wedding planning help please

BostonGayGal · February 2010

Okay, the plan, but with a 'choose your own adventure' twist: Greet guests to the engagement party in cocktail dresses. After about 45 minutes, leave to change. Someone announces we are getting married and asks people to file outside. Guests will be standing outside in the cobblestone square.

1) should the reverend lead us outside (turn to page __) or should the reverend already be outside to warmly greet guests and show them where they should be standing (turn to page __)

IF you chose for the reverend to already be outside, How, without music, should we get the fifty feet from the restaurant door to standing in front of the guests?

Should we even bother with bouquets?

two-pink-shoes · February 2010

I don't know about the organization but you should definitely have bouquets!

StephanieBride1 · February 2010

Reverend already outside

sparklers/ bubbles/ sing a song together/ is there a fountain? for natural sound.....ummm... there is no way for music to be out there? hook up an ipod to speakers?

yes, definitely bouquets

leslie13510 · February 2010

Have the reverend lead you out. Have someone else who is in on the plan to tell people where to stand. If there is no one else, maybe have the reverend out there to show people where to stand, then have him come back inside and lead you two out.

YES bouquets! But small ones.

fabbate13 · February 2010

I would have the reverend already outside to warmly greet guests.

When you're ready to walk out have the reverend say something like "please turn your attention to our brides" and then walk together to the reverend.

Bouquets? I liked mine, but now it's a dried up shriveled thing on my dresser. I held it for the minute it took me to get down the aisle and in pictures and then never held it again. I'd probably skip it.

becs11048 · February 2010

I like the idea of the reverend being outside to kind of direct people as to what to do... is there anyone that will be in on the surprise? My thought is that you can have someone walk out before you with candles or something? (assuming you aren't having attendants), or since it is outside you could have someone pull an aisle runner (which might be nice to protect the dresses)

I like the idea of you gals walking together, hand in hand, from the restaurant door to the guests

Bouquets are nice for pics, contrast with the dress, etc. but I would do smaller bridesmaid bouquets for each of you rather than full blown huge bouquets

jensneb · February 2010

Yes to bouquets! Why don't you ask the reverend for advice on what he/she has done in the past and what they prefer.

tamerbelles · February 2010

When my sister had a ceremony with her gf, they had a simple garden arch set up outside so guests knew where the "front" of the ceremony was. (They didn't have chairs, we just all stood around when we walked out from the dining room). If that's not available, maybe put some sort of flower arrangement or other "marker" at the front.

I think it would be neat if the reverend led you in, and you both hold hands while walking. Forget the bouquets so you don't have to fiddle with them.

That's just my thought.

Dee1028 · February 2010

I vote for having the reverend outside.

How big is the venue and if you know someone who can sing can you possible get them to sing acapella(sp?) or would it not be loud enough sans microphone and speakers? Maybe have someone accompanying on an acoustic guitar. Or just the acoustic guitar alone.

Bouquets-YES. even if it is just a single flower or very small bouquet.

buckin · February 2010

:turns page to reverend outside:

Reverend announces your entry and tells guests to please welcome the lovely brides. You walk out to cheers and claps from guests WITH bouquets and beautiful dresses, smiles for your witnesses and ceremony proceeds.

What could be more beautiful than people who love you cheering and clapping for you.

Anna&Matt · February 2010

I like the reverend being outside to direct people and I would do smaller bouqets because they will look nice in pictures.

BostonGayGal · February 2010

Thanks ladies.

There can be NO decorations or chairs outside. My plan was not to have music because I am trying to keep things simple, and if there is any chance of rain, we are doing this inside.

The bouquet dilemma is this: we both want small, but her style will match her dress which will be crisp and simple - probably simple tulips, and I think my glitzy dress wouldn't look right with those. But should the bouquets match/by the same color/same size/completely different? I think they should either match or have something 'unifying' about them so that it looks like we are going to the same wedding.

FB friends: there is an album of pics that only bump friends can see - if that helps at all.

MaxOrTori · February 2010

What about 6 red roses for each bouquet? That's all I did...

fabbate13 · February 2010

I don't think the bouquets need to match at all. They should be what you like individually. The unifying quality to the wedding is the two of you getting married!

leslie13510 · February 2010

You could do one type of flower, and maybe ribbon color, the same in each bouquet, and then she could go simple with the other flower(s), or just have that one kind, and you could go more glitzy. Example: Lilies of some kind for both of you, and maybe add roses to yours to glitz it up. Wrap the stems in the same color green as your invites (if you went with the green invites).

buckin · February 2010

BostonGayGal:

Thanks ladies.

There can be NO decorations or chairs outside. My plan was not to have music because I am trying to keep things simple, and if there is any chance of rain, we are doing this inside.

The bouquet dilemma is this: we both want small, but her style will match her dress which will be crisp and simple - probably simple tulips, and I think my glitzy dress wouldn't look right with those. But should the bouquets match/by the same color/same size/completely different? I think they should either match or have something 'unifying' about them so that it looks like we are going to the same wedding.

FB friends: there is an album of pics that only bump friends can see - if that helps at all.

How about taking what flower she chooses and adding pearls and some cala lillies to yours so yours is a tad fancier but they still have some similar influences.

oh-zysbaby · February 2010

I have to leave, so I don't have time to weigh in here, but I think you're getting good advice. I just wanted to say that this plan is FULL of awesomeness.

BostonGayGal · February 2010

Thanks guys. I can not even explain how helpful your ideas are. I think the idea of the reverend announcing us to clapping would be fabulous. A lot of this plan relates to A's hesitance to being the center of attention. I think this would add to the fun without adding pomp or complication.

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