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ScissorTailedFlycatcher
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I can understand why a mom would shake her baby
ScissorTailedFlycatcher
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I don't mean that I condone it or that I would do it, but I can absolutely see why a mother would shake her baby.
DD has been battling severe reflux for about 4 weeks now. She's on 2 medications and a special formula and she's still having issues.
Last night, she woke herself up vomiting. I would try and console her, change her diaper, anything...
This morning, she was inconsolable. She wailed nonstop for about 20 minutes. The only thing that would console her was me speed walking in circles in our living room. After only getting about an hour and a half of sleep, I was at my wit's end.
Of course I didn't shake her, and I never would, but I'm going crazy. DH let me sleep from 8 to 11:30. The only reason why I woke up was because I heard her screaming. She was fine for the 3 hours with him, but as soon as I woke up, she was screaming again.
I'm so lucky to have him here, but he is just as frustrated as I am.
If she ends up with colic, I may need to be admitted. ?
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Re: I can understand why a mom would shake her baby
I am so sorry Darby isn't feeling better. That was me last night. DH worked til about 12:30 and Jackson was fussy and hungry every 2 hours and I didn't know what to do. Finally DH came home with some rice cereal and we put 1/4 tsp in Jackson's bottles and he slept for 4 hours! I'm about to pass out again, b/c in my world only getting 3 hours here and there stinks!!
Hope Darby gets to feeling better - - for her sake and yours!
Oh yes, she has had Mylicon at nearly every feeding for the last month. ?
You may have already tried this, but my doc suggested giving the Mylicon right before the feeding instead of after.
((hugs)) to you. I know exactly what you mean. I would never shake my baby but have been on the edge before where I thought I know why people do it. I had to remind myself shaking will not make him stop crying, it isn't a solution.
Just walk away. Remind yourself that you are the adult and you know better. She can't walk away from you.
Yep. The problem is mainly her reflux, and Mylicon won't do anything to help that.
On top of all of that, I'm predicting that she gets constipated in the next day or so. She's on a formula with rice cereal (so it's thicker to start) and on an anti-vomiting med called Reglan. If Reglan is anything like Zofran, which has a side-effect of constipation, I'm screwed.?
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I COMPLETELY understand! My LO has reflux and struggled with feeding issues for the first 3 months. I wanted to lose it so many times but then when she was 2 months old, my friends 4 month old died of SIDS. I was at a loss and struggled greatly with my friends loss. Because of that it really put into perspective how lucky I was even with a colicky baby! From that point on it was easier for me to get through those long nights and days. I would just hold her and tell her over and over how much I loved her! I didn't mind hearing her cry as much, because I was just thankful she was here with me.
But again I do understand and send hugs for you!! It gets better!!
Shorty--hang in there babe. I highly recommend margaritas in moments of sheer hell. We're an hour away from you. Throw her in the car and head to Elkhart and I'll have a jug waiting for ya! Plenty of cribs and places to sleep here at the house!
Eli's colic has been the worst. There's nothing like it. I didn't go through anything like that with Samuel--ANYTHING. He's 11 weeks now and it's better, finally.
When she gets to screaming on your a lot, have you tried any of the Happiest Baby on the Block techniques? Eli responds very well to swaddling and white noise (fans or the vacuum cleaner).
I'm so sorry! I know exactly how you feel. Leo had reflux and colic and it was like a nightmare - I have said the same thing to DH about understanding why people do it.
I know it's hard to believe right now, but it will get better, and before you know it this difficult time will be a distant memory that you use to horrify your pregnant friends
((HUGS)) I really hope your poor baby starts feeling better soon and you get a break!
Ditto. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that, Shorty!
Last night my DD was "fussy" and cluster nursing from 1am until 4am and I was exhausted after dealing with my 3 year old. I started crying uncontrollably, DH tried to console me but I just felt so defeated and exhausted.
I remember locking myself in the bathroom when DD #1 was a newborn and she cried for almost an hour non stop.
I do HIGHLY recommend reading the Happiest Baby on the Block.
I'll admit, I've been lucky and have a "easy" baby, but don't get me wrong, he has his moments, and I agree. I totally see why a mother would do it, but don't, in anyway, approve. Last night was one of those moments, We had gotten to bed late and Koen had been sleeping for a couple hours before that, so he woke up earlier then normal, which was less then a couple hours after I had fallen asleep. He has a terrible time with gas at night. So I woke up to him crying, so I giggle like I normally do(making fun of his fussing is what keeps me sane right now, I know it sounds wrong, but it keeps me from getting frustrated and depressed) and took him to go change him. We return to the bedroom and I am hushing him and rocking him as I crawl back into bed with him, and grab the nursing pillow.
We got a horribly PAINFUL latch on my left nipple(which is still trying to recover from a previous night's bad latch) so he is now SCREAMING so I try and latch him on the other nipple and he is so frustrated he unlatches himself and starts wailing on the top of his lungs again. So here I am, exhausted and sobbing because my nipple hurts and I can't console LO, so I sit him up and start bouncing him on the nursing pillow, which calms him down, but every time I tried to look at my nipple to see the damage, he'd start wailing again. DH woke up for a sec to use the bathroom(DH is a HEAVY sleeper, none of this even stirred him) so I stole the moment and had DH stand and rock him so I got the chance to access the situation and proceed by re-latching him to the hurt nipple, but properly. lol
As someone with a reflux baby, I feel ya! It sucks to have them crying and you can't do anything for them and they are in such pain. At times I will admit to putting her in her crib and walking away for 5 minutes of downtime. Do what you need to do...unless someone has had a reflux baby they have NO clue. Now that I have made some adjustments, we are finally getting some relief. There is light at the end of the tunnel and through a TON of research, I have found out that different things work for different kids. For what it's worth here's what we did:
1. Through a lot of research I have found out most reflux babes are undermedicated. Luckily I have an agressive ped and we are now on 15 mg of Previacid twice a day. My baby is 9 weeks old and weighs 10.8 lbs. It seems like a lot of medicine,but babies metablize meds way faster than we do, so you might be under medicating the baby. Check out Marcikids.org for more info.
2. Learn how to give the meds to be most effective. My ped never told me Previacid has to be given on an empty tummy. I learned it on my own from other reflux moms, now we give the solutab at least 2-3 hours after a meal and at least 30 minutes before.
3. Stomach sleeping. I know, I know back is best. BUT reflux babies do way better on their bellies. I bought an angelcare monitor to help elimate the SIDS worry and she is much much happier.
4. AR formula. I use the Enfamil AR, it is supposed to be better than adding the cereal to other formulas...I don't know if this is true but it works and my baby is no longer refusing the bottle and burping like a grown man.
5. Constipation. The AR and the meds can lead to this. I would rather battle this than the reflux, so per the ped we give 1/2 tsp. milk of mag. She is getting more regular, so hopefully we can eliminate this soon.
Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.
Good Luck!