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Question about abortions and subsequent children...
Ok - I watched the first of that "Bump" show and saw that one of the girls has had 3 abortions and is pregnant again and thinking about aborting this one as well.
I guess my question is - do you think that someone who has had an abortion and goes on to have children thinks of their born children differently? Or goes back and thinks about the aborted children?
I guess with 4 abortions, I can't imagine her thinking of children without some emotional separation (but that's totally just me).
I dunno. Just wondering.
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Re: Question about abortions and subsequent children...
Why the hell has she had 4 abortions?
So she's mature enough to keep having sex, but not mature enough to know abut the glory of condoms, Plan-B, BCP or abstinence? Awesome.
I haven't seen it but it sounds like this person is a complete moron who needs a major sit down to discuss birth control options. That makes me so angry and sad.
To answer your question though, I would think someone in that situation would think of their born children differently and yes, probably would be thinking about the aborted children all the time.
This exactly.
First, let me say that the show is fiction. Second, I don't think most women who have an abortion go on to have 4 abortions. Third, I`m sure that when women have a child after and abortion they cherish their child just as much as any of us do, but I`m sure they still think about the child they did not have.
Who's to say though. I haven't had an abortion, so it's hard for me to comment on how they would feel. It's all just speculation.
The comedian, Chelsea Handler (her show in E! is Chelsea Lately) commonly speaks about her 4 abortions.... I love her show and her comedy but I never like it when she talks about that
If you would like to know more about the aftermath of abortion, I highly recommend you take a look at the silent no more awareness campaign. www.silentnomoreawareness.org
I know a woman who has 3 children, and has had multiple abortions. Most recently she had one because she did not want to be pregnant at her wedding.
Now she and her husband are having problems getting pregnant. I wonder how she feels knowing that she aborted what could have been the only child she and her husband could have had together.
This exactly! I have a lot of thoughts about stuff like that!
Sherri Shepherd from the view has been vocal about her past and how at one point she has had "more abortions than she can count" or something to that effect. She had a son later in life through infertility treatments (not sure which one).
From the way she talks about her abortions, she now believes her babies are in heaven and that when she dies they will greet her and say "I forgive you mama."
It's hard for me to imagine being in her position. I think anyone who has had multiple abortions has to come to terms with it in some way. So it's probably a very individualized answer.
I know that show is suppose to be fiction. I actually met a woman when I was in college at a party, and she already had 3 or 4 abortions. She was pregnant again and she wasn't sure if she was going to abort that baby, too. In my head, all I could think of as I watched her smoke and drink that you might as well get another abortion because you're not doing that baby any favors.
I don't understand people who have abortions back to back like that. I'm Pro-Choice, because I think every women has a right to their own body and choices they make based on their circumstances. However, I'm not trying to start a debate about abortion. Seriously, if you are that fertile than maybe you should abstain for a while until you can get your life straighten out.
HA-I scan OB patients and let me tell you, there are very many women who use this as thier birth control method and eihter could or couldnt cherish the lucky ones they decide to keep (and probably shouldnt)...many times, they end up keeping one because they found out too late to have a termination...my favorite is when they go to the "abortion clinic" and after finding out they are having twins, decide to keep the pregnancy now because they couldnt take care of one, but were meant to have these babies....the world is filled with all kinds.....and we literally pay for thier abortions/mistakes
Sure, some women use abortion as birth control. They are idiots. And sure, some women DON'T cherish their children. But I refuse to believe that all women who have abortions are irresponsible and horrible people. I know plenty of women who have chosen to have an abortion b/c it was the right choice for them at the time. They did not have other abortions b/c they learned from their experience. You're speaking from one side. Not all women who had abortions are like that.
Yeah. I know. And he found out about it and almost didn't marry her. Almost. Some of his groomsmen even dropped out when they found out. Trainwreck.
This is me exactly. I hate when people say pro-choice people are "pro-abortion".
I watch her show every single night and absolutely love it and I had no idea of this. Makes me look at her a little differently though. If you are getting multiple abortions like that, you need to come up with a different plan of not getting pg.
She didn't tell him?!?!?
WHAT... let me read that again... WHAT??? had an abortion because she didn't want to be pregnant at her wedding. OH EMME GEE... what's next? Don't want to be pregnant during swimsuit season???
Nope. She said she wasn't pregnant, then said she miscarried, then finalllllly came out with the truth.
I wish I was kidding about this. But, sigh, I am not.
Exactly my point, not all women think like most of the people on these boards probably would think about having multiple abortions..... I agree that there are circumstances where it is necessary or the right thing, especially in the field I work, Im not at all against them....but I am just venting and saying that there are many women who do this and couldnt give a crap and they irriate me....
Oh STFU.
Sorry,I should add that Im not irritated by the patient with a single termination or even 2 sometimes, but the patient who comes in and has had like 4/5 makes me mad
Seriously? Cheeky wanted to know what women think about after abortions. So I posted to some very brave women that came out and talked about how abortion changed their lives. You don't have to think that everyone that has an abortion feels like they do (we all have different feelings, reactions, and emotions), but you could at least respect their experience and their courage to come forward and talk about it.
so it's the "right thing for them at the time" logic (like pp said) is ok for up to 2 abortions? but after 2, three is in the gray area and four is one too many?
The extreme pro-lifers would like everyone to believe that if you have an abortion it will emotionally devastate you for life and you will spend the rest of your life regretting it. While I respect them for sharing their stories, I am sure there are just as many women who had one, felt it was what they needed to do in their situation at the time, and moved on with their life and are now completely healthy emotionally.
Late to the topic but some numbers and thoughts based on some of the above comments - most of which are all googl'able ...
43% of women will have an abortion before the age of 45,
47% of all abortions performed are for women who have had more than one previous abortion
1% of abortions are because of rape, 8% due to health/medical reasons and 91% are for social reasons (ie: baby was not wanted).
Abortions are highest for African American women (but not by much). There are currently more African American babies available for adoption than there are people who wish to adopt them. Those children either are taken in to a home with parents who didn't want them in the first place because there was not a couple available to adopt the child or the child goes into the foster care system where after a certain age may never be adopted out of the system.
There are not necessarily more African American birth parents placing their baby for adoption than white birth parents - but there are fewer black adoptive parents and even fewer white adoptive parents who want/are open to/ seek a black child.
End of random information/thoughts.
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