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Nice gesture? WWYD

kg_08kg_08 member
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DH's cousin just sent me a message on FB saying that once we find out what we're having, she would love to come help us paint the nursery and paint a mural on the wall. Very nice right? Well the thing is, I would love the help... but what happens if we let her paint a mural and it ends up looking like total crap? Indifferent I really appreciate her offer because she wants to do something nice for the baby,  but if we don't like it we would be stuck with it forever.
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  • KatieLWKatieLW
    Ooh, that's a tough one.... Have you seen any other murals/painting she's done? You could talk to her about a theme you had in mind and what you might like and let her go for it.... Or you could just tell her how nice the offer is but that you had a theme in mind for the room and are just going to go with that....
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  • amiseripamiserip member

    Haha!  I totally understand!  When we bought our first house, we toyed with the idea of letting family/friends help us paint rooms by having a painting party.  But then we thought, what about the ones that are not as neat as we would like them to be!  So we nixed the whole idea.

    Just tell her you don't think you like murals!

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  • MTClaireMTClaire member
    have her draw up a draft on paper of what she wants to put on the wall, then you can say what you like or don't like and give your input before she puts the final version on the wall.  plus, seeing her do a draft will give you an idea of whether she's any good at it or not, and if you don't like it, you can always say you decided to skip the mural because you want something you can keep for when baby is a little older. 
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  • H4'sFanH4'sFan

    Thank her, and then tell her you would love to have her help painting the room, but having a mural is just not what you invisioned for your nursery.


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  • BeckyTheEngineerBeckyTheEngineer

    What were you planning on doing before she offered?  Painting the walls? Painting a mural yourself?  If you weren't doing any of this, just tell her.  If you were just going to paint, maybe she could help with just that.  If you're concerned about how a mural would look, I would want to be there during the process, to quality check.

     

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  • kg_08kg_08 member

    imageMTClaire:
    have her draw up a draft on paper of what she wants to put on the wall, then you can say what you like or don't like and give your input before she puts the final version on the wall.  plus, seeing her do a draft will give you an idea of whether she's any good at it or not, and if you don't like it, you can always say you decided to skip the mural because you want something you can keep for when baby is a little older. 

    Thanks guys! You have such great ideas, I knew you would know what to do. lol... it's true, we do want the rooms to "grow" with out kids so a mural wouldn't work for later on. BRILLIANT! haha

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  • PlainandTallPlainandTall member

    I'm an artist... and the flipside of your question is... what if we LOVE it and it turns out beautiful... we would ALSO be stuck with it forever.

    Repainting is something you are going to want to do eventually... If your friend is an artsy person and she wants to contribute her time and talent- why don't you see if you could encourage her to put the art on something other than the painted walls... either a framed panel/canvas... a piece of furniture- like a child's step stool or lamp... or perhaps a large panel alternative like a large japanese screen.  You can shape her request in a way that will suit you better- but won't hurt her feelings.

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  • micaelasmakeupmicaelasmakeup member

    Tell her you are trying to keep the room neutral so LO can grow with it but that you would love love a canvas panting to hang on the wall!






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  • Mrsalt027Mrsalt027 member
    I hate being put in this type of situation. SIL does this to me all the time. While I know it comes from a totally good place, most of the time you don't really want to do it and it makes you look bad if you turn it down...
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  • MKinney86MKinney86
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    imagekg_08:
    DH's cousin just sent me a message on FB saying that once we find out what we're having, she would love to come help us paint the nursery and paint a mural on the wall. Very nice right? Well the thing is, I would love the help... but what happens if we let her paint a mural and it ends up looking like total crap? Indifferent I really appreciate her offer because she wants to do something nice for the baby,  but if we don't like it we would be stuck with it forever.

    I would let her do it and if it looks like ass just pain over it later on, hahaha. You can lie and say you had a water pipe leak in the wall and had to have the drywall repaired and re-painted... damnthe luck! hahaha

    This! haha

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