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Mom staying after LO is born

sheparlisheparli
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So, my mom asked me if I want her to stay with me the first week of LO being home or the second. My DH is taking the first full week off so I was thinking that she should stay the second week. I have a 3 year old at home so I'm mainly concerned with handling them both on my own. Do you think it's better to have her there when I first get home for support or the second week when DH is gone?

Just to add that I'm really excited to have her there and she will still be able to visit when not staying b/c my parents are only an hour away.

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Re: Mom staying after LO is born

  • Shell24Shell24 member

    Definitely when your DH goes back to work.

    My DH is a fireman/paramedic and is only taking off a shift, maybe two, since he has 48 hours off in between anyway.  So for the first couple of weeks I think my mom will come on the days he's working.  I'll be on my own at night, but at least could nap during the day, etc.

    I think it's necessary until I know what sleeping habits this baby will have, etc.  My DD doesn't really nap that much during the day and is on the GO constantly!  I know I'll need the help.

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  • Summer20Summer20
    I'm planning to space out my Mom's visit and DH's time off.  I'd rather have one person helping for 2 weeks, then two people helping for 1 week.

    DD february 2010 | DS october 2011


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  • newmommyin2010newmommyin2010 member

    I say the second week since you will have your husband the first week home. My friend had a one year old and a newborn and it was tough for her. She said she didn't know what she would have done without help. Her husband had to go back to work right away.

    You are soo lucky to have Mom close by. My parents live in Michigan and I live in Missouri. My Mom is my best friend I talk to her every day. We text back and forth all day. Sometimes I wish we didn't move here. (long story) But I love my MIL and my husbands family. My parents are all that is left in Michigan and my brother. Everyone else moved away (most friends and extended family). I am hoping they meet our little man and grandson and decide to move here now! My Dad is still 3 years from retirement so they may have to wait. (Sigh)

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  • homebirdhomebird member
    My parents live four hours away, and my mom is going to stay with me for a week after the baby is born. My husband will be there for a few days (he doesn't get any paternity leave, so he'll have to use vacation days), but I think it never hurts to have some help during that first week.

    Evelyn (3.24.10), Graham (5.30.13) & Miles (8.28.16)
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  • NcarolinabrideNcarolinabride
    2nd week when DH is gone. Two weeks with help, that is wonderful :)
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  • stacynnickstacynnick member
    My mom has the same dilemma but we finally figured it out. My parents live 13 hours away though. My husband will be off only a week and my mom and stepdad will come up the week after. Then my mil will come up after them.
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  • lite-brightlite-bright member
    I'd definitely have her come when DH goes back to work, so that you have help for the longest amount of time instead of your DH and mom overlapping. 
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    DD1, 1/5/2008 ~~~ DD2, 3/17/2010
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