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Babies: 0 - 3 Months
I suck at being a mom
I really do.
A few weeks ago, I was trying to clip DS' nails (even though I knew I should've used a file, not a clipper) and got the poor kid's skin. He bled and then screamed. It wasn't pretty.
I kept scratching him (by mistake, obviously) with my fingernails (whoch aren't even long- but apparently they are sharp.) So I cut them down the other day and guess what I did today- he lunged his head at me and by accident my thumb caught the top of his head and he got a bad scratch. This incident was complete with screaming, just like the first one.
DH mentioned that he couldn't see my breasts as anything "sexual" anymore because of the BF. They are now sources of food for the baby only. I am a little annoyed and almost resentful for that comment.
When I was at the doctor the other day with LO, he puked on himself, the doctor and the table. I grabbed a napkin and started to clean up the table instead of LO. The doctor looked at me and laughed. I felt like the biggest JACKASS!!!!
Sometimes I'd rather have DS sitting in his bouncer fussing than quiet in my arms because I want the break. I want the time to just sit and surf the internet, read a book or do nothing.... like before he was born.
Oh and I can't wait to go back to work so I can have some time away from DS!
Anyway that's my vent. Maybe I need therapy or something. Flame me if you want, but I HAD to get all this off my chest. 
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Re: I suck at being a mom
You are not a bad mom. These are things that pretty much every one of us goes through.
As for the comment made by your DH....wow. I think you need to have a conversation with him about that. I know I've sort of thought of it that way myself from time to time and am having a difficult time getting back into the "sexy" swing of things, but if DH were to ever say that to me, I'd lose it. He's suppose to be your support person and be telling you how amazing and beautiful you are. Unfortunately, men just don't understand what this whole process does to our bodies and minds. They only see the physical changes and don't really understand the emotional roller coasters we ride on every day.
YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER! I did the same thing with nail clippers last night.. and my nails were scratching the baby too.. they were so sharp and kept scratching her, too.
I'm not going to flame you b/c I can understand how you feel. I had some similar feelings early on with the breastfeeding.. it pushed me over the edge to the point that I resented my baby, too. My boobs and vag were killing me and got an infection, the latched got messed up with bottles, etc... so I stopped. I did get therapy.. stopped bf-ing.. am all better and totally love my baby and now understand how people are 'in love' with their babies... at first I didn't.
So.. yes, get yourself therapy...you have to take care of YOU first, then you can be a BETTER mommy for your baby. People told me that and I was pissed b/c I didn't want to stop bfing.. but it is TRUE.
My husband tells me that if I didn't feel like a bad mom sometimes, I would be a bad mom. Good moms never feel "good enough".
I'm sure you're doing fine. And, fwiw, I still occasionally cut my kids' fingers when clipping and I've been doing it for 2 1/2 years. It happens.
I felt much like this with my first child, then by the time I had my second, i no longer longed for "old" days prechidlren, because I had a new normal--it grows on you, just takes time. And it becomes a lot more fun and a lot less "work."
I have bumped into, accidently hit, etc my kids more than once...and once at playdate my friend accidently knocked her son three times in a row (it what happens when they trail right behind you--once they are walking), I remember it because I was so glad it wasn't just me...KWIM?
You don't suck...you are just saying things most people keep in. Best wishes!
Those little fingernails are hard! I wouldn't be surprised if I clipped DS and I have done three times now...
None of that makes you a bad mom! Moments like that make you a better mom because you can learn what to do next time!
And we ALL need breaks from our LO's. Don't worry! I'm sure you're a great mom and your DS wouldn't want anyone else for his mom.