s/o B&N play area -- I'm insane and won't go to them.

LizzieandGar · February 2010

I can not let go of the idea that there are a thousand other kids touching the toys at places like Barnes and Noble and if we played there he would inevitably come home and a few days later be extremely sick.

Now, I know this is crazy -- I can't keep him in a bubble and he WILL get sick again eventually. He was in daycare for about two and a half weeks before Christmas and he will go back in March so I need to get over it, but I can't get the thought of all those germs out of my head. How do you just let go? It sounds so simple but I'm having a hard time with it. We haven't been out of the house in two weeks except to go to the doctor.

Shell24 · February 2010

Washing hands?

It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.

If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.

You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.

missfire · February 2010

I got DS a flu shot, and I wipe his hands down with antibacterial hand wipes after he's done playing, and hope for the best. Since DS is in daycare, it's usually the opposite concern now -- he usually already has a cold, so I won't take him to the play areas.

After cold & flu season, it's not so bad. But I still prefer going those places in the morning, when not too many kids have been through yet.

anna7602 · February 2010

Do you go to the local playground? Library? I don't see any difference between these places and B & N.

DD goes absolutely stir crazy if we don't go out at least once a day, even if it's just to go to the grocery store or the local coffee shop. She brings her shoes and coat to me so we can get ready to go.

mrsdiamonds · February 2010

I think I would go crazy locked up in the house for 2 weeks. Antibacterial wipes/hand sanitizer are good to have if you are that scared of germs.

Shell24 · February 2010

anna7602:

Do you go to the local playground? Library? I don't see any difference between these places and B & N.

DD goes absolutely stir crazy if we don't go out at least once a day, even if it's just to go to the grocery store or the local coffee shop. She brings her shoes and coat to me so we can get ready to go.

LOL! My DD does this too. She'll run to the front hall closet and try to get it open.

LizzieandGar · February 2010

Shell24:
Washing hands?
It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.
If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.
You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.

Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?

And we've been to the doctor about five times.

I realize it's crazy and I need to get over it but I'm completely freaked out. We don't go anywhere. Not the library or play area or anything.

krys2729 · February 2010

two weeks without going anywhere? my god. get the kid some rubber gloves and take him out. and find a good shrink for yourself. this is not normal.

Miss.Modular · February 2010

i cannot believe you have not been out of the house in 2 weeks. have you considered therapy or meds? i wouldnt be able to live like that. I am actually trying to be helpful, not snarky.

mrsdiamonds · February 2010

LizzieandGar:
Shell24:
Washing hands?
It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.
If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.
You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.
Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?
And we've been to the doctor about five times.

Way to leave out the most important part of your story

thomas&lynn · February 2010

I don't know, I just never really felt any alarm over lots of things kiddos do. I let her taste straight up dirt once at the park ::shrugs::: I figured she'd hate it but she went for another try and I did then step in and say 'oooh, honey that's yucky' and all that lol.

She's tried sand, crayons, playdoh, random crumbs off the floor etc. I don't know I just know somehow it's okay. And that I can't possibly stop it all the time.

That said, I do use a shopping cart cover and if I don't care to use it, I wipe everything down with a Wet Wipe first (antibacterial). I always Wet Wipe the grocery scanner thing if I'm having her help me. We wash our hands before and after meals at restaurants etc. I feel that that's just good measure to try to keep healthy though.

My DD has only had 1 bad cold (just last month) and 1 week long runny nose back when she was 9mos old.

missfire · February 2010

LizzieandGar:
Shell24:

Washing hands?

It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.

If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.

You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.

Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?

And we've been to the doctor about five times.

I realize it's crazy and I need to get over it but I'm completely freaked out. We don't go anywhere. Not the library or play area or anything.

I think it's reasonable to stay close to home for awhile & let his immune system recover from all that!

LizzieandGar · February 2010

mrsdiamonds:

Way to leave out the most important part of your story

I've said it about a billion times in other posts. I thought people might know and be sick of hearing it. My mistake.

MrsVictoriaB · February 2010

mrsdiamonds:
LizzieandGar:
Shell24:
Washing hands?
It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.
If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.
You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.
Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?
And we've been to the doctor about five times.
Way to leave out the most important part of your story

Agree.. for a healthy child I'd find it weird to stay in all the time.. but in your situation I completely understand it. Kind of needed the back story though

sapphirebride06 · February 2010

Is it necessary to call her a rude name because you left out the part your son was in the hospital? That was not quite necessary. If he went through all that then obviously it would be different and everyone could likely understand you keeping him from other germs. Hope he is recovering well and does not have any other issues.

mrsdiamonds · February 2010

LizzieandGar:
mrsdiamonds:

Way to leave out the most important part of your story
I've said it about a billion times in other posts. I thought people might know and be sick of hearing it. My mistake.

Sorry, I've never heard it. In your case, I totally understand your worries.

Shell24 · February 2010

LizzieandGar:
Shell24:

Washing hands?

It's not like my DD is shoving crap in her mouth or shoving her hands in her mouth. So when she's done playing we wash our hands.

If you're that much of a germaphobe I don't know what to tell you.

You seriously haven't left the house for two weeks? How many times did you go to the doctor..once, maybe twice? Oookay.

Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?

And we've been to the doctor about five times.

I realize it's crazy and I need to get over it but I'm completely freaked out. We don't go anywhere. Not the library or play area or anything.

Oh my gosh! I didn't hear about what is going on in the life of an internet stranger? So I answered a post based on the information given in the original post? Wow! What a concept.

Um yeah, that would have been pertinent information to include, don't you think? It probably would have changed everyone's responses. It would have made you less of a crazy germaphobe for sure.

Sorry for what your son went through, but damn, common sense here lady. If you want appropriate responses, include the whole story.

So now my answer would be, no, don't take him to a place like that right now when he was just hospitalized.

mary5198 · February 2010

Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?

You probably should have mentioned this. I would have thought you were a little overprotective otherwise, but this changes things.

columbiamommy · February 2010

Your situation sounds horrible and would make me nervous, too. However, I like DD to socialize with other kids, and she absolutely loves it. She also likes to wash her hands and use sanitizer, so we just make sure to clean our hands after playing or being out anywhere.

Califlorida · February 2010

i tell myself that the other moms are as OCD and paranoid about germs as i am. it's wishful thinking, but it helps me get over it.

J&A2008 · February 2010

Yikes. Post gone bad.

Lizzie, if you don't want people to think you're an insane germophobe, a couple tips: 1) include the whole story; 2) don't call yourself "insane" in the title

LizzieandGar · February 2010

Shell24:

Oh my gosh! I didn't hear about what is going on in the life of an internet stranger? So I answered a post based on the information given in the original post? Wow! What a concept.
Um yeah, that would have been pertinent information to include, don't you think? It probably would have changed everyone's responses. It would have made you less of a crazy germaphobe for sure.
Sorry for what your son went through, but damn, common sense here lady. If you want appropriate responses, include the whole story.
So now my answer would be, no, don't take him to a place like that right now when he was just hospitalized.

As I said above, since I've said it tons I'd think people were sick of hearing the sob story. My mistake.

Whether or not I mentioned it to begin with still doesn't mean you had to be unnecessarily snarky, which you were. I know, I know. It's the internet, it's out there, puppies and rainbows, blah blah blah. Lesson learned.

krys2729 · February 2010

sapphirebride06:
Is it necessary to call her a rude name because you left out the part your son was in the hospital? That was not quite necessary. If he went through all that then obviously it would be different and everyone could likely understand you keeping him from other germs. Hope he is recovering well and does not have any other issues.

was it necessary for her to lable herself INSANE in the post title???

LizzieandGar · February 2010

krys2729:
sapphirebride06:
Is it necessary to call her a rude name because you left out the part your son was in the hospital? That was not quite necessary. If he went through all that then obviously it would be different and everyone could likely understand you keeping him from other germs. Hope he is recovering well and does not have any other issues.
was it necessary for her to lable herself INSANE in the post title???

I'm not sure what your saying here but I'm pretty sure she was asking me if calling someone a biitch was necessary, not defending me against someone.

And the title was a way of me illustrating that I knew my fear was irrational but you can take how you would like to.

meggiekins · February 2010

LizzieandGar:
Maybe I should have put in the OP that my kid was just in the hospital for three weeks on a ventilator with severe bacerial pneumonia that caused complete respiratory failure? Would that have made you less of a biitch?
And we've been to the doctor about five times.
I realize it's crazy and I need to get over it but I'm completely freaked out. We don't go anywhere. Not the library or play area or anything.

Maybe you shouldn't ask if you don't want to hear people's opinions, or include relevant backstory in a post, even if you've mentioned it in the past?

Because really, the only person being unnecessarily biitchy in this post is you.

I hope your son continues to do well. I wouldn't take him out for awhile given his medical history, so I don't think you're insane. Just overreacting to the responses you're getting.

skoorbnibor · February 2010

I just don't see it as an issue. Yeah, he gets sick sometimes, and he has been very ill with RSV last year, but really, i can't protect him from all germs and he needs some exposure...

I want him to have fun.

and lastly, I would lose it, if I had to stay home.

Monkeybuttwhat · February 2010

Wash hands. Wipe things down before they play. Antibacterial instant soap.

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