How would you react if you got pg right now?

MrsHughesNC · February 2010

A friend of mine just got an unexpected BFP... She's excited, but in shock. It made me wonder how I'd feel if I got pg unexpectedly right now.

I thought it would be interesting to see everyone else's answers, since we're all in different phases of the baby raising/TTC world! :-)

Mrs.LLG · February 2010

I think I'd pass out. I'd be happy of course, but SCARED. TO. DEATH. I'm not ready for a second one!

mrsmikey · February 2010

I'd be ok. We're not TTC again yet, but it wouldn't really be a bad thing. We'd just be really strapped for cash, because we're not in a place to pay for daycare for another baby, but I'm sure we'd figure something out. Otherwise we'd be TTC right now anyway.

MrsHughesNC · February 2010

Initially, I'd pass the eff out. My job situation is unstable, I have a lot of weight I still want to lose, and I'm not sure how we'd swing 2 in daycare right now (back to my current job issue). That would make Holly 22 months old when the baby would be born, so not completely crazy, but still a lot sooner than we'd planned.

Eventually, I'd be excited. Honestly, I find myself looking at baby bedding and stuff lately, which surprises me! I think it would take a lot for DH not to completely lose his mind, given my job situation. We've got somewhat of a timeframe in mind, but we've decided not to even talk about another one until I have a stable, full time job.

jenhum · February 2010

I think I'd be thrilled. We have been back and forth a lot lately about #2, and that would take away the stress of deciding! There are obviously some good reasons as to why we are so unsure about having #2, but I'm sure everything would work itself out.

uncjules · February 2010

Hughes, can I be super nosey and ask if I know this friend? I'm wondering if it's someone in the original K-ville crew...

ECUGirl2004 · February 2010

I would be thrilled! I'd love to get pg with #2 soon.

MrsHughesNC · February 2010

uncjules:
Hughes, can I be super nosey and ask if I know this friend? I'm wondering if it's someone in the original K-ville crew...

Nope, no one from the Kville crew. :-)

BlairWaldorf · February 2010

umm....oh, God.

Emotionally, I'd be thrilled. Do I want sibling this close together in age? No, but I do love being a mother, I loved being pregnant, I loved giving birth, & we know we want at least one more kid.

But the logistics of it would send me into a panic attack. We can't afford 2 daycare tuitions. But we can't afford for me to stay home. & neither of my parents are ready to retire. So the only option would be to sell our home, move into a 1 bedroom apartment, drop down to a one-car family, cut all extra expenses, & I'd stay home. When I think about doing that, I break out into a cold sweat.

cate1119 · February 2010

Hmm...good question. I always thought I wanted my kids to be close in age, but now that we're starting to talk about it seriously - it scares - from both a financial aspect and just an overall space aspect in our current house. We have a 4bdr house and we currently use 1 bedroom for my office / guest room. I wouldn't want the baby / Ella to share a bedroom and Aydin - well he's 9 year old boy...enough said. Also two kids in daycare would be very hard to manage. I honestly think at that point, my DH might consider becoming a SAHD

uncjules · February 2010

MrsHughesNC:

uncjules:
Hughes, can I be super nosey and ask if I know this friend? I'm wondering if it's someone in the original K-ville crew...

Nope, no one from the Kville crew. :-)

OK. Thanks. Just had to know!

AnneNC · February 2010

Uggghhh.... I would DIE!!! I absolutely love DD to pieces, but I am nowhere near ready for another baby anytime soon!!!! Its very bittersweet to me that we are embarking on her first birthday, but its also exciting as she gets a little older. I'm looking forward to having a *little* more time for myself, like to work out!!!

I think we want at least one more child, but I'm honestly not sure of our time frame. If I had to guess I'd say maybe start trying when DD is a little closer to being 2. We've discussed me SAH after #2, so we will just have to see how everything shakes out.

elizabethswan · February 2010

I would be excited just b/c I would like another baby and loved the pg/birth, but we can NOT in any way afford it. So I would have a really hard time dealing with it and not sure how we would manage... might have to pack up and move back home or something equally drastic

dbertagni · February 2010

I would be happy and DH would be ECSTATIC!! He wants another baby like yesterday. I think I would be ready in 9 months for another.

cmbrown · February 2010

I would be excited... but super stressed. DH has been laid off since May. He needs a job. His unemployment is going to run out and we are going to be screwed when it does... so we definately cannot afford another baby right now. But I wanted to try this summer. Not going to happen now... til he gets a job.

uncharch7 · February 2010

i'd freak out, DH would freak out, but we'd manage. insurance would be a HUGE issue though since i don't have maternity coverage. if i had a FT job, my guess would be we'd be TTC right now... so it wouldn't be the end of the world if i did have a surprise BFP.

