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Apparently I am a big bad bully

murfygirlmurfygirl member
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I am being induced Monday morning at 5am. I have to do 4 hours of cervadil to see if that gets me anywhere then they will start pitocin. So really probably 10am is the soonest I will be on pitocin and this is my first so I wouldn't be surprised if Silas is born late Monday night.

So I know my family if its after their bedtime they want a text with a pic and they will come see him after their beauty rest. DH's family on the other hand would want to come see us even in the middle of the night. Well I informed them that if Silas is born after 10pm we will not be wanting visitors till Tuesday. I will have been up since 3:30 am in labor all day etc. Now I am getting flamed for not letting family be there. Really am I that in the wrong?!

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  • PurpleK26PurpleK26 member

    What are your hospital visiting hours? Our visitors have to leave at 8pm. Now, I don't know how strict they are about that, but, they make a hospital wide announcement...

    So, maybe you can blame it on the hospital? 

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  • soko987soko987 member

    Um, hells no, you're not in the wrong. Eff them.

    Plus, most hospitals have pretty stringent visiting hours - just tell the nurses and they can handle it for you: "Oh, I'm sorry, visiting hours don't start until 10am".  Nurses don't mind being the bad guys :) I do it all the time at my job.

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  • BubFlinkBubFlink

    Not at all!!

     I think it is completely reasonable especially after starting your day at 5 am.  Not too mention the fact that you probably won't be able to sleep on Sunday night due to the excitement!

    You are NOT wrong, honey!

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  • TXTwisterBabeTXTwisterBabe
    Um, you're the one squeezing that baby out, therefore what you say GOES no matter what.  So what if you're a bully?  It's YOUR baby!
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  • murfygirlmurfygirl member
    They do have visiting hours that end at 8pm. Although my sis (she has delivered there 3times) says if you are still in your labor and delivery room they dont have visiting hours.
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  • Athena5692Athena5692 member

    I would say after giving birth you have the right to get some rest.  It's seriously not going to kill them to wait a little bit longer.

    And like the pp's said, maybe you can just blame it on visiting hours so they can't get upset with you.

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  • curlychiccurlychic member
    You have every right to keep them out.  This is your baby and your day.  See what the hospital policy is too.  Our maternity ward is locked down and you can't get in without going through security.  All we have to do is tell security no visitors - regardless of the time of day - and they handle it!  Smile You don't even have to say anything to the family!
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  • MrsJax09MrsJax09
    I dont think so. You are going to be TIRED and no one wants to feel obligated to entertain people when you are crabby from exhaustion. There will be an entire lifetime to see him and it's not like you are letting in friends first. They just need to take a chill pill. GL with the induction!
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  • NYTXbrideNYTXbride
    I don't think you are in the wrong at all, let them wait till the morning.  You won't want visitors especially after being up so early in the morning.  I'd blame it on the hospital visiting hours too!
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  • vanverthvanverth

    And what is DH saying about this since it is his family?  He needs to wade in and support you against the bullies in his family that are trying to make you feel guilty because after working all day you do not want to be bothered by a bunch of looky-loos.  Here is another thing, don't text them when the baby is born.  If they can not respect your wishes, then you have to protect yourself against their intrusion.  Good luck with the induction.

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  • LLinMNLLinMN
    If you ask me, they are the bullies.  It seems mean to me to make a woman who has just given birth to have to put up with visitors in the middle of the night.  There is absolutely no reason they can't wait until the morning.
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  • RunningMomRunningMom

    I've never had a vaginal birth so it could be different...


    But I went in for my csection at 7 and it was ~11 before I got to my room. And I kept the baby with ME the whole time. So unless you were with me you didn't see the baby. ?I did have 2 friends up there waiting for me and I love them but a room full of people? ?No way! ?I went to sleep shortly?

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  • BBachmannBBachmann
    They'll get over it.  Do what you need to do.
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  • jacodijacodi
    imagesoko987:

    Um, hells no, you're not in the wrong. Eff them.

    Plus, most hospitals have pretty stringent visiting hours - just tell the nurses and they can handle it for you: "Oh, I'm sorry, visiting hours don't start until 10am".  Nurses don't mind being the bad guys :) I do it all the time at my job.

    What she said.

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  • americanadaamericanada

    why do people not get this??? too bad...i like the suggestion of just not sending a text until the morning.  when YOU'RE ready.

    i'm having so much anxiety about visitors...at the hospital, some bringing their kids, at home, some bringing their kids, too long of visits, dealing w/in-laws, etc...

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