Confession...i have serious anxiety issues!

Re: Confession...i have serious anxiety issues!

• MrsHollyMetesh member

  February 2010

  Hey now, don't beat yourself up! You've been through a lot! Everyone has anxiety, in one form or another, but don't let it consume you :-) (This is the black kettle talking, lol)

  p.s. I do that stuff too: "Ooh, we'll have a 6 month old this Christmas, so he can actually sit up--ish--for our family photos", or "Can you believe we'll have a 2(ish) month old for our 1 year anniversary?" It doesn't jinx anything to do that--it just makes you excited for more landmarks together :-)

  T&P, it'll all be ok!

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• suepotsy

  February 2010

  I don't think you're crazy at all!  In fact, I have alot of the same fears as you.  I often think that something terrible has happened to the baby without my knowing it.  I think it's normal to worry, and some people are more inclined to that anxiety and worry than others.  My husband has to remind me to calm down and relax.  I really think it helps to talk about it!  I hope you feel better, and know that you're not alone!!

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• emmavenus77

  February 2010

  You're not crazy. After what you've been through, it's perfectly normal to have anxiety. But take comfort in the fact that you're so far along and take it day by day. Every morning tell yourself this day will be ok and every night thank the universe that it was. And breathe!

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• MelonieK

  February 2010

  You're not crazy at all, hon.  I think as mothers we grow two extra hormones at conception - one for worry and one for guilt. Because you've had difficulty in the past, you're understandably anxious. 
  

  As long as the BH are painless and pass quickly, try not to worry too much.  They are perfectly normal, and your body's way of preparing for the real thing.  Try drinking an extra glass or two of water and find the most comfortable position you can.
  

  
  

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• kayteatrudeau

  February 2010

  I had an ecoptic in July and I was so paranoid up to when I could feel our little girl moving about at 17 weeks. I was so scared something would happen and I would lose her. But she's healthy and just fine.

  If it brings you any comfort my OB told me that as soon as the 20 weeks appointment was over that everything looks great and I should trust in her that if anything is even at a slight risk she will tell me.

  I keep thinking our little one will be born at 34 or 35 weeks. So much that my mom is coming from Canada when DH goes on business for 2 1/2 weeks. I really didn;t want to be alone in the 3rd trimester. I'm glad she said yes to girl time and helping me get the nursery reeady.

  My sisters rule of thumb is as soon as your get to 32 weeks you should totally relax. All babies born by this week have almost a 100% chance. That's only 12 more weeks for me.

  HUGS!

   

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• laumholl

  February 2010

  I can't blame you for being so stressed! I've had this weird obsession with death lately. It's like I just know something is going to happen, somebody is going to pass away...etc. Try your hardest to know that she's ok and calm down! Your spotting/BH could be related to your high stress level.
  

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• strawbrrysmile05

  February 2010

  suepotsy:

  I don't think you're crazy at all!  In fact, I have alot of the same fears as you.  I often think that something terrible has happened to the baby without my knowing it.  I think it's normal to worry, and some people are more inclined to that anxiety and worry than others.  My husband has to remind me to calm down and relax.  I really think it helps to talk about it!  I hope you feel better, and know that you're not alone!!

  100% this! My DH is the one who calms me down...I have a lot of anxiety recently about labor and deliery and the pain and mostly how long it will take...for some reason I feel like the pain is alright bc it will end, but I need to know at least an average of how long (I looked it up online and it said 12-24hrs on average) and what to expect and such. Of course, when I start to get the anxiety about it, I get crabby and irritable...poor DH. I really do feel bad for him and I try really hard to at least tell him before I snap at him...he's the one that can keep me calm...everyone else just makes me mad.

  T&P for you. And don't worry...its normal to feel anxious! You'll be alright 
  

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• dstar

  February 2010

  I worry too!!  About everything.  You are not alone.  I went to labor and delivery about 21 weeks for what I thought was a slow leak of amniotic fluid.  Turned out it was discharge.  I still check my underwear and TP for blood or anything unusual.  I am typically medicated for anxiety but stopped taking my meds because of pregnancy.
  

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• debe94

  February 2010

  I worry, too.  I've had a lot of complications with this pregnancy, but things are finally looking up.  It makes me feel better now that I can feel her all the time.  Before I was always wondering if she was alright in there.  Prior to feeling her I had to rely on the monthly u/s. 

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• beachyosh

  February 2010

  I know exactly how you feel. I m/c at 9 weeks and it is hard to relax and enjoy your pregnancy when you have gone through that. You are perfectly normal and sometimes it does help to just say and get it out there. When I was 17 weeks or so, I finally let it out to DH that I even though I was pregnant I didn't actually believe that I would have a baby. Just having him hear it and not look at me like I was crazy was all it took for me to relax a little.

   Good luck and I know your baby will be healthy and beautiful

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