Why do you think its tacky to register for...

PrincessLinLin · February 2010

things like a car seat? I mean the registry is for people to get you the gifts that you need, right? My DH and I are not buying a single thing (except the diaper sprayer) until after our shower. I admit things like cameras (which are not for baby at all) and potty seats (wont be used until much later) are tacky but things the baby totally needs (car seat, crib, breast pump) that doesn't strike me as tacky. Am I wrong?

MWoodside · February 2010

I have never heard of it being tacky to put a carseat on there. What I think is tacky is when people register for things for themselves like a Wii.

Violet_McPurpleson · February 2010

I think it's a little tacky when I see people registering for large furniture items such as armoires and dressers.

Shandie_725 · February 2010

I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.

close2it · February 2010

I don't see it as tacky and have never heard anyone say that it was. Hmmm! Maybe it's b/c they're so expensive but my thought is that is someone wants something cheaper, there are plenty of other options. It's a suggestion, not mandatory.

Abc15379 · February 2010

Who said that is tacky? If it is, then I guess I'm tacky.

Dreamsicle23 · February 2010

I'll put anything on a registry...if someone doesn't want to buy something, they don't have to.

MWoodside · February 2010

Violet_McPurpleson:
I think it's a little tacky when I see people registering for large furniture items such as armoires and dressers.

I agree.

close2it · February 2010

Leah&Jack:
A car seat isn't tacky. It's the seats for older kids that I find tacky - like the seats you won't use until the LO is 2 or 3.

I put the older seat on but don't expect anyone to buy it. The only reason I put it on is so I can get 20% off of it when we buy it ourselves. Most places will give you 20% off anything that is left on your registry.

Violet_McPurpleson · February 2010

MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.

I don't get this. The breast pump is for your baby. You wouldn't be using it with out one would you?

cookieinva · February 2010

If you are referring to that previous post where someone mentioned car seats all the way up until the kid doesn't need one any more, I think it was more that the parent(s) registered not just for baby car seats, but ones for every age range all the way up until the kid is like 8 or so. I think that person thought that was tacky. Kinda like registering for a bicycle or something.

Maybe it is tacky, but I think the bigger issue for that in particular is how do you know a "safe" car seat now will meet standards years from now. Probably it won't.

tifvolley · February 2010

I don't think it's tacky. We registered for a car seat and a generous family member bought it for us. I also don't find it tacky to register for things like a crib or dresser. A lot of people like to get together and buy big ticket items.

As long as you have a good range of items, from washcloths to cribs, I don't see the problem. I would also agree that a Wii is pretty tacky since it's obviously not for the baby.

paxilchyk · February 2010

I have never heard that registering for a car seat is tacky. I'm not against registering for anything that will be used for the baby. We're using our registry as a shopping list and a gift giving resource so if someone wants to buy my breast pump before I get a chance, I'll be happy I saved the money!

keychain01 · February 2010

MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.

Oh! I didn't know asking for a breast pump is tacky, isn't it for the baby? I saw other people's registry and they had breast pumps.

jknigh8 · February 2010

I dont think it's tacky to register for anything you will use under age 1 except for furniture, which I do think is a parents responsibility. I left the breast pump off mine and got harassed by soo many people comming to my shower about it, so I ended up putting it on there. I guess if there is something on a registry I dont agree with, I wouldnt buy it, but I also wouldnt be offended it was on there.

avada_kedavra · February 2010

Violet_McPurpleson:
MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.
I don't get this. The breast pump is for your baby. You wouldn't be using it with out one would you?

that's exactly what i was thinking. it's not like i'm going to get any joy out of it.

taprehoda · February 2010

keychain01:

MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.

Oh! I didn't know asking for a breast pump is tacky, isn't it for the baby? I saw other people's registry and they had breast pumps.

I don't think it's tacky. It is for baby. Plus, if someone doesn't buy it for you, you can use the discount to buy it later. Same goes for furniture.

delg23 · February 2010

Dreamsicle23:
I'll put anything on a registry...if someone doesn't want to buy something, they don't have to.

word. I don't think putting furniture on the registry is tacky either. I think its only tacky if you don't put a range of items for people who don't want to spend several hundred dollars.

Jenn Mom2Be2010 · February 2010

Dreamsicle23:
I'll put anything on a registry...if someone doesn't want to buy something, they don't have to.

This. I completely agree.

