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Let's talk hair...

kellialaynekellialayne
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I have really long board straight hair.  I'm SO ready for a change but I dont know if cutting it is the best thing to do right before LO comes.  It is so easy to just throw into a ponytail and I wont have to worry about her pulling it.  If I cut it and get bangs like I want it won't be as easy to pull back and I'l have bangs for her to pull. 

Is it ridiculous for me to worry about my hair and her tugging away at it??? 

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  • redprincessredprincess

    It sounds like we have similar hair.  I had bangs about a year ago and I think I loved them, but DH didn't.  I've been thinking about getting bangs again, that way it least I look a little "done" when I pull my hair back in a ponytail. 

    As I'm sure you can relate - my hair is so amazing right now, but will all fall out after I don't have these hormones anymore.  I hate to cut it, but will I have time (or will to) after he's born?

    I guess your issues are more relevant, I'm being a bit vain.

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  • hollybabehollybabe member
    She won't be able to grasp and pull your hair for about four months, so you've got time to think it over.  I say go for the style you want and don't worry about the pulling part.  Sounds cute!  Wish I could pull off bangs w/o looking 12 years old!
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  • Sarah343Sarah343 member
    I don't know...I held a baby last week that was 4 weeks old and she pulled my hair the entire time. My hair wasn't this long with my DD and I hadn't really thought about cutting it. But, after last weekend, I decided to get it cut. I am going in this morning to cut a few inches off because there is definitely not time once you have the baby. I get my hair cut once every 6 months, if I am lucky.
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  • jknallenjknallen member
    we have the same hair.  I woudl cut it but only cut it enough to still be able to put it up.  You will want to put it up.  I got mine cut a couple weeks ago bc it was really long.  It is just past my shoulders now and I can still put it up to get it out of the way.  Babies can pull hair from day one.  My DS grabbed a pen out of a nurses pocket and wouldnt let go when he was 1 day old.  But it is more for comfort than pulling I would say.
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  • buckeyekibuckeyeki member

    I've heard the worst time to change your hairstyle is right before the baby.  I think the main reason was that women typically go shorter and can't put it back as easily but also if you're like me, your hair is probably much thicker right now and that will probably change soon after the baby is born (I've heard it can fall out in clumps).  So your style wouldn't look the same.  If you do make a change, I would just keep it simple.  Definitely something you could still easily put up. 

    I'm actually looking forward to my hair thinning out a bit at this point.  I love having thicker hair but since I've never had this I've got no idea how to control it with the style I've got right now!

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  • sdtchica13sdtchica13 member

    imageSarah343:
    I don't know...I held a baby last week that was 4 weeks old and she pulled my hair the entire time. My hair wasn't this long with my DD and I hadn't really thought about cutting it. But, after last weekend, I decided to get it cut. I am going in this morning to cut a few inches off because there is definitely not time once you have the baby. I get my hair cut once every 6 months, if I am lucky.

    Maybe I am being REALLY naive, and this is my first baby so I may be way off base, but are you seriously telling me that once you have a baby you dont have an hour or two to run out and get a haircut? I have a husband, and he helped considerably in making LO in the first place, is he not capable of watching her for a little while so I can groom myself? I am planning to pump rather than breastfeed, so I assume that would help a bit cause I wouldn't have to rush back in time for a feeding, but am I nuts for thinking that I will be able to do "me" things here and there after LO is born?

    Don't get me wrong, I know that "me" things will not be a top priority and obviously LO always comes first (I wouldn't have wanted to get PG in the first place if I didn't feel that way), but I assumed two responsible adults could manage to find time for an occasional haircut. (God, I hope so, because DH starts to look a little deranged if he doesn't get a haircut every month or so...not a good look for an attorney, lol).

    Is it crazy to think that I will be able to do little things like a haircut or manicure when I have a supportive husband who is great with babies? (Please no flames, I know everyone's home situation is different, I am just slightly freaked by the prospect of literally never having an hour to do something for myself...I honestly believe that DH and I would be able to share responsibility for LO since we are both really excited for her arrival!)

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  • UrbanLe1UrbanLe1 member
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    Maybe I am being REALLY naive, and this is my first baby so I may be way off base, but are you seriously telling me that once you have a baby you dont have an hour or two to run out and get a haircut? I have a husband, and he helped considerably in making LO in the first place, is he not capable of watching her for a little while so I can groom myself? I am planning to pump rather than breastfeed, so I assume that would help a bit cause I wouldn't have to rush back in time for a feeding, but am I nuts for thinking that I will be able to do "me" things here and there after LO is born?

    Don't get me wrong, I know that "me" things will not be a top priority and obviously LO always comes first (I wouldn't have wanted to get PG in the first place if I didn't feel that way), but I assumed two responsible adults could manage to find time for an occasional haircut. (God, I hope so, because DH starts to look a little deranged if he doesn't get a haircut every month or so...not a good look for an attorney, lol).

    Is it crazy to think that I will be able to do little things like a haircut or manicure when I have a supportive husband who is great with babies? (Please no flames, I know everyone's home situation is different, I am just slightly freaked by the prospect of literally never having an hour to do something for myself...I honestly believe that DH and I would be able to share responsibility for LO since we are both really excited for her arrival!)

     Whoa, honey, chill out.  You're going to be fine.  You'll be able to get your hair and nails done, and maybe even occasionally see a movie.

    But you can''t expect your life not to be disrupted.  The fact remains that in the first few months, even IF you had the time--all you might want to do is sleep.  Or take some time to see a friend.  Or spend some time with DH, just you and him.  Compared to all of those things, getting your hair cut might not seem like a priority.

    And, in the first few months, if you're pumping instead of EBF-ing, you're going to be pumping all the time.  ALL the time.  Like, a 15-20 minute pumping session followed immediately by a 20 minute feeding session.  That's almost an hour.  And then you'll be starting that over again, 2 hours later, because babies eat every 3 hours at first.  You need to be realistic about what your schedule is going to be like at first. 

    I know moms who haven't had a single problem with transitioning, whether DH is super supportive or not.  I know moms with the most amazing husbands in the world, and it was all they could do to get some laundry done in the first 4 months.  You don't have any idea how this is going to go.  You're super lucky to have such a great DH--use him.  But just don't take anything--especially time--for granted. 

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  • mochabride29mochabride29

    I'm a little late on this and I'm usually a lurker, but I had to chime in...

    I have a month old daughter and I make sure that I take time for myself on a daily basis.  I PURPOSELY cut my hair after my DD was born to make sure that I would take time for myself EVERYDAY.   I went from having a short bob to a Halle Berry cut.  Granted, I've had short hair since I was 17, it was something I wanted to do.  Also, I felt I needed a new look after DD was born.

    My advice is make sure that you TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.  Granted you may have a crazy schedule, but I'll give you the advice my mama told me, "Don't neglect yourself".  If you want to cut your hair, cool.  Just talk to your stylist and get a versatile cut that you can work with a busy lifestyle.

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  • sdtchica13sdtchica13 member
    imageUrbanLe0:
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    Maybe I am being REALLY naive, and this is my first baby so I may be way off base, but are you seriously telling me that once you have a baby you dont have an hour or two to run out and get a haircut? I have a husband, and he helped considerably in making LO in the first place, is he not capable of watching her for a little while so I can groom myself? I am planning to pump rather than breastfeed, so I assume that would help a bit cause I wouldn't have to rush back in time for a feeding, but am I nuts for thinking that I will be able to do "me" things here and there after LO is born?

    Don't get me wrong, I know that "me" things will not be a top priority and obviously LO always comes first (I wouldn't have wanted to get PG in the first place if I didn't feel that way), but I assumed two responsible adults could manage to find time for an occasional haircut. (God, I hope so, because DH starts to look a little deranged if he doesn't get a haircut every month or so...not a good look for an attorney, lol).

    Is it crazy to think that I will be able to do little things like a haircut or manicure when I have a supportive husband who is great with babies? (Please no flames, I know everyone's home situation is different, I am just slightly freaked by the prospect of literally never having an hour to do something for myself...I honestly believe that DH and I would be able to share responsibility for LO since we are both really excited for her arrival!)

     Whoa, honey, chill out.  You're going to be fine.  You'll be able to get your hair and nails done, and maybe even occasionally see a movie.

    But you can''t expect your life not to be disrupted.  The fact remains that in the first few months, even IF you had the time--all you might want to do is sleep.  Or take some time to see a friend.  Or spend some time with DH, just you and him.  Compared to all of those things, getting your hair cut might not seem like a priority.

    And, in the first few months, if you're pumping instead of EBF-ing, you're going to be pumping all the time.  ALL the time.  Like, a 15-20 minute pumping session followed immediately by a 20 minute feeding session.  That's almost an hour.  And then you'll be starting that over again, 2 hours later, because babies eat every 3 hours at first.  You need to be realistic about what your schedule is going to be like at first. 

    I know moms who haven't had a single problem with transitioning, whether DH is super supportive or not.  I know moms with the most amazing husbands in the world, and it was all they could do to get some laundry done in the first 4 months.  You don't have any idea how this is going to go.  You're super lucky to have such a great DH--use him.  But just don't take anything--especially time--for granted. 

    LOL, thanks for talking me off the ledge, hehe! I am definitely trying realistic about my new baby schedule, which is huge for me cause I am REALLY anal about being on a strict schedule with everything and I KNOW thats not going to happen with a newborn. I just feel like it's all about time management and if you are organized to begin with, there should be no reason why you can't manage to make a little time for yourself even with a new baby.

    As for pumping, I had no idea it would be constant, I figured it would be every few hours! I have a few friends who only pumped, and none of them seemed chained to their pumps all day...they would pump and then go about their business. I am sure it has a lot to do with your milk supply too though...it would seem to me that if you produce a lot at once, you can refrigerate or freeze it and not be permanently attached to your pump, so that will play a big role in how much time you spend pumping! 

    I totally agree about using DH a lot...it took two of us to make a baby, ergo it will take two of us to raise her! I am also going back to work in a little under 4 months after LO is born, so we need to get into a rhythm together right away since most duties will be equally shared once I am back at the office. 

    Like I said, I may be really naive since its my first, but I am trying to look at tis from a logical standpoint. Thanks again!

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