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Jibbelle
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Someone talk me off the ledge!
Jibbelle
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My parents have been visiting since Sunday (they live 900 miles away) and my mom is just about to send me over the edge!!!
I thought having them here would be a huge help, but it is a HUGE nightmare instead! My dad is just dad....very mellow, scared to break the baby, just hangs out and stays out of the way...doesnt cause any trouble. Gotta love him.
Mom....*sigh*
She only holds the baby when he is happy. Which means I only get to hold him when he is screaming and needs to be calmed down. Then as soon as he is a happy baby again, she bitches and moans until I hand him over. It is not fun when you only get to spend time with a fussy baby and never a good baby!
She is NONSTOP telling me how to do things with the baby. As if we have not been with him for 2+ weeks before her...and know him a bit better than she does.
She hasnt lifted a finger to help with any of the cooking...and she brought a freaking turkey out here. So yesterday I had to cook a mini-thanksgiving dinner (on 3 hours sleep!). I am soooo tired of cooking meals (3 a day)...tonight I am not making anything. If anyone wants to eat they can order out. I am having PB&J.
I dont expect my parents to help with baby stuff, like changing diapers or washing bottles...although it would be nice!
But at least put your freaking breakfast dishes in the dishwasher! or wash the coffee pot when you are done (DH and I NEVER drink coffee). And quit leaving a trail of destruction through my house. I am tired of cleaning up after you!!!
*whew* with that said...I feel a bit better 
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Re: Someone talk me off the ledge!
I think you need to say something. There is no way in He!! I would cook and clean for myself when I have a two week old, never mind guests. I would just stop cooking. If they want to eat, they'll get the hint that they either need to cook or go out to get something. My SIL brought her husband AND two kids to visit for 2 hours when LO was a week old. Granted they brought a pizza, but there is no way she was going to dirty plates for me, even if we do have a dishwasher. When she started taking real plates out to eat it on, I stood my ground and made her use the paper plates from the closet.
Sometimes their version of help is very much different from what we envisioned.?
I was lucky that when my mom came, she didn't want to stop cleaning, cooking, holding the baby, taking the night feedings.... It was really great. DH was annoyed beyond belief (he likes to be left alone and my mom likes to be up in everyone's business haha) but it was nice having her here.
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Maybe ask very nicely for her to do a small task or two. Like while you're cooking say something like "hey! it would be awesome if you fed the baby while i do this? you can even feed the baby in the kitchen so we can chat!" Kill her with kindness and make her tasks seem like a really fun/nice/grandmotherly thing to do.
My MIL is very hands off... so when I ask her to do anything afterwards she tells me she was so grateful and really enjoyed it.
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It'll be over soon. We have all been there. It'll really make you relish the moments you have alone with baby... I love taking her out for a coffee run, just us, and then coming home and holding her in the carrier while I dance around and sip the coffee. its our little morning time. Which has been ruined by this snow!!!!! haha
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hope i was at least a bit helpful!! xoxoxo?
I feel bad saying anything, but it is stressing me out beyond belief, so I guess I need to!
or just tough it out a couple more days...they leave saturday!
This is why I refuse to have houseguests. It's too overwhelming to have to take care of any more people other than your baby! My LO is 6 weeks old and I've only made dinner twice since he was born!
My MIL brought dinner over every night for 3 weeks and then we started going to her house. If we don't do that - we order out! I'm just getting back into the swing of cooking/cleaning now!