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2nd Trimester
what are your fears?
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Re: what are your fears?
What aren't my fears!?!
First off, getting through this pregnancy healthy. I'm a big girl and worry a ton about HBP, GD and pre-E.
Then I worry about being able to have a natural birth and no C-section. I had my appendix out when I was 20 and if I never experience abdominal surgery again it will be too soon.
Then I worry about PPD. I have a history of depression/anxiety and fortunately am prepared to deal (meds, therapist, whatever) but it scares me all the same.
Then I worry that my maternal instinct won't kick in and I'll be tired and resentful of DH and baby.
Other than that I expect it to be hard, but fulfilling, so I don't have any other specific fears... Yes, I'm insane I know.
1. I'm worried about not being prepared and forgetting something important.
2. I really, really want to EBF and I've heard so many stories of women who can't or babies that don't latch well and the guilt that follows. I really hope everything goes well in that area for LO.
3. I think there are so many general concerns that every parent has and I'm definitely feeling them all. Will I be a good enough mom, will I raise her right, how do i protect her from everything bad in the world??? But there is a certain point to which you cannot be overwhelmed by things and you just have to sit back and have faith & confidence in yourself and DH and know that you are providing the best love and care for your child.
It'll all be ok, one way or another, everything will be fine.
i'm worried that if my baby is a girl, that she will have the same psychological body image and self-esteem issues that my mom and i have.
and frankly, i'm afraid i'm just going to suck as a mom.
Money money money! My husband and I are both teachers and are already struggling-who knows what will happen when the baby arrives!
Also being judged by the all-knowing in-laws.
Right now my biggest fear is going into pre-term labor. I don't know why, there really is no reason for it (healthy pregnancy thus far).
My fears :
SIDs
Not being able to breast feed
PPD
not getting the whole "mommy thing"
and I'm pretty sure at first I will be scared to death to be alone w/ baby... I can't help it its a totally new thing for me! Other than my nieces and nephews I"ve never been around babies!!!
I agree w/ this... I love my ILs to death but they are the same way.
First off, I'm afraid LO will get stuck in my pelvis and I'll have to have a c-section.
Second, I'm afraid that I'll sleep through him crying in the middle of the night, and he'll grow up to resent me.
I'm afraid that I won't know how to educate my child enough or stimulate them enough when they are an infant.
And I'm afraid I won't know something or read enough and I'll miss something...
But overall I think DH and I are going to be great parents, I know that there won't be a lack of love in this house and that's what really matters, not whether my baby can play the piano at 3 :-)
WOW so many to list
1. Where am I going to work now and after?
2. How is our life gonna change?
3. having a happy healthy baby/pregnancy
4. $$
4.5 Will husband and I cope well in our marriage with the great changes to come?
5. Dealing with everyone's advice/criticism esp MIL
5.5 what am i gonna do about school?
6. the WHAT IF
7. the UNKNOWN
i worry myself to death daily- it can't be normal
Both of these. This baby was a surprise and I'm a little scared of losing freedom. I know that's selfish but it has taken so long to set in. We are both still in school and have only been married a year and a half and we are only 21/22. (22/23 when LO comes).
This isn't a big fear, just a little one. But we are team green. I have a strong feeling that this baby is a girl. I am trying to hard to think of it as either one and be open minded about it because it could be! I am afraid that if it is a boy, it will take me a second in the delivery room to adjust to it. Don't get me wrong, I will love this child no matter what. I just don't want to be like "Really?" if DH says "It's a boy!"
Plus (and I know it's silly) but I'm afraid of my water breaking somewhere in public, or while sitting in church or at some other awful time.
ETA: I just thought of 2 more! Related to finances, I am afraid if we don't get some financial help, I will have to get another job or DH will or something. I don't want to AT ALL. I LOVE my job.
I am also afraid of the unknown. I know scientifically what to expect, but I don't know what to expect. I have no idea what contractions feel like, I have no idea if I will be able to tolerate the pain, etc.
*whew* I feel better.