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The dreaded day is coming and I am so sad

I go back to work March 1st and am having severe anxiety about leaving LO. I totaly trust who will be watching her but I am so afraid she will be upset with me. We have spent everyday together since she was born. We have a routine and I play and talk with her all day long and read her books. Now she is going to an in home daycare where she will most likely not get near as much one on one attention like I give her. I feel absolutely sick to my stomach thinking about it. I knwo there is nothing I can do. We can't afford for me to stay home. It just makes me so sad. Someone tell me it will get easier :(
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Re: The dreaded day is coming and I am so sad

  • It will get easier.

    But before it does, it will really suck. Leaving DD at daycare on my first day back was the hardest thing I have ever done. I cried on the way there, I cried when we left her, and I cried at work while putting her pictures up all over my desk.  

    Now it's okay though. I still miss her terribly, but it's not nearly as hard.  Just enjoy the time you have for the next couple weeks and try not to worry too much!

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  • I go back to work March 1st too. I feel your pain and it sux!! I'm glad that my mom and grandma will be watching my LO in my home. But I dread having to walk out the door and leave him here at home while I go off to work.
  • I'm actually looking forward to daycare in a strange way.  Don't get me wrong, I love being at home with my daughter.  Even despite the sleep deprivation, missed/skipped meals, sore nipples, colic, and everything else,  I love taking care of her. 

    But in a way, I'm looking forward to broadening her horizons at daycare, too.  Maybe part of it is because she will be at a fantastic facility that is close to our house ... a Goddard School. And I know is that I'm not a good teacher, and I think I'm comforted at the thought that she will be taken care of  by a professional with a degree and experience in early childhood education.  That LO's learning will continue, possibly even better than it would be at home. 

    Even though I know she's an infant, and she wouldn't really be 'learning' anything at daycare, at least not at first, I do believe that she wants to learn, (she's very inquisitive), and she may learn better from someone who is trained in the field, instead of mommy, who has to go to the bump or open one of the many parenting books that she ahs to figure out what comes next on the learning curve.

    Like I said, in a strange way, I'm looking forward to daycare, but I'm not necessarily looking forward to being away from LO.

  • I still have 9 weeks and I'm alreay dreading it. I cry whenever I think about leaving ds at daycare.
  • Yup. :( I go back March 4th (picked mid week start to avoid an entire week right off the bat away from baby). :(  I just stopped pumping so that I can spend more time with Sabrina before this happens.  I cant stop thinking about it either. I know I have to put on my big girl panties and just do it but I'm just so upset about it.
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  • It will get easier - the first week is very hard.  Plan some days off when you get back to work to look forward to - even if they are a few months out there. 
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  • I feel your pain.  I go back 2/22 and not looking forward to it.  BUT women do this everyday and if they can do it, I can do it.  I HAVE to go back though at least for 2 weeks.  If I don't come back from leave I have to pay back all my insurance premiums paid by my work.........gay, I know.  So I'll stick it out for a few weeks and if I don't like it I may decide to stay home.
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  • It does get easier, and there will be different benefits for DD from going to an in-home daycare. She will be exposed to kids older than her (and probably younger than her in awhile), and learn how to interact with kids. DS became really good friends with our DCP's kids, and the boy that she watched who was younger than him really helped prepare him for DD.
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    If I don't come back from leave I have to pay back all my insurance premiums paid by my work.........gay, I know. 

    Seriously?!

     

    OP - I went back this Wed. DS starts daycare 3/1 so W and H he was with my girlfriends then F with DH. Honestly - I love being BTW. Tues I was pissed off and freaked out to go back, but I am a better Mom with adult conversation and alone time! DS gets crabby about 1.5-2h before I get him, but he's consolable and is just not used to bottles all day.

    It'll be okay, I promise!!

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  • Im right there with you...back on March 1st and dreading it! :(  I'm so nervous about how in the world I will be able to balance everything.  LO is staying in our home for care at least until next September, and that's comforting....but I still worry that he will be sad, forget I'm his mom, or just not be cared for the way I would do it.  I have major anxiety going on...you are not alone!
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  • I guess we are ll in the same boat. I guess if other moms can get through it we will too. I just want to continue to cuddle her and play with her all day. My DH has always said if he ever make enough to support us I can stay home, so I guess I can always hope one day that will happen! 
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  • I go back the same day and I'm dreading it too! It's the worst feeling. ?:(
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