NatPhoto09 · February 2010

I think I would freak out but in the end I would be excited. Some days I don't know if I will ever be able to handle two kids and other days I'm nostalgic about "babyhood" and can see us with two kids.

For some reason, the money aspect doesn't worry me (we would be really tight but I know God would provide), I'm more worried for my sanity and sleep. Hopefully we'll be ready for another one when Nic is close to 2 years old but who knows.

marryingacoach · February 2010

Ya'll know my answer.. we'd be super duper excited!

unc00ref · February 2010

Umm -- well considering I tested all last week and finally got my period 1 week late (WHEW) - I know how scared I was then. I was be so freaked out. Obviously I'd love the baby and all but I so am not ready and unless I win a major lottery don't plan on getting pregnant again.

akspriss · February 2010

I'd be super excited if money and space weren't an issue. I'm like cate and wouldn't want DS to share with My 8.5 year old stepson if he didnt have to. And with me still unemployed its just not a good time. we used to say we wanted them 2 years apart but with finances being tight we've said it will be more like 3 years apart.

becki777 · February 2010

I would be nervous/apprehensive. We are not financially ready to handle another baby. Also, the newborn stage was HARD and I'm not sure I'm ready to go through that again while having a toddler. But we definitely want #2 so we would get excited!

starz080 · February 2010

I would literally pass out in shock and dismay. But after all that wore off (probably would take at least a week), I'd come to my senses and be thankful. But I would definitely be in denial for a while. We definitely want another one, but not right this second.

jenn&tim05 · February 2010

Id embrace it.....but Im not ready yet. I dont think I will be for a while Im enjoying AT too much right now....and the me time i get now.

DH and I want to many other things right now and just cant see it anytime soon. We'd make it work finacially but like I said we are interested in other things right now.

MrsMcJamie · February 2010

I'd rejoice because it'd be an immaculate conception, surely indicating the second coming of the Christ. It'd be pretty cool to have a messiah kid, I assume I'd be pretty famous and the church ppl would take good care of us.

In a few months, once we're out of immaculate conception territory, I'd probably panic and crap my pants but eventually embrace it. Right now it's less a second child being an issue and more I don't want to be PREGNANT again. That wasn't the most fun I've ever had and I need a few years to be normal.

surfnsandbride · February 2010

I'd drop the F-bomb on DH and then sit there with my OB and cry together and then we'd make the best of it! It's not the baby part that would be the problem, it'd be surviving the pregnant part of it!

My OB and I recently had a long talk about how truly lucky we were for DS and I both to survive my pregnancy. She said it's not that we couldn't get that lucky again, but the chances have been significantly reduced. So while she didn't say I couldn't have anymore babies, she did say there would be a good chance that something worse would go wrong than did before and the chance of something bad happening to the baby would be a lot higher. I'm not gonna lie, we want more, and I cry at the thought of having to push my wants aside but I can't live with the thought of hurting my baby (even if it's a baby that won't be) just because DH and I wanted one more - we know we're blessed enough with one healthy little rascal.

raceyrae · February 2010

Honestly, I'd cry and hide in my bed for weeks. I am in no way ready to be pg again. I have been nursing and/or pg for 2.5 years -- literally, since I nursed Natalie for the first 3 mo. I was pg with Claire. My body needs a break, I need a break emotionally. If we have a 3rd (and I'm not sure right now that we will), I definitely would not want to be pg until after having a break from nursing so not until Claire is about 18 mo old at least.

alchris · February 2010

Seeing as I'm in treatment and as I type I'm staring at my phone waiting for my RE to call back about this cycle, I'd be beyond thrilled!

mrsmikey · February 2010

alchris:
Seeing as I'm in treatment and as I type I'm staring at my phone waiting for my RE to call back about this cycle, I'd be beyond thrilled!

GL!

Heels.Fan03 · February 2010

I would have a wide range of emotions. Happy - because babies are such a blessing, I love being a mother, definitely want to have another child, etc. Nervous/stressed - definitely weren't planning on having two kids so close together and all the issues that brings...financial (daycare, diapers, etc. times 2 kids), time, sleep, etc. and a little sad/bittersweet. I've always planned to space our kids out by about 2-3 years so we can enjoy him being a baby and going through all the stages of growing up. And then when is he more independent, have the next child and enjoy all of his/her firsts. It would make me a little sad/worried that I wouldn't have as much time or energy for Jack if I were pregnant or had a newborn right now. (I don't know if that last part came out correctly, but I hope you know what I mean.) But, then on the flipside, I would be excited for Jack to have a sibling so close in age. It would be a lot of fun watching them grow up together and having a built in playmate at home.

mrsmikey · February 2010

MrsMcJamie:

I'd rejoice because it'd be an immaculate conception, surely indicating the second coming of the Christ. It'd be pretty cool to have a messiah kid, I assume I'd be pretty famous and the church ppl would take good care of us.

In a few months, once we're out of immaculate conception territory, I'd probably panic and crap my pants but eventually embrace it. Right now it's less a second child being an issue and more I don't want to be PREGNANT again. That wasn't the most fun I've ever had and I need a few years to be normal.

You are too funny

mrslsb · February 2010

I'd be excited. I can't believe I'm writing that. I love being a mom and can't wait for our family to grow. That said, I'm not ready from a professional standpoint, and juggling two frightens me.

WendyNC · February 2010

Considering I have a 2 year old and an almost 5 month old and I have an IUD and I'm pretty much exclusively nursing, I would not be happy.

We were actually just discussing this last night because I'm thinking about our upcoming preschool consignment sale and whether to put clothes in. We're both pretty sure we're done. DH had definitely entertained the thought of a #3 more than me, but we both just agreed that financially it doesn't make any sense and I just don't really think I can survive the infant stage again with two kids.

crescentmoon99 · February 2010

Well, considering we have craptastic insurance right now with no maternity coverage, I'd be freaking out on that aspect alone. That said, we're not sold on the idea of a #2. Pregnancy wasn't easy for me, and the first year with Liam was really hard too. I know I would be excited after the shock wore off, and we'd love the new baby and all that, but from a planning standpoint, we're not ready yet!

murph04 · February 2010

I'd probably be in shock for awhile, then it would give way to panic at going back to the itty bitty infant stage so soon. That would be followed by more panic at the idea of having two under two, but then I'd most likely progress into acceptance and, finally, pure delight.

alchris · February 2010

LOL, MrsMcJamie, and thank you, mrsmikey!

BackthePack · February 2010

We're not TTC yet, but I'd still be excited. I'm pretty ready, but DH isn't quite there yet.

I'd also be praying for no M/S or PUPPs during that pregnancy!

jenwill · February 2010

Now? I would be excited...I'm starting to move back into that stage where I want to have another one (our plan is 3 yrs apart, so we still have some time). But I wouldn't be devastated.

Now, if this had been before she turned 1 yr old, I would have been really upset. I am not a fan of the 2 under 2 thing. And just thinking about having to share that special time with DD up until now makes me sad, really. I like having one on one time with her and seeing her grow and discover things. I wouldn't have wanted to have another baby around during that time....

LOOOOVE McJamies response!!

Evans · February 2010

Eventually, I would just give it up to God and go with his plan, but my initial reaction would be extremely not excited, upset, dreadful.

I don't do pregnancy / delivery very well and I just don't know how I would handle that and another newborn with a 1 year old and a 3 year old. I had pp complications with Caroline that I don't think I would mentally be able to deal with.

Two and done was our plan, but I am sure I would eventually come around and celebrate the gift even if it was not in my plan.

beshan · February 2010

I think I would be shocked at first, but then ok. DH and I are ready to start again in the next year, but the finances aren't quite there yet, so hopefully no surprises any time soon.

silvurturtle · February 2010

My thoughts would be as follows:

No. That's not a line.

Sh*t is that a line? No it cant be I have an IUD.

Ok its a line. Wait is that a test malfunction? [Digs for instructions]

Breathe. Breathe. This cant be right. I can understand one BC oops but 2. Darn it! When will I be due? November....uggh. (My birthday is in Nov and I can feel this way).

It will be ok. It will be great. Especially since as I am having my Csection my DH will be having his vasectomy. I wonder if we could share a double operating room so he could still be present for the delivery. Ohh...how should I tell him? Crap, how am I going to handle clinics pregnant? Well I guess sushi for lunch is out. .......

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