Literally.
(Quick background: I have been taking DD next door to our neighbor's while I work... She was watching DD, her own daughter, and a 7 month old boy). She called Saturday afternoon, DH happened to answer my cell b/c I was trying to put DD down for a nap (btw, we were out of town this weekend too). She said she is leaving her husband and getting a divorce; she won't be watching DD anymore and she is on her way to Chicago to stay with her mom.
WTH???
I knew they were having some issues the past month or so. We are close in age and someone I would actually consider my friend. She told me everything... well almost everything apparently. I know everything about their financial issues; stuff that I would never dream about telling other people she told me. So the fact that she decided Saturday afternoon to leave - forever - was probably a quickly made decision. You can flame me if you want, but I don't really agree with divorce if its not b/c of abuse or if you haven't tried marriage counseling. (My parents are divorced and remarried to people who were divorced as well, so I know a little on the topic).
So I'm left in a bind now... no one to watch DD while DH and I work. We live an hour and a half away from our families. Thankfully my mom was able to come down yesterday and is watching DD today, but she has to get back tonight. And I've got a girlfriend who's coming over tomorrow. But I've got to find a daycare asap.
Oh and to top things off, we found out that DH's uncle passed away unexpectedly from a heart attack on Thursday... the funeral is Wednesday.
If you've made it this far, thank you... and please send any positive T&Ps this way if you don't mind. I know it will all work out, but its just a lot to deal with at the moment.
Re: My sitter left me
I am very sorry about your DH's uncle.
And honestly, it sounds like your DD might be better off, that childcare situation does not sound like it was the most stable one. If they were a family on the verge of divorce, can you imagine how stressful that environment was?
I hope you are able to find something suitable, quickly.
Are you sure there wasn't abuse? If she left in that kind of a hurry, it makes you wonder a little bit.
Anyway, I agree, DD is better off, likely. T&P your way. Do your parents work? Could some family member come and stay for a week or two until you find another option?
Sorry about your loss in the family as well. When it rains, it pours, doesn't it?
T&Ps for your family on your uncle's passing.
I also dont like divorce at all so I hope she got to the end of her rope and just had to get out of that environment. Too bad he was not the one to leave.
Good luck with finding day care. Hopefully your boss can be flexible with you.