading...come on...give these women on here more credit than that! I just get sick of all the b^*^*^ing sometimes and wanted to let people know it is not always that way...complaining about how difficult it can be will get you nowhere...
i obviously really appreciated your post! soo so so much negative vibing out there gets exhausting. like the pp said, it will get you nowhere. that's just me though! apparently i am one of those irritating all smiles people?
re: the board being full of negativity...it just seems like something is wrong with the world when someone posts an uplifting message to share their unique and positive experience and she gets attacked for using the word "easy". like she really meant offense to everyone who's had a rough time? definitely not.
anyhow, apologies for perpetuating any drama - definitely one of those situations where keeping my mouth shut was probably in order...but obv. didn't because i felt like it was really unfair to get so angry at someone for having an "easy" experience. like she said, just not as bad as everyone made it out to be!
i will stick around and choose my words wisely next time
I'm all for being positive, but let's be honest...your infant is 2 months old (ie. you are still counting her age in WEEKS, not months). She sleeps a lot, eats a lot, and is probably just starting to notice her surroundings. Your transtion has been easy b/c DC #1 still gets plenty of attention and you are going out of your way to make sure he still feels special. I'm really glad that it has been "easy" but it may not remain so. I hope you continue to enjoy it while it is.