Not trying to debate working moms/SAHMs, but...

MommaMcG · February 2010

My friend from college is starting her own preschool, and this is what she said on her site: "My three-year-old daughter is eager to learn and has progressed in her early education more quickly since I have been able to be home with her."

I'm glad she can be a SAHM, but that statement makes me feel like my baby won't progress as well since I work. I think any baby can progress quickly as long as you work with them. You don't have to stay at home to do that. My good friend's daughter didn't progress fast at all and she stayed at home. She also put her in front of Disney movies for most of the time. It all depends on how you work with them. I dunno, that statement ticks me off.

jusbex · February 2010

Yeah, that would irk me too. It seems quite grandiose. (and fwiw, I'm a SAHM)

C_mommy · February 2010

That would make me mad too. Granted, I worked in a day care where babies were just laid in cribs all day (not my classroom) but the interaction can be VERY low in day cares. I stay at home, and I know (because its me) that my son is getting 1 on 1 attention. I however don't believe he is progressing faster than any other baby, who has a working mom.

Statements like that, make SAHM's look bad. We're not all snarky biotches that think our kids sh!t rainbows.

Lucky428 · February 2010

I am a SAHM and I also have my college degree in Early Childhood Development/Education and I used to be a preschool teacher.

SO MUCH goes into teaching a young child. It is an unbelievable challenge. Teaching early literacy skills, math skills, all that....

I believe that early education is very important and the child should be taught by a professional.

That statement pisses me off too.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · February 2010

That statement irks me as well, though I'm sure your friend didn't realize how it could be taken. It's not as though a baby only learns from its mother. As long as the baby is being stimulated by his/her caregiver(s), then that can be equally as rewarding.

That can almost be taken as though caregivers other than Mom just leave the baby swinging all day. I honestly believe that DS gets more stimulation from my MIL (she babysits) because it's not as though she's doing anything other than taking care of him, no household chores/bills/cooking, etc. On the days that I don't get to play with him much after work, it makes me feel better to know that he gets that kind of stimulation from her during the day.

Christina79 · February 2010

I don't see anything wrong with that statement. Her child needed more individual attention from her that she wasn't able to give, and now is. She doesn't imply that to be the case for all kids, just her own.

meshl · February 2010

I agree with exactly what you said. Personally, I'm a SAHM and wished that my baby could go to day care, at least for part of the day, for the socialization and I know most day cares are very education and would know what to do better than me.

beckytr · February 2010

i think my son learned to roll over by watching the other babies do it at daycare. they talk and laugh each other too, i think it is good for him! but i certainly wouldn't make any sort of rude comments like my way is the best b/c ppl do all kinds of different things that are all good!

chelsearenee · February 2010

Eh - sounds fine to me. I think she's just saying she is capable of helping babies learn. Wouldnt you want someone like that to watch your child? Sounds to me like she's trying to say she wont let them just lay in cribs as pp said.

MrsV092207 · February 2010

I can see how it can be interpreted that way.. but I read it a little different. I think she is saying she is qualified in teaching early education and is using her daughter's progress as an example, and saying that she realized she could do this bc she had the time to do it at home. I don't take it as a hit to working moms. JMO

ZAngel · February 2010

Of course I believe parents should be responsible for teaching their children. However, that can be done if you are working or staying home. Spending just a few hours per day talking and teaching will make a world of difference. I was a single mom going to school and working 40+ hours a week. I found the time to teach my child and he developed a lot faster than I ever imagined. He went on to enter the gifted program at age 5 and continues to excel. I have the opportunity to stay at home now. I do work with DD more often, but I wouldn't say that she has the upper hand because of it. As long as you aren't sitting around waiting for the schools to teach your children, they will do just fine (working or not).

mavilabride · February 2010

Working moms need to stop feeling guilty.

A mother that does what she needs to do for the sake of her family is always a great mother, whether that be in the house 24/7 or working.

Period.

ToyLes0922 · February 2010

MrsV092207:
I can see how it can be interpreted that way.. but I read it a little different. I think she is saying she is qualified in teaching early education and is using her daughter's progress as an example, and saying that she realized she could do this bc she had the time to do it at home. I don't take it as a hit to working moms. JMO

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HydePark · February 2010

MrsV092207:
I can see how it can be interpreted that way.. but I read it a little different. I think she is saying she is qualified in teaching early education and is using her daughter's progress as an example, and saying that she realized she could do this bc she had the time to do it at home. I don't take it as a hit to working moms. JMO

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