When should we start trying?

maybebabysawyer11 · February 2010

My DH and I are hoping to concieve around July of this year. With that being said, how soon before that should we start trying? My cycle is regular and I have been off BC for almost a year. I dont want to count on getting pregnant the first month we try, but I also am hoping for July/August as I am a teacher and am hoping to time it so my maternity leave works into my summer break next year. When did you all start trying, and how long on average does conception take?? I know...im a newbie, so be gentle on my question please!

mchupie · February 2010

It can take the average healthy couple up to a year. We have been trying for 6 months, no luck yet.

I would start trying now. There's no way you can plan to get pregnant exactly when you want. Good luck!

ETA: I would really recommend charting to get to know if/when you ovulate. It can help you time sex appropriately. You can get to Fertility Friend by clicking on any of our chart tickers.

Babydust08 · February 2010

I'm a teacher too and that would be the ideal time, although it didn't happen last summer. We have been trying for about 7 months and no luck yet. It totally depends on each person. Like mchupie said, it can take up to a year to get pregnant.

canthardlywait426 · February 2010

1)Hoping to conceive a certain month is like hoping to learn how to fly this year. Its a nice idea- its just probably not going to happen.

2)I would suggest charting with fertilityfriend.com to learn your cycles so that you can better predict your ovulation time.

3)Read Taking Charge of your Fertilty to learn about your body, etc. Its a great rescourse

Welocome and good luck.

AllSmiles1210 · February 2010

If you start trying now, start taking PNVs!

PinkLove-S · February 2010

I have been off BCP since July but 'trying' since October and still no luck with perfect timing and pulling out all the stops. Unfortunately you cannot plan this unless you are one of the lucky first try people. ::sigh:: Good luck though!!!

sefaniee · February 2010

I hope it works out as you plan but like pp said, it could take 6 mo- 1 year. I have been trying since Jan 09 and no luck yet. GL to you!

Wed notdead! · February 2010

Yikes.If you're one of the lucky ones who will get pregnant on the first try, then June would be the month. If you're like me (25 months TTC) then it won't matter when.

SuperThat1006 · February 2010

I ideally wanted to conceive a particular month ... then I threw that idea out the window when I realized how ridiculous that was. It may happen for you ... it may not. Luckily, I am blessed with a boss who understands the importance of family and said that it doesn't matter when we have a baby ... that will be most important.

Now we are due at the most inopportune time ... but we're thrilled!

gymnst1013 · February 2010

A word of advice - and I don't mean this snarky at all - it's just reality. Take your "I want a ___ month baby" and throw it out the window. You cannot plan when you get pregnant. You can try your best, but more often than not, it's not gonna happen.

It can take up to a year for a healthy couple to get pregnant. And you only have a 20% shot each month.

That being said, good luck!

MNgirl326 · February 2010

mchupie:

It can take the average healthy couple up to a year. We have been trying for 6 months, no luck yet.

I would start trying now. There's no way you can plan to get pregnant exactly when you want. Good luck!

ETA: I would really recommend charting to get to know if/when you ovulate. It can help you time sex appropriately. You can get to Fertility Friend by clicking on any of our chart tickers.

this.

I am a teacher too, and I am VERY lucky that that the timing worked out that I am due on the last day of school.

However, it wasn't a priority and it took us a about 4 months to get PG. I also hadn't been on BCP for a couple years (we used condoms), so i have no idea how long it would have taken if I had just gone BCP.

scherpha · February 2010

As PP said, it can take up to a year, but it could take one month. I am a teacher too and was hoping for the April baby. We are now on cycle 9 (and I have short cycles). I would say start charting now, then start TTC by July but be prepared for it not to happen right away.

Teach84 · February 2010

I'm a teacher too and we started trying 9 months ago thinking it would be great to take maternity leave through the end of the school year. That didn't work out as planned and we've decided our family is more important than work and anytime we can concieve would be wonderful. We are now hoping for a November baby!

Some couples get pregnant the first cycle trying or even on accident, other couples it takes much longer... GL!

Temp356619000002780 · February 2010

gymnst1013:

A word of advice - and I don't mean this snarky at all - it's just reality. Take your "I want a ___ month baby" and throw it out the window. You cannot plan when you get pregnant. You can try your best, but more often than not, it's not gonna happen.

It can take up to a year for a healthy couple to get pregnant. And you only have a 20% shot each month.

That being said, good luck!

This all the way!! I wanteda summer baby almost 3 years ago when I first started trying!! Still no baby! GL!!

sandhyajp · February 2010

mchupie:
It can take the average healthy couple up to a year. We have been trying for 6 months, no luck yet.
I would start trying now. There's no way you can plan to get pregnant exactly when you want. Good luck!
ETA: I would really recommend charting to get to know if/when you ovulate. It can help you time sex appropriately. You can get to Fertility Friend by clicking on any of our chart tickers.

This. There is no way to be absolutely sure that you will conceive exactly when you want to (unfortunately!) I would start trying now. GL to you!

Jewlz018 · February 2010

If only it were that easy....

Good Luck though!

::backs out of post::

lauriemel · February 2010

Ditto all PPs. Also, as a teacher, you are lucky enough to have Christmas break and Spring break. Maternity leave can be lengthened by these vacation times too. Start trying now!

j&j508 · February 2010

I hope it works out for you, but for most of us, it hasn't. Knowing what I know now, I wish we would have started a year ago. My charts looked great, regular cycles, was ovulating, etc. and we're still having trouble...

Good luck to you!

maybebabysawyer11 · February 2010

Thanks for all the advice. I called today to set up a pre-conception check-up but couldn't get in until April 12th, so I guess we will wait it on on TTC until after that appointment.

MaybeBaby2 · February 2010

mchupie:
It can take the average healthy couple up to a year. We have been trying for 6 months, no luck yet.

I would start trying now. There's no way you can plan to get pregnant exactly when you want. Good luck!

ETA: I would really recommend charting to get to know if/when you ovulate. It can help you time sex appropriately. You can get to Fertility Friend by clicking on any of our chart tickers.

This. Definitely chart. You can start charting before your "pre-conception" check up (which isn't needed BTW, unless you have known medical issues). GL.

jiffy-pop · February 2010

You could get pregnant the first month you try or it could take a lot longer. This is our 6th cycle trying. Go off BC now so that your periods will regulate before you try. Sometimes it takes a few cycles to get straightened out especially if you've been on BC a long time. If you need to get pregnant within a certain timeframe, start charting now so that you will get a sense of what part of the month you ovulate. While you're off BC but still not trying, you need to chart so you can avoid having sex during ovulation.

jiffy-pop · February 2010

heatherandscottsawyer:
Thanks for all the advice. I called today to set up a pre-conception check-up but couldn't get in until April 12th, so I guess we will wait it on on TTC until after that appointment.

Going for a pre-TTC check up is fine but they won't tell you much. They won't do fertility testing unless you've tried for at least a year with no luck. For this appt, you'll go over what kind of Prenatal vitamins to take and that's about it.

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