DH wants to take me to dinner w/o DS

aocain02@yahoo.com · February 2010

I overheard my hubby talking to his mom about how he wants to take me out to dinner and if she'd watch our baby, which I think he is trying to surprise me. Well, yesterday I left the house for 30 minutes to go buy some bras without DS and felt sick to my stomach the whole time. I couldn't imagine even enjoying dinner right now without him. I'm EBF and would feel horrible if my baby woke up hungry while we were at dinner, plus I have some issues with the way it is when my FIL is over. Would you feel comfortable leaving a 2 week old with your parents? This is my first baby.

Liss_37 · February 2010

I still haven't left DS with anyone except DH, and I've only done that a handful of times. I would just get so anxious at the thought.

that being said, I'm getting to the point where I feel like DH and I really need some couple time. We will probably be asking the IL's to wach DS in the next week or so so we can go out for supper.

Philsbride2be · February 2010

i would give it a shot, you can stay local and dcome home right away. it might be a nice break.

JenLHamby · February 2010

Alot of people do, but you have to decide what you are comfortable with. I've only left DD twice and each time was for less than 10 minutes. I'm having a hard time leaving her for longer than that, but I really have to get over that since I go back to work March 1st. Leaving her with someone you are the most comfortable will be the best option the first time. If you feel more comfortable with someone else, I would use them at least the first time. GL!

kellmo · February 2010

Yes I feel comfortable w/ my parents. My ds was born 12/22 and we went for dinner on new years eve. I missed ds but it was nice to be alone w/ my dh. I still love spending time w/ my dh. It's so good for our relationship. You won't be gone long. Go enjoy your time w/ dh and celebrate your love!

redhotchili83 · February 2010

Maybe we're not the norm, but we left Kai with my MIL when he was 5 days old to go to dinner. At the time, I was EBF, so we jsut went to the place across the street and were back in an hour.

NMW76 · February 2010

We left DD with my parents at 11 days old. DH surprised me with tickets to Mama Mi. It was hard and I was ready to nurse as soon as I got home. I was anxious the whole time, but it did help me get over my fear of leaving her. Also I would not have left her with anyone but my parents.

itkatydid@gmail.com · February 2010

kellmo:
Yes I feel comfortable w/ my parents. My ds was born 12/22 and we went for dinner on new years eve. I missed ds but it was nice to be alone w/ my dh. I still love spending time w/ my dh. It's so good for our relationship. You won't be gone long. Go enjoy your time w/ dh and celebrate your love!

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ChefHeather82 · February 2010

My parents? Yes. His parents? NO.

We left DS with my parents when he was 2wks- just to run to BRU and Target for a couple of hours. It was fine! Just go somewhere nearby and take a cell phone.

aocain02@yahoo.com · February 2010

Thanks. Maybe I'm just being neurotic. I would feel a lot more comfortable leaving him with my parents since this is the 4th grandchild and they know what they are doing. My MIL is great, it's my FIL that worries me.

kellmo · February 2010

ALG29:
Thanks. Maybe I'm just being neurotic. I would feel a lot more comfortable leaving him with my parents since this is the 4th grandchild and they know what they are doing. My MIL is great, it's my FIL that worries me.

What is it about your FIL? My FIL is no good w/ babies so he lets his wife (MIL) do all the work w/ their grandkids when they r babies.

aocain02@yahoo.com · February 2010

kellmo:
ALG29:
Thanks. Maybe I'm just being neurotic. I would feel a lot more comfortable leaving him with my parents since this is the 4th grandchild and they know what they are doing. My MIL is great, it's my FIL that worries me.
What is it about your FIL? My FIL is no good w/ babies so he lets his wife (MIL) do all the work w/ their grandkids when they r babies.

Last time they were over I went to take a nap, came back and the front window was wide open and the room was pretty chilly. I shut the window and he made a comment how he was hot. I wanted to tell him probably because he weighs 300 lbs but my baby is only 7 lbs and a week old. A couple days later they were back over and my DH and FIL went to pick up dinner. While they were out me and my MIL discovered how interested my son is with the mobile in his crib. Sure enough, once I went to go lay down FIL woke the baby up so he could see him laying in the crib watching the mobile. Needless to say my nap was cut short. He just seems to think of himself only and it's always been that way.

naflmj · February 2010

I left DS with my mom when he was a week because I needed to go to the doctor and it is close to her house. At a week he also hung out with my IL's (MIL was a NICU nurse so I wasn't concerned) while DH ran to home depot and I went to get his pnp that was shipped to the wrong address. Neother time was I away long enough for him to miss feeding but I had no issue leaving him. My SIL is watching him next weekend, he'll be 1 mo, and I am a little nervous but we have a company obligation. She used to nanny a newborn and DS will take a bottle of breastmilk, but it will be weird. Bottom line, I would never leave him with someone you aren't comfortable with.

MrsRebecca · February 2010

We left DS with my mom today to go to Target and I felt the same way. And we were only gone for a half hour. I don't think I could do dinner out just yet.

Jen&Louie · February 2010

At two weeks and EBF? No, I absolutely would not have felt comfortable.

Lariah14 · February 2010

Jen&Louie:
At two weeks and EBF? No, I absolutely would not have felt comfortable.

This. I left DS w/ my parents when DS was 7w to go see Avatar. I came out twice to call them bc I missed DS so much! I totally trust my parents (They raised 6 kids and my dad is an MD) so I wasn't worried about anything going wrong, but I wouldn't leave DS w/ anyone else right now, even my IL's. I have gone out for a bit and left him with DH, and that I'm totally ok with.

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