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Thanks Universe! You're swell.

grr_aarghgrr_aargh member
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So I posted to FB that my heart hurt yesterday.  My dad asked for an explanation.  I said my buddy's Dad died, it was the anniv of our BFP that started it all, and I had other friends in pain.  Dad's reply?  "Aww. It's never easy to say goodbye. My best to Jessie".

Not. a. word. about our losses, how hard this year might have been for us, or whatever.  Not a single STINKING WORD!!  Nary an insincere internet hug. WTF?

THEN tonight I went to see Valentines Day with a buddy (it sucked, btw).  Who sat next to me?  A 19 YO FH about to burst with child.  :(  AND THEN A PREVIEW FOR THAT STUPID LOUSY BABY MOVIE CAME ON.

Blargh. 

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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    That sucks.  People suck.  I'm so sorry.

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  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member

    Playing dad's advocate here...might he have been referring to saying goodbye both in relation to your friend's father and to your babies?

    Also, I knew it was a good thing that I haven't been to a movie theater in 10 years.

    Pretty bittersweet weekend around here too, huh? 

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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member
    imageBBHME:

    Playing dad's advocate here...might he have been referring to saying goodbye both in relation to your friend's father and to your babies?

    Also, I knew it was a good thing that I haven't been to a movie theater in 10 years.

    Pretty bittersweet weekend around here too, huh? 

    No lie man.  Sniffles. 

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  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member
    imagegrr_aargh:
    imageBBHME:

    Playing dad's advocate here...might he have been referring to saying goodbye both in relation to your friend's father and to your babies?

    Also, I knew it was a good thing that I haven't been to a movie theater in 10 years.

    Pretty bittersweet weekend around here too, huh? 

    No lie man.  Sniffles. 

    Hey, you and I have to talk about NK cells.  Right now I'm falling asleep, but sometime soon.  I have unsubstantiated theories. 

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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member
    imageBBHME:
    imagegrr_aargh:
    imageBBHME:

    Playing dad's advocate here...might he have been referring to saying goodbye both in relation to your friend's father and to your babies?

    Also, I knew it was a good thing that I haven't been to a movie theater in 10 years.

    Pretty bittersweet weekend around here too, huh? 

    No lie man.  Sniffles. 

    Hey, you and I have to talk about NK cells.  Right now I'm falling asleep, but sometime soon.  I have unsubstantiated theories. 

    Soon then.  Tomorrow.  Or via PM.  :)  I have a few theories myself. 

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  • ~*BREN*~~*BREN*~ member
    imageBBHME:

    Playing dad's advocate here...might he have been referring to saying goodbye both in relation to your friend's father and to your babies?

    I was wondering the same thing.  Some times I think text is hard to interpret.  Huh?

    Thanks for the heads up on the Valentine's Day movie. I thought maybe I'd want to see it, but not so much now. 

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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    I'm sorry. I hope that he meant that comment for you too. And, sorry about the movie...suck.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • jesmckennajesmckenna member
    The world sucks. ?I'm so sorry you had to deal with this.
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  • schen0510schen0510
    I'm sorry!  ((Hugs))
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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member

    Thanks guys.

    I'd like to think his comment was meant for me as well, but considering his behavior in the past year, I have no doubts in my mind that his omission of support for our losses not only happened, it was intentional.  They've all but told us they don't think we should have more kids. 

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  • jumagirljumagirl

    That sucks.

    I'm really sorry about the anniversary of your bfp - it hurts, a ton, and I just want to give you the biggest hug.   

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Sending hugs. I posted on fb yesterday how I was having a tough time with it being 3 months since our loss and our realtor is due when I was suppose to be and got one response to it. Somedays I wonder why I go on fb anymore.

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    Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10

    BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11

    Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11

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