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anyone planning their own shower..... sort of?

Rolos_girlRolos_girl
in 2nd Trimester

I am sure it is faux pas.....

My mom started planning my shower (for my side of the family)... sort of.... and my mom, is well, lets say she is interesting.....

Not really close with her... she is not the excited, gung ho mom when is comes to bridal/baby shower stuff....she never even threw me a bridal shower :-(

So, she started planning it,..... half a$$, sort of........and has now dropped the ball.....

I am pretty bummed and sort of depressed about it.... but decided I still want to celebrate with my family and friends, so I am going to take charge and finish it :-)

Make lemonade out of lemons, I guess....

No one else in my family will take over, and I may have a friend who offers to take over, but not sure I want her to take on the burden, so I will accept her help... but keep most  of the burden.....

Just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat.....

These are the times I am really bummed and depressed that my mom basically sucks at our relationship...... Sad

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  • jessikarabbit11jessikarabbit11
    I am sorry to hear that....I hope everything works out for you. Smile
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  • jknigh8jknigh8 member

    I dont see anything wrong with helping. It does suck that she doesnt want to do that much, but maybe helping will show her what you'd like and you guys can connect through it. I am really sorry to hear that though, my mom is super mom and I dont know what I would do without her help.

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  • aborgraaborgra

    My aunt finally offered to throw my shower, but she lives out of state.  My mom is sort of helping her, but I have been asked about every detail and they also asked me to call to set up the reservations myself.  I know they just want it to be the way I'd like it, but I really don't want to plan my own shower.

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  • BunBakerBunBaker
    Sorry your mom is being sucky right now. The good part is, you know exactly what it will be and you can have exactly what you want. If your friend volunteers to help, definitley take them up on it. At a minimum you can have them handle the details you don't want to deal with like getting the invitations to the post office or ensuring ice is at the party and helping to clean up afterwards. Good luck with the planning. Hope you have a fantastic time!
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  • ashkandiashkandi member

    Aw that sucks!!  I'm probably going to be planning this baby sprinkle haha.  I don't give a *** about faux paus, and I want to celebrate my baby coming into this world, so I'm having another baby shower even though you're only supposed to have one for your first LO, or since I have a girl, if I have a boy it'd be okay to have one I hear, but even if it's another girl I'm having one.  I didn't have a 'I'm becoming a mommy" shower with my daughter.  I had a "Ridley" shower, celebrating HER.  Her name was on the cake and everything!  I don't think that's very fair for the rest of my LO's, you know?  So I don't care what everyone thinks of me.  It's not even about presents, no one has to bring anything if they want, but I AM celebrating my new baby. ;D Yay!

     

    So you go girl!  

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  • C_JohnsonC_Johnson

    I am planning my own shower....my mom was originally going to throw it but we are not speaking right now.  She is bipolar and severely mentally unstable...she said to me last week she wants nothing to do with me and the baby (reasons unknown).  She did this right before my bridal shower and that ended up not happening. My mom has hurt me for the very last time...

    Don't let anyone steal your joy...I know I am not :)  I am going to have lots of help from friends and my aunt but I am pretty much putting everything together.  It isn't even really about the gifts ( I agree Baby Mama Ashley) it's a celebration of your LO :) AND having a good time with the people you love.

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  • minaa7minaa7
    I'm sorry you have to plan your own shower..  it must be really disappointing that your mum dropped the ball on this one.  I'm sending good thoughts your way
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