LovedWifey · February 2010

Honestly I think whatever a person registers for is up to them. What makes anything tacky? Unnecessary maybe.. but tacky?!?!? As far as furniture goes.. people have in laws and parents and grand parents that would want to purchase furniture for their new grandchild/great grandchild. Why is it tacky for them to know what you're looking at and want?!?! We put both an infant carrier and a car seat that will take our child up to 100 pounds. My niece was into her convertible car seat before she turned 12 months. If people want to pitch in and buy big ticket items (which is what i do most of the time) why not??!?! No one is standing there with a gun to your friends and family's head and saying "buy the crib or the travel system" If someone(s) is generous enough to buy those items AWESOME! if not.. completion discount here you come!

Temp200154562509288 · February 2010

LovedWifey:
Honestly I think whatever a person registers for is up to them. What makes anything tacky? Unnecessary maybe.. but tacky?!?!? As far as furniture goes.. people have in laws and parents and grand parents that would want to purchase furniture for their new grandchild/great grandchild. Why is it tacky for them to know what you're looking at and want?!?! We put both an infant carrier and a car seat that will take our child up to 100 pounds. My niece was into her convertible car seat before she turned 12 months. If people want to pitch in and buy big ticket items (which is what i do most of the time) why not??!?! No one is standing there with a gun to your friends and family's head and saying "buy the crib or the travel system" If someone(s) is generous enough to buy those items AWESOME! if not.. completion discount here you come!

Yes Yes

Everyone and every family is different and has different views on registering just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean it's tacky.

ertopp · February 2010

i dont think its tacky to register for anything. my DH and i put everything we wanted (including crib and dresser) because some of my aunts will go in together to buy furniture and whatever we dont get we will get 10% off after my shower! so its worth it!

Ready2006 · February 2010

Leah&Jack:
A car seat isn't tacky. It's the seats for older kids that I find tacky - like the seats you won't use until the LO is 2 or 3.

Are you referring to a convertible seat in addition to an infant seat? Or something else? We'll be registered for an infant seat (and an extra base) and convertibles because our families are HUGE. I'd rather get a convertible seat to use starting at ~6 months than more clothes (which are great, but you only need so many). Our families are also very practical--they wouldn't balk at that.

But I do agree with PPs that a Wii is tacky. I know it was part of some registry contest thing at Babies R Us, but still odd, IMO.

laumholl · February 2010

I'm with the PP who said that anything you can use under age 1 is game! It mostly depends on the type of spenders that are going to buy from your registry. If they tend to be on the frugal side...put smaller stuff on there. If they like to spend money, put some larger items on there! Most of the time, people who aren't really close to you, but see larger items on your registry will give you a gift card. Those add up quickly!!

BFab11 · February 2010

I'm registering for all my big stuff, but not necessarily expecting to receive the big items. I figure that if someone chooses to get me that, great, if not, I'll get it myself post-shower, and maybe I'll get to use my registry completion discount on it

lili118 · February 2010

close2it:

Leah&Jack:
A car seat isn't tacky. It's the seats for older kids that I find tacky - like the seats you won't use until the LO is 2 or 3.

I put the older seat on but don't expect anyone to buy it. The only reason I put it on is so I can get 20% off of it when we buy it ourselves. Most places will give you 20% off anything that is left on your registry.

good point on the 20% off.

Shandie_725 · February 2010

Violet_McPurpleson:
MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.
I don't get this. The breast pump is for your baby. You wouldn't be using it with out one would you?

My breast pump is covered by my insurance, but if it wasn't I wouldn't put it on. That's something that's a personal choice that I don't feel comfortable discussing with DH's family or my own. It's just a personal preference - I find it tacky, I wouldn't buy it for other people so I won't put it on my own.

To each their own though!

earollins · February 2010

tifvolley:

I don't think it's tacky. We registered for a car seat and a generous family member bought it for us. I also don't find it tacky to register for things like a crib or dresser. A lot of people like to get together and buy big ticket items.

As long as you have a good range of items, from washcloths to cribs, I don't see the problem. I would also agree that a Wii is pretty tacky since it's obviously not for the baby.

This. Plus, if family/friends don't get the items, it always helps to get that completion discount.

bashsmom02 · February 2010

Not at all. The registry is like a "wish list" and you can put whatever you want on it. You might be surprised what your friends and family will buy you and if they don't buy evrything on it, it's ok. Atleast you tried. I put it all on there. Whatever is left that we need we'll take care of ourselves.

rorygirl218 · February 2010

you may be surprised at what people will buy for you. we put the bigger car seat on our registry after our shower so we could get the completion discount. a few days later it was sent to our house from a group of people i play tennis with. sometimes people like the big things because a bunch of people will all chip in together. i think that if it is something tht you are going to use for your baby then it is okay.

Aliliv · February 2010

bashsmom02:
Not at all. The registry is like a "wish list" and you can put whatever you want on it. You might be surprised what your friends and family will buy you and if they don't buy evrything on it, it's ok. Atleast you tried. I put it all on there. Whatever is left that we need we'll take care of ourselves.

This. And the only thing that I think is tacky regarding registries (other than things that are obviously not for baby) is expecting people to buy exclusively from the registry and then complaining if they don't buy from it.

BurnNurse · February 2010

I put things on there I didn't expect people to buy, but wanted that 20% off coupon for. The completion coupon is going to help buy my Wii to get my flabby butt back into shape! Plus, my ILs live out of town, as do most of our family, so its pretty much the only way to show them what we're wanting/getting.

mommyrenee · February 2010

i registered for and got my travel system/carseat and convertible carseat. we didnt need it until DS was close to 7 mos and we could have easily purchased it ourselves, but I wanted to use the completion code. a group of my former co-workers ended up going in to buy it. some people like having 'larger' items to split.

teelaman · February 2010

I don't think it's tacky - I think it's strategic. I'm with everyone else that put the more expensive stuff on my registry just for the completion discount.

If I were to say something was tacky - it would be to ONLY put the expensive stuff on a registry....and not register for anything that's a reasonable price for the majority of the people coming to the shower. But...I don't know of anyone who's ever done this. That's the only situation I can think of where putting expensive stuff on a registry would be tacky.

But no - I'm all for completion discounts. Party!!!

lpstl · February 2010

No, I don't think it's tacky. I also don't think it's tacky to put big ticket items on a registry as long as you make sure plenty of inexpensive items are on as well.

We registered for our furniture, and had every single piece bought for us for our shower. Even before I added it to our registry, we had several people ask about furniture because they wanted to get us a large gift, or contribute to a big ticket item.

IrishBrideND · February 2010

eh, a registry is simply there if people so chose to look at it.

If you view a registry as something people MUST buy off of, then its tacky. But thats not what a registry is, so therefore putting more expensive things on it isn't tacky.

amandamharrelson · February 2010

MWoodside:
I have never heard of it being tacky to put a carseat on there. What I think is tacky is when people register for things for themselves like a Wii.

This! A friend of DH's registered for a Wii and I thought it was in really poor taste!

IrishBrideND · February 2010

MarcnShaun:
Violet_McPurpleson:

MarcnShaun:
I have a car seat/travel system on our registry. I am not registering for a breast pump/pads/nipple cream, etc. because that's what I find tacky. The registry is stuff for the baby - not me.

I don't get this. The breast pump is for your baby. You wouldn't be using it with out one would you?

My breast pump is covered by my insurance, but if it wasn't I wouldn't put it on. That's something that's a personal choice that I don't feel comfortable discussing with DH's family or my own. It's just a personal preference - I find it tacky, I wouldn't buy it for other people so I won't put it on my own.

To each their own though!

I understand not putting it on your own because you wouldn't buy it for others. But that doesn't make it tacky. I would never buy disposable diapers for someone, but I don't think its tacky that others put them on a registry. EVERYTHING on a registry is a "personal choice."

NicoleR524 · February 2010

I'm getting hand me downs from all my cousins and the only bigger ticket items that I will need are a car seat and stroller. Aside from that we are registering for a lot of toys and books - that go up to preschool aged. These are all things that people can buy for us to help us out. We're even registering for the Planet Earth DVD because a) I really want our children to be abel to watch it and b) it's more expensive then we can afford to buy ourselves. I think a few PP said it - it's about having a range of prices and really who cares what is on it - if someone sees something they'd like to buy you they buy it, if not they pick something out on their own. I'm also putting cloth diapers on there - I'm sure someone will think that's tacky too. But what is REALLY tacky - is if that someone comes up to me at my shower and tells me that it was tacky. Unless that happens, which I doubt it will, I really don't care what people think about my registry...

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