Poll - # of LOs - deciding factors?

djandkellen · February 2010

What were your deciding factors that made you choose the number of children you will have? Has the number changed from what you and DH had originally planned?

TIA!

Geekchick921 · February 2010

We've just always wanted 4. We can't afford that many now, but we'd like to have another before I start school FT and afterwards, we would like to have two more. DD hasn't changed the number we want. If anything, sometimes she makes me want even more.

Alli3586 · February 2010

I've always wanted 2, DH wants 3. Money is the main factor. After we had DD we wouldn't be able to swing it financially if we had another, and then DH got a raise so we started ttc right away. We knew we wanted them as close together as possible.

I told DH we would wait a couple years after this one and then see if we want to do it again. Now that we have one of each we could very well be done.

betsnup · February 2010

I've always said I wanted 3, but DH always said 2. After D was born (well, after the first two months when we said he'd be an only child, LOL) DH and I really kept going back and forth between how many more we'd have, but now that #2 is almost here, we are 99% sure we are done.

We are leaving that 1% on the off-chance we win the lottery. Then we'd probably have 2 more.

Swim_Momma · February 2010

We're planning on 3, but if we have 3 boys, we'll probably have 4. Part of it is definitely finances. I'm lucky that I'll be able to stay at home.

LynnJones · February 2010

We both want 2, maybe 3. Sometimes I think one and done would be nice since dd is such an angel and I don't want to jinx it, lol. But overall we want to have as many children as we can afford so we can still travel a lot and be able to provide for them like my parents did for me.

Court0026 · February 2010

I always wanted 3 and DH wanted 2. He shocked me the other day when he said he wasn't ruling 3 out. Honestly, I would like to wait 4-5 years and have another one, but I just quit my job to SAH and would also like to be back to work in a few years. There have been many times when I said I would never do this again, but now I don't know...

karenmarie20 · February 2010

We would like 2 or 4. We were both one of 3 (technically) and I feel like with 3 it's always seems to be 2 against 1 so I'd prefer an even number if possible (I know it could be the same with 4 but still). At this point 4 is only happening if we hit the lottery anyway.

CelticWife · February 2010

We have always wanted 2 or 3 of our own, and 1 or 2 that are adopted. (Since I have a heart condition, we weren't entirely sure whether I would be able to carry a baby at all.)

We would still like to have a total of 4. We are definitely going to try for at least 1 more child that I will carry; if that goes well we will probably try for 1 more. After that, we would like to adopt at least 1.

DH comes from a family of 3, and it seemed like a really good mix. All three of them are good friends and get along really well. Their parents were very good at not encouraging competition between them.

We know that we want at least 2, because I do not want an only child. I am an only child, and my mom's siblings didn't have children, so I only have 3 cousins and we aren't that close. When my parents pass away, I will be alone, and I do not want that for my kids. (Even if they hate each other in their 20s or 30s, they might still be a comfort to each other in their 70s.)

We also just love children!

LilMissLadybug · February 2010

We never planned on having kids. DD was a big surprise then DH said no more, finally when she was 2 he agreed to try for one more. I use to want 4 and DH none, now I'm content with 2 and am done. I wouldn't be upset if we had another oops

KNS_61805 · February 2010

I originally wanted 4, but I think once #2 is born I'm done. Pregnancy is the factor, I just don't enjoy it at all. I've been so sick this time around. I wish we had the money to adopt.

inbetweendreams · February 2010

We always said we wanted 2. I have one sibling, and DH is from a big family. We just decided that 2 was right for us.

Now that we have 1, I could stop there. I had an extremely easy pregnancy, and DS has been a ridiculously easy child. I really like our family balance now, and I'm not sure I want to add to it. DH still wants 2, so obviously we haven't made our decision yet.

Of course, it wasn't that long ago that I said no to marriage and to kids, so I won't be surprised if I go back to wanting 2 again.

LyndsayQ · February 2010

No offense to anyone, but I never wanted to have an only child, and three seemed like too many.

Smores730 · February 2010

We want 2 and maybe 3 if #2 is another girl. Money is the hugest factor. It would also help if babies were born around 1 years old

violetvirgo · February 2010

we have always wanted 3 or 4. we have decided to have 2 biologically and adopt 2. now we do have disagreements on the order we have them - i.e. i want to adopt next and then TTC#2, then adopt. dh wants to have both bio babies then adopt.

i did have to talk him into 4 but i just didn't want a "middle child". i wanted everyone to be able to pair up when we went to disney or whatever when they are older.

~CoCo~ · February 2010

We always said two. Now that we're almost at our two, I'm done-- not enjoying being pg this time, not looking forward to L&D or figuring out how to BF for 10-12mos with a toddler running around...

I think our home and soon-to-be new vehicle and our lives in general are configured for a family of four, and I think 3+ would just be too chaotic for our liking.

We (mostly *I*, strangely) are a little bummed that we'll never know what it's like to raise a little boy, but not nearly enough to want to try for a 3rd.

loveumike · February 2010

We have no idea how many children we want. I think it will be more of a "see where we are" kind of thing.

We knew we wanted a child and we have one. As for #2 I would like us to be in a better position financially AND I have to get over the terror of the infant phase. I can't imagine having to get up in the middle of the night again and going through all of that. I like my sleep :-)

lite-bright · February 2010

We've always said that we want either two or three. Definitely two, maybe three; we've very much taken the "we'll see how it goes" approach and won't decide either way on #3 until #2 is around a year old.

Our big factors are -- whether we can continue to build up retirement/college/short-term savings and add another child. Whether or not we're willing to have two kids share a room -- right now, each girl will have her own room, but they'd have to share or we'd have to move if we have a third (I shared a room with my younger sis for 13 years and I hated it). Whether we can afford preschool, etc. for however many at once, depending on their age/spacing. The question of when I want to go back to work factors in, too -- I'm content with being a SAHM now, but I don't want to be out of the work force indefinitely.

And, honestly, gender is a factor, although a minor one. I'm glad my DD gets a little sister, but DH and I would both love to have a boy as well and if this baby was one, I think we'd be less likely to consider a third. We still would, though, just b/c we're undecided as to whether we want two or three.

gatogrrl · February 2010

All my life, I never imagined having more than two at the most. Now, I love motherhood so much, I would have 3 if possible, but I don't want to push it, age-wise, giving birth to a third. We may try to adopt a third or have a foster kid.

Echowysp · February 2010

Age. We're too old to have many more. We've always wanted just the 3 we have now (baby to come included).

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