- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Single Parents
meghan_marie
member
What's a redflag for you?
meghan_marie
member
I realize not all of our ex's are the same, but they all have one thing in common... They are DOUCHEBAGS! With that being said, what is a redflag for you? What could someone say or do that would make you run for the hills?
Here is mine:
*Does not pay for the date. If I have to pay for myself or even worse, him too then I am out. I will not date a bum again!
*Will not answer personal questions or questions about his past. Do not tell me it's none of my business. If I am going to call you my man, it's my business. I need to know who you are!
*Refuses to talk about his past "partners". If I'm going to sleep with you, I want to know if you are a man-wh*re or not.
*Comes dressed with his clothes wrinkled or dirty. You're either pure lazy or just a slob if you can't fix yourself up a little bit for me.
*Checks my texts messages before I get a chance too. Have a little faith in me, I'm not cheating on you, therefore you have no reason to worry about me.
Feel free to add girls! I'm sure I'll post some more as I start thinking about them.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: What's a redflag for you?
There are more, but these are the only two I can think of off the top of my head:
Calls all of his ex-girlfriends "crazy."
Introduces you to everyone as his "friend."
I'm not going to say all of my ex's were crazy, but the guy I dated before BD was umm... crazy. Josh, yeah he was just a lazy bum. Haha.. Lazy and crazy... What a deadly combo?
My biggest problem will be trusting someone.
It's hard to know if someone is lying about something...H lied about a lot of sh!t, and of course, I didn't find out about half of it until it was too late.
Like the day we got married, I asked him specifically if they had been drinking the night before. He told me no.
Three months later, I found out that he had been drinking. When I confronted him and asked him why he lied his response was "I knew if I told you the truth, you wouldn't marry me"....Yet his mom wants let his age be an excuse for our divorce. I'm sorry but he knew what he was doing when we got married!!!
If they drink a lot, or do drugs, I don't want anything to do with them
If they don't have a relationship with their family, I don't want to be with them
There are other things, but it's late and I'm tired!
LOL. I think a lot of people have dated someone who might be a little unstable; I know I have. But if he's saying all of his exes are crazy, there's a reason. After dating more than one guy who has had this claim, I have realized that they say this because they have something to hide. They want to make sure that if you hear anything from women, you don't believe it because they're "crazy." For example, in one relationship I kept getting myspace and facebook messages from women saying that they were dating my boyfriend. His response: "They're crazy exes who are obsessed with me and can't get over me." Yeah, right... he was promptly dumped.
I think what is really important in relationships (especially with little ones to worry about) is to trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, it's because it isn't; don't wait around for proof that it isn't just because the guy seems really great.
- Video games! If a guy owns a game system I dont want anything to do with him. I want a REAL man, not one trapped in his teens and has no concept of responsibility
- Someone who's idea of a "date" is to just hang out on the couch. I seriously won't pay for a sitter NOT to be wined and dined!
- Someone who is indecisive. If you want to take me out then decided where were are going. I have to make enough decisions on my own I shouldn't have to ALWAYS pick the restaurant/movie/etc.
- Someone who is more interested in a physical relationship. Don't get me wrong ladies, I love being physical. There is just more to a relationship then the bedroom
- Someone who can't keep up a conversation. I get that conversations die, but if all I get is one liners I'm done.
Those are the first that come to mind. If I really took time to think about it there would be a hell of a lot more!
Anything that reminds me of XH: time spent in prison, DUIs, prior drug use, lying, etc. There were plenty of red flags with him and I ignored them all.
-If we can't have a deep conversation then we're done
-If he acts defensive about weird things-like his family then that is odd]
-Not having a license
-Not having a job
-Doesn't seem interested in getting to know DS-done, out the door!
-Makes money in shady ways-nope, not gonna work for me
-I agree about the "crazy exes" thing-not that they have to be best friends but still
-Seems only interested in "one thing" no good!
-Wants to have unprotected sex without getting tested first
-Not affectionate
-Doesn't seem to be intelligent
I am sure there are more but that's all I have got for now!
LOL... I'm a gamer.
Not true for everyone on this board...
I have a game system as well. Mine's collecting dust right now though. LOL. The only time it gets played is when I have Cooper (6) at my house and he is bored, then I'll play it with him. :]
I love gaming... I play WoW, I have a Wii and my good ole Super Nintendo. I'm a big geek so I require that a guy has equal geekiness. lol
I can honestly say I've never hears of WoW. LOL
My mom wants a Wii so she can play Wii fit. LOL! That will be the only gaming system I will let my LO play. If s/he is going to be attached to a video game, I'd prefer it to be something that moves them around a bit so they get some type of exercise in. LOL