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2nd Trimester
snarky friends
I hate vent post but I think poor DH is sick of hearing it. My best friend (who is also a new mother) has always been competitive with me but lately she is flat out mean & snarky in a sometimes passive agressive way & other times just flat out. I can't even stand to be around her or talk to her anymore because she has nothing nice to say to me.
I've been posting weekly bump updates on my twitter (mainly for myself but also for out of town family) and she has left a hateful comment on every one of them. I had to delete her comment tonite because it was just so rude.
Friends are being so wishy washy lately, makes me just want to hang out with DH!
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Re: snarky friends
Where I live being an azzhole =/= being wishy-washy.
Maybe ask your friend if everything's OK with her these days since you've noticed an overall negative attitude creeping in. If she jumps on you, I'd seriously consider the idea that you and your friend are growing apart.
yep, wishy washy means asssshole to me too
I know her and her husband are having problems, but she doesn't talk about things like that....she never has/will. I am going to have to assume a lot of it is jealousy. She has always been jealous of dh & I's financial situation so its usually money related remarks but as of lately it has been about my weight....she gained 70lbs with her son & I have only gained 13lbs but she is constantly telling me how I am gaining weight in my thighs/arms ect.
I lost a lot of friends when dh and I got married & even more when we got pregnant. It's a bummer but I just people just grow apart? Good thing dh & I have lots of hobbies and love being around eachother.
Here's one for ya..
My "best friend" was engaged to my brother. She was on birth control and then stopped taking her pill (conveniently forgot to mention it to my brother) She ended up pregnant, but lost the baby at 11 weeks. She gained 35 pounds (no, I'm not kidding) in those 11 weeks. She also bought herself an engagement ring and started planning their wedding.
Long story short, my brother decided she was way too BSC for him and broke off the "engagement". I was really heartbroken for her because she was my best friend and I tried my best to be there for her. She then started dating my cousin, yeh I know, real winner.. and became really good friends with my aunt and my other cousin. Well, she told them that I "tricked DH into getting me pregnant, trapped him into marrying me, and I'm not growing because I'm pregnant, I'm growing because I eat too much McDonalds." And the whole time she was running her mouth, she was crying to me and we were hanging out like everything was okay. My cousin finally broke down and told me what she said.
I think it's hilarious because she's stopped taking birth control, DH and I tried for our baby.. She's the one that bought her own engagement ring, I had no idea DH was gonna propose.. She gained 35 pounds in 11 weeks, I've gained 18 pounds total so far and I'm 34 weeks. So who trapped who? lol
Sorry that was long, but bottom line, I agree with you. Sounds like your friend is a little jealous. =/
Yikes what a mess! Def sounds like a good thing that nut bag isn't your friend anymore. Whats up with dating all your family members, you must breed well! haha. I think you're right, and I'm not sure what to do about it. As of now I just haven't talked to her for a few days but it seems to make her hatefulness worse.
Idk what's up with her dating all my family members. lol She's just nuts. As for your friend.. if she's any kind of a friend, she'll get over her jealous rage and start being supportive and happy for you. If not, let her go. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses and move on in life.. It sounds like you're growing up a lot faster than she is and until she catches up, things won't be the same.
As long as you have DH and your baby, you don't need people who are just gonna bring you down. You're better than that and you deserve supportive friends. It might suck, but you're probably better off without her.
this!
makes me feel so sad and left out- its quite pitiful really!
I have recently dealt with a jealous friend as well. Basically I had to just cut her negativity out of my life and really ask myself - as a friend what positive aspect was she bringing to our relationship? I honestly couldn't come up with anything- though I'm sad to lose a friend ( my matron of honor btw) I realize that people grow apart and me always giving of myself is not fair. Im just trying to keep my head up lately and be thankful for the people that are there when I need them.
Good Luck and you know you deserve better then that!
This... totally... I know she's your friend but for you, hubby and the baby's sake cut the negitivity OUT of your life! If she values your friendship she wouldn't be like that.