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Correct me if I'm wrong here. (FIL Vent)

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I'll keep this as short as possible. Please no flames.

To sum up the last few years, FIL (44) cheats on MIL, with A (18).  FIL leaves MIL and they decide to get a divorice. FIL somehow manages to get the car and the house due to some miracle to him. FIL marrys A when she turns 20. MIL now lives in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with BIL (9) and SIL (15) and struggles to make ends meet everyday. She was a SAHM for the last 20 years, so finding good paying work in this economy is obviously tough for her. FIL runs his own business so he can easily hide how much money he is making. He has not paid child support since the divorce. He takes MIL to court and they rule that his financial situation is strained and he does not have to give her what he owes her.

This week we find out that he is having his vasectomy reversed and A is going through fertility treatments. And they are paying for this all out of pocket since neither of them have insurance.

Tell me this is not f'd up!?! I'm just tired of seeing MIL and her kids get the short end of the stick. They are such good people and deserve so much more.

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  • mrsbird1129mrsbird1129 member
    This would upset me as well!!  Can dh say anthing, or would that not even matter at this point.  Fil sounds like a d bag to me.  Does he not even care about his children at all??  Poor kids and wife.  That really stinks.  :(
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    imagemrsbird1129:
    This would upset me as well!!  Can dh say anthing, or would that not even matter at this point.  Fil sounds like a d bag to me.  Does he not even care about his children at all??  Poor kids and wife.  That really stinks.  :(

    I really wish it would make a difference. We have tried to talk to him before it got this bad, and he always came out with the "you just don't understand, what A and I have is SO special".

    I just don't think anything is special enough to hurt your (ex)wife and children so much over.

    FIL just tells us that we are the only people who aren't okay with the situation and we need to just get over it. But everyone else is shaken up about it as well...he is just in denying it. At this point we just avoid him...but when I found all of this out it just made me so angry!

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  • mrsbird1129mrsbird1129 member
    I would feel the same damn way.  This situation sucks.
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  • sgrlsgrl member
    That is ENORMOUSLY f*cked up!
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  • MrsErinnElizabethMrsErinnElizabeth

    Ick! to the situation with A. 

    Angry  to the situation with his kids and CS. 

    What a douche.

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  • pregali80pregali80 member
    imagethequeeenbee:

    I'll keep this as short as possible. Please no flames.

    To sum up the last few years, FIL (44) cheats on MIL, with A (18).  FIL leaves MIL and they decide to get a divorice. FIL somehow manages to get the car and the house due to some miracle to him. FIL marrys A when she turns 20. MIL now lives in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with BIL (9) and SIL (15) and struggles to make ends meet everyday. She was a SAHM for the last 20 years, so finding good paying work in this economy is obviously tough for her. FIL runs his own business so he can easily hide how much money he is making. He has not paid child support since the divorce. He takes MIL to court and they rule that his financial situation is strained and he does not have to give her what he owes her.

    This week we find out that he is having his vasectomy reversed and A is going through fertility treatments. And they are paying for this all out of pocket since neither of them have insurance.

    Tell me this is not f'd up!?! I'm just tired of seeing MIL and her kids get the short end of the stick. They are such good people and deserve so much more.

    Oh.My.God. PLEASE tell me you are joking.

    This man should not reproduce any more children, until he can take care of the ones he has and give the mother some assistance.

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    imagethequeeenbee:

    I'll keep this as short as possible. Please no flames.

    To sum up the last few years, FIL (44) cheats on MIL, with A (18).  FIL leaves MIL and they decide to get a divorice. FIL somehow manages to get the car and the house due to some miracle to him. FIL marrys A when she turns 20. MIL now lives in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with BIL (9) and SIL (15) and struggles to make ends meet everyday. She was a SAHM for the last 20 years, so finding good paying work in this economy is obviously tough for her. FIL runs his own business so he can easily hide how much money he is making. He has not paid child support since the divorce. He takes MIL to court and they rule that his financial situation is strained and he does not have to give her what he owes her.

    This week we find out that he is having his vasectomy reversed and A is going through fertility treatments. And they are paying for this all out of pocket since neither of them have insurance.

    Tell me this is not f'd up!?! I'm just tired of seeing MIL and her kids get the short end of the stick. They are such good people and deserve so much more.

    Oh.My.God. PLEASE tell me you are joking.

    This man should not reproduce any more children, until he can take care of the ones he has and give the mother some assistance.

    I know, it's ridiculous. I honestly believe that something screwy is going on with the whole court situation. FIL has got way too lucky on too many occasions. A is a very sneaky person, who is in a line of work where she has a lot of day to day contact with people high up in the court system in the county it is being processed in. To make it even more obvious that something is going on, both MIL and FIL live in "L" county and have been for the past year and a half. But all child support goes through "F" county because FIL lived there for a short time after he and MIL split. MIL tried to have it switched to L county but they wouldn't do it...which makes NO sense whatsoever.

    I really wish this were MUD BTW. *sigh*

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  • angelnscrubs7angelnscrubs7
    Obviously "A" is too young and immature to realize that 1) once a cheater, always a cheater... and 2) if he can do that to his children now, what makes her think in 5 or 10 years he won't find another 18 yr old and do the same thing all over again?????
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  • pregali80pregali80 member
    imagethequeeenbee:
    imagepregali80:
    imagethequeeenbee:

    I'll keep this as short as possible. Please no flames.

    To sum up the last few years, FIL (44) cheats on MIL, with A (18).  FIL leaves MIL and they decide to get a divorice. FIL somehow manages to get the car and the house due to some miracle to him. FIL marrys A when she turns 20. MIL now lives in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment with BIL (9) and SIL (15) and struggles to make ends meet everyday. She was a SAHM for the last 20 years, so finding good paying work in this economy is obviously tough for her. FIL runs his own business so he can easily hide how much money he is making. He has not paid child support since the divorce. He takes MIL to court and they rule that his financial situation is strained and he does not have to give her what he owes her.

    This week we find out that he is having his vasectomy reversed and A is going through fertility treatments. And they are paying for this all out of pocket since neither of them have insurance.

    Tell me this is not f'd up!?! I'm just tired of seeing MIL and her kids get the short end of the stick. They are such good people and deserve so much more.

    Oh.My.God. PLEASE tell me you are joking.

    This man should not reproduce any more children, until he can take care of the ones he has and give the mother some assistance.

    I know, it's ridiculous. I honestly believe that something screwy is going on with the whole court situation. FIL has got way too lucky on too many occasions. A is a very sneaky person, who is in a line of work where she has a lot of day to day contact with people high up in the court system in the county it is being processed in. To make it even more obvious that something is going on, both MIL and FIL live in "L" county and have been for the past year and a half. But all child support goes through "F" county because FIL lived there for a short time after he and MIL split. MIL tried to have it switched to L county but they wouldn't do it...which makes NO sense whatsoever.

    I really wish this were MUD BTW. *sigh*

    That's just all out dirty.

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  • tashacu02tashacu02
    That is f'ed up! I blame the other woman also in this situation b/c she should be encouraging him to take care of his children instead of trying to make another one with him. And if he cheated on his now ex-wife with you and then in turn treats her and their kids like cramp, what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you?!?
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