Our adoption home visit - long

str8ota · February 2010

Hey ladies, first let me say thank you so much for all of the support, this was not an easy decision at first but we are now excited about adopting & ttc.

So this weekend we busted ass getting the place clean, any part of our house that could be dusted and washed were, plus all the liquor & wine are now in a storage bin in the basement. We got rid of a lot of stuff we really didn't need and ended up filling all 3 of our garbage bins and our recycling bin that I actually went to the house next door that no one is living in and took their recycling bin, filled it up and put it back at empty house along with 1 of our filled garbage bins so we didn't look so obvious like we only clean when someone is coming over!

I even joked with H that we should have a home visit once a month because we finally replaced one of the bedroom's broken door and then decided while we were at it to replace a door in the kitchen and the closet in the computer/hopefully-one-day-to-be baby's room. I was extremely stressed and apparently pms-ing with was not a good mix. I wasn't worried about the visit itself, more about the house. I guess I just had this fear that a birth mom wouldn't consider us because we don't live in a huge mansion-like house like a lot of the profiles I have seen online, we are in a modest house, under 1000 sq ft in a neighborhood that is nothing like it use to be so my thought process was if we could make this look like the freaking cleanest, cutest house that we would really stand a chance. Funny thing is H brought that up to our adoption counselor and she said that a lot of BM's look at a lot more things than just your house, that the majority of them pick birthparents based on something they have in common with and that really put us at ease.

We absolutely love our adoption counselor, I even gave her a big hug when she was leaving, she is just the sweetest woman and you can tell her 1st priority is the welfare of the children. She shared a lot of stories with us and answered all of our questions (including that we are allowed too ttc while going through the process but if we did have a biological baby we would have to put the adoption on hold for at least 12 months before we were eligible to adopt). Our next home visit is 2/12.

Oh and btw, she never even left the living room during her visit! Stick out tongue

mlmtgg · February 2010

good news all around! so glad this went well and you are into the process! can't wait to hear updates from you and BONUS: clean house and new doors!!

KelinandKevin · February 2010

I am SO glad that everything went well! Did you go through an agency? Or is this a State thing?

str8ota · February 2010

KelinandKevin:
I am SO glad that everything went well! Did you go through an agency? Or is this a State thing?

We are going through Catholic Social Services in MI and also a Native-American agency out-of-state since H is NA and we are eligible.

LMichelleG · February 2010

Good News and yay for a clean home!! Good Luck!!

PeetiePie · February 2010

Of course since you did all that work she never left the living room. I'm so glad it went well. Will she come back on 2/12 or is that visit with someone else?

Scout05 · February 2010

I am so glad this visit was positive. Did she say anything about the dogs (I know you were worried about this)?

Jenny102783 · February 2010

I am so glad everything went well! Yay!

str8ota · February 2010

PeetiePie:
Of course since you did all that work she never left the living room. I'm so glad it went well. Will she come back on 2/12 or is that visit with someone else?

She will be the one who comes back for the visit.

denise_m · February 2010

That sounds like a great visit

And YAY on the clean house

str8ota · February 2010

ambrandau2:
I am so glad this visit was positive. Did she say anything about the dogs (I know you were worried about this)?

She loved the dogs...even Molly who was acting especially needy that day like no one pays attention to her! We kept them in the kitchen most of the time with the baby gate up.

chachita07 · February 2010

PeetiePie:
Will she come back on 2/12 or is that visit with someone else?

ditto. LOL about having monthly visits, Maybe this will move our husbands butts to fix more things around the house.

So happy to hear that everything went great and that you now have a de-cluttered house! Was the birth mom there?

I wish you the best of luck, I think its so wonderful you are adopting!

PeetiePie · February 2010

str8ota:

ambrandau2:
I am so glad this visit was positive. Did she say anything about the dogs (I know you were worried about this)?

She loved the dogs...even Molly who was acting especially needy that day like no one pays attention to her! We kept them in the kitchen most of the time with the baby gate up.

I was wondering about that too. Good news!

Scout05 · February 2010

str8ota:

ambrandau2:
I am so glad this visit was positive. Did she say anything about the dogs (I know you were worried about this)?

She loved the dogs...even Molly who was acting especially needy that day like no one pays attention to her! We kept them in the kitchen most of the time with the baby gate up.

That is such awsome news. I'm glad she gets how great you guys are.