UGH! I never complain but really..(its long)

christin3580 · February 2010

I told DH I really wanted an hour to myself a day so I could workout.

He looked at me with 2 heads like well dontyou already get it? your just a SAHM.

No I dont get it I am up with DD from 6am til 6pm after 6 I am soo exhausted from bottles , pumping, makinghim lunch and dinner and breakfast and getting him out of the house before 230 and taking care of our child that I dont feel like I can just get on my eliptical and know he will take care of her without me asking.

So I said well should I come tell you that im working out so you know it and you can listen if she cries or what would you prefer? ( he works second shift 3pm-1130pm sometimes 1am but not often) He usually gets up for the day at 11.. he said well just start working out and I will come get her if she cries.. well how will you know if your sleeping that Im working out... Oh i just will dont worry.. really? I dont think that is plausable..

Now hes acting like I am saying he doesnt help.. when in reality yeah he kind of does I know I do more.. because this is my "job" but I would like that blocked hour that I know I have that I can rely on him with out getting out of that work out zone...

UUUUGhhh just a vent I guess.. Im usually not a complainer but this really got to me.. and hes really not a *** so I dont know.. maybe Im just a little sensitve

HeyyRed · February 2010

Pardon me as I give your husband a rather aggressive flick to his balls (virtually speaking) and tell him to suck it up and get with the program.

blushingbrideoct07 · February 2010

I do not think asking for an hour a day to yourself to do as you please is unreasonable at all. ?He is a parent too and its not like you are asking him a lot. ?You are just asking him for one hour a day to sooth his daughter if needed so you can get so you time. How hard is that?!

KrystalD7 · February 2010

Yes, husband needs a throat punch asap.

Ask him if he really wants your asss to look hot still, maybe he will get it then? lol

christin3580 · February 2010

HeyyRed:
Pardon me as I give your husband a rather aggressive flick to his balls (virtually speaking) and tell him to suck it up and get with the program.

Honestly hes usually pretty good I dont why hes taking offense to me asking for an hour.. I think its more he feels I am saying hes not doing anything when thats not particularly the case. KWIM I feel like im kinda all over the board HAHAH

beckytr · February 2010

you are not being unreasonable! i would looove to have an elliptical - that's awesome.

howa0155 · February 2010

Even if SAH is your "job" you still need breaks! Whether it be to eat, pee, shower or workout - you need to have time off. I tell my DH all the time that I would love to get an hour long lunch break M-F...that usually gets him back into shape.

Sorry he is getting on your nerves tonight.

mrsbird1129 · February 2010

I don't think this is unreasonable to ask at all! Even though you stay home, you need time for yourself too. Can you work out while you're home alone with her, sure. But having to be constantly on the look out or listen for her to fuss or need you, doesn't equate to you time. Hopefully he sees that you need this time to unwind and relax. I don't think this is asking to much. I think it's important for both parents to have "me" time. Maybe suggest to dh that he should also take some personal time for what he wants to do to unwind/relax?

christin3580 · February 2010

howa0155:

Even if SAH is your "job" you still need breaks! Whether it be to eat, pee, shower or workout - you need to have time off. I tell my DH all the time that I would love to get an hour long lunch break M-F...that usually gets him back into shape.

Sorry he is getting on your nerves tonight.

LOL thanks for understanding.

DH tonight = poop face

MrsBatty · February 2010

Honestly Christin, I'd march right in there and tell him you are going to workout and to listen for the baby. Sounds like he's just being a whiner. Boo hoo. Tell him to suck it up and give you some time to yourself! Seriously.

sgrl · February 2010

My friend who's a SAHM said that she told her husband that even if he had a bad day at work, at least he doesn't have a boss who screams at him to get back to work while he's trying to take a dump.

That should put it in perspective.

EbethM0231 · February 2010

sgrl:

My friend who's a SAHM said that she told her husband that even if he had a bad day at work, at least he doesn't have a boss who screams at him to get back to work while he's trying to take a dump.

well said Yes

Sweets2005 · February 2010

First of all, your LO is cute!

Second of all, just explain to him that you realize he helps a lot but that you want to make sure you get your workout time in because it makes you feel good and you need it. FWIW, I always tell DH when I am working out so he can respond to the babies. And if they cry, I just call out for DH!

Third of all, just because you stay home does not mean you have to do everything (not saying you do). The man can make his own meals! I only cook 1 meal for DH, dinner for us since he works days. But he makes his own breakfasts and lunches!

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