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A totally stupid question....

mrsmiller06mrsmiller06
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I'm admitting that from the begining, it's a totally stupid question.

So I'm reading here that most people who are bfing don't get af for a long time, or if they do, they get it once and then not again for a while. My question is (please don't flame me!) how do you know if you get ku again?? DH is insistent that we ttc again right away (yes, he is slightly insane). I know bf'ing is supposed to be a semi-bc... but we're not even doing the pull and pray- he is full on "trying" already!

(hanging head in shame) so there is my stupid question....Embarrassed

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    eas15905eas15905
    NOT a supid question!  I actually have no idea!  You guys are brave though!!  GL!!!!!!
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    Vandy05Vandy05

    Not stupid at all... because I have no clue!!! I guess you go on feeling?!

    ps- Your DH is nuts!!! :)

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    mrsmiller06mrsmiller06
    Omg, I am totally not ready for it lol. But I think that he is worried that it will take us close to 3yrs to get another one to stick. I'd love for Alyssa to be the baby for a while longer, but I honestly have no idea if or when I would even be fertile as of yet, I'd prefer to avoid him on these days if I could find out when they are lol.
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    savernesaverne
    Good question!  We are just using a condom and if one broke and I got KU, oh well!  and