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wishing well?

onitram5onitram5
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I'm not sure what is considered "too much".  I know already that we are asking everyone to sign a book instead of a card.  Would it be too much to also have a wishing well for little odds and ends?  My mom is throwing me the shower and wants to do the wishing well too....any thoughts?

 Also, how would someone go about making a wishing well?  Nothing too fancy. 

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  • nooniesgalnooniesgal member
    I personally think doing a book vs a card and a wishing well is going way overboard.   As a guest, it would really start to decrease the actual gift budget if I saw that.  I would hold off on doing this imo.
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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    I agree with the above poster.  It is a bit much to ask for both a book and something for a wishing well.  Especially when you shouldn't really be telling guests what to gift you with in the first place.  JMO.
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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    As a guest, I'd be pretty irritated.  The only time I've been asked for that much was at the Christmas party of a known gift-grabber - bring a bottle of wine!  Bring an ornament!  Bring gloves for the homeless!  I didn't go and I understand a lot of other folks didn't, either.
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  • DaniLovesPinkDaniLovesPink member
    Hmm...I guess here's how I look at it - the book/card thing is really just exchanging something they would already be buying for something more useful without a price increase.  However, you don't want to bog down your invitations.  I guess I would determine which is more important, the books or the wishing well and put that on the invitation.  If people call your mom to RSVP, or to ask about gifts, she can let them know verbally that there will be a wishing well to collect inexpensive necessities, if they choose.  That'd be the best way to handle it, I think.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    One or the other.  And I don't agree- don't do both and just tell people about the one when they RSVP.  It's still doing the same thing " bring a gift, a book, AND also another "small" gift" - because no matter how you spin it, that is what a wishing well is doing, asking for another small gift.

    It will start to come across as greedy.

    And really- if your "necessities" are on your registry, someone might actually buy them up and give them to you as one big gift.  i've seen it done many times.

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  • mysticportermysticporter
    I agree with PP that's it's over the top.  In general I don't think guests should be told what to do as far as gifts, anyway, but telling them they should bring three things (book, wishing well, gift) is way too much, and I think they will start factoring that in as far as what else they buy.

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  • ams8099ams8099 member
    Yes. To add, I also think asking for a book instead of a card is super tacky. You will get TONS of odds and ends from people. To me it just sounds greedy.
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  • redprincessredprincess
    But - whatever you decide to do, you can rent the wishing well from a party rental place.
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  • GherkinaGherkina
    imageonitram5:

    I'm not sure what is considered "too much".  I know already that we are asking everyone to sign a book instead of a card.  Would it be too much to also have a wishing well for little odds and ends?  My mom is throwing me the shower and wants to do the wishing well too....any thoughts?

     Also, how would someone go about making a wishing well?  Nothing too fancy. 

    Most showers I've gone to with a wishing well, the hostess had set up the hamper for guests to place gifts in.  It's really cute and then it's a useful item for your nursery.

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  • *LuckyMermaid**LuckyMermaid*

    I would not do both a wishing well and extra book type gift. I would leave it at the favorite book if it were up to me. This allows the guest to pick something that is meaningful to them that they want to share. They can sign the book with a personal message and give it to you to share with your child.

    I don't believe in wishing wells as a rule. I think a gift and a card should suffice. The only reason that I endorse the "extra book gift" is that it can serve as a heartfelt, card-type gift. You can also put your card inside a children's book. 

     

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