preg w multiples and in a wedding..

marbear81 · February 2010

so I am 6 mo along and feel as big as a house! I've gained 30 lbs to date (eek) anyway.. I am the matron of honor in a friends wedding.. she will be getting married this November... the bride to be and a couple of the girls are supposed to go dress shopping this week.. the plan was to look at different styles in person and the girls were going to try some on.. the bride to be now wants me to try the dresses on as well!!! I said I would if they had a maternity version of the style she liked.. if not, I don't see myself fitting in a dress.. and she said "just get a bigger size".... It may be my hormones.. but I'm a little annoyed! I know I'm the matron of honor but I feel like I'm doing my part by being there and offering my opinion/helping her find the dress for the bridal party that she loves.. but to ask me to squeeze into dresses when I can barely get dressed in my own clothes without being out of breath, etc is a little much if you ask me.. especially since there will be other girls there to try it on.... what would you think? am I just overreacting? I told her I'd try my best since I didn't want to disappoint her. . .

KatieLW · February 2010

I'd probably be annoyed as well. The wedding isn't until November. Why make you go through trying on dresses now when you won't be pregnant then (and you'll have some time to lose some of the weight before then)? I don't really see the point in that. So you're due in May? You'll have time to get some of the baby weight off. I'd just order whatever she picks out in maybe 2 sizes bigger than you normally wear, then depending on how much you lose you could get it taken in? I bet they could help decide at the store as well...

LMK8605 · February 2010

I don't think you are overreacting - all of us have been there (with the feeling huge thing). I would just go and not try stuff on... probably once you get there nobody will say anything about it. You don't even have to mention it just stand back and act like you are having a great time observing (even if your not) and don't offer to try anything on. Once people see the dresses nobody will say anything to you... if they do make a joke, they will get the point.

GL hope you are able to enjoy it

LMK8605 · February 2010

I don't think you are overreacting - all of us have been there (with the feeling huge thing). I would just go and not try stuff on... probably once you get there nobody will say anything about it. You don't even have to mention it just stand back and act like you are having a great time observing (even if your not) and don't offer to try anything on. Once people see the dresses nobody will say anything to you... if they do make a joke, they will get the point.

GL hope you are able to enjoy it

dmbfan22 · February 2010

You are not overreacting. I would go offer my support and opinion but not try on a dress. If you friend really thinks about it she will realize there is no need for you to try on a dress that will make you feel uncomfortable.

efhoping2010 · February 2010

Ugh, I am supposed to be a bridesmaid in early August and am going through some of the same things you are. There is no way I would try on a dress at this point either, it is silly the bride is asking that. I say bring a water bottle and observe, give input too.

blossom · February 2010

She's lucky you're even up to go dress shopping with her IMO.

Ditto everyone else, just go and order a dress 2 sizes up from your regular size just to be safe. I lost almost all my baby weight 6 weeks post partum, but it's better to be safe than sorry.

wndrwmn1998 · February 2010

You're not overrreacting, it's silly for you to try on a dress when you don't know what will fit you come November. Hopefully she will understand.

marbear81 · February 2010

blossom:

She's lucky you're even up to go dress shopping with her IMO.

Ditto everyone else, just go and order a dress 2 sizes up from your regular size just to be safe. I lost almost all my baby weight 6 weeks post partum, but it's better to be safe than sorry.

would it be horrible if I admitted that I *really* don't want to go at all... the dress place is 45 mins away. . . . Embarrassed

Dec31stBride · February 2010

I think you should definitely go with them (although I totally understand NOT wanting to go).

I imagine that once the sales people see you, they will tell you its no use trying on anything....at least you can see what direction everyone is leaning in before the final decision is made, and I am sure the staff can give you some time frames on latest date to order and whether or not you'd incur extra fees.

nygrl79 · February 2010

I would go (even though I can understand really not wanting to go), but I would NOT try on dresses. I think she probably just doesn't get it, I assume she has never been pregnant. Even if you could squeeze into a non-maternity dress, it would look really weird anyway and would not help anyone. One thing you should do though, is put the dress (in the color she chooses) against your skin to make sure that you can wear that color.

Leigh71 · February 2010

My sister was my matron of honor years ago, and was largely pregnant w/my niece. I didn't dream of asking her to try anything on. And I didn't dare ask....she's my older sister...need i say more? Wink

I chose an A-line style dress so she would be comfortable. She was very supportive and did help out with showers, etc. The dress shopping was just me and bridesmaids. I showed her pictures of them all after the shopping and she liked the A-line style I selected.

lajolla09.30.06 · February 2010

I would go and not try on dresses. I was the matron of honor in a wedding the year after I had my twins... I went to help pick out the dresses when I had just had the twins (I think they were like 8 weeks old) and even that was bad enough... I had help with the kids but trying to imagine my big fat huge self feeling good in any of the dresses was helpless. I just ended up getting a huge dress and getting it taken in a bunch.

I think you should go, but asking you to try them on is ridiculous. they probably only carry up to size 12 or something anyways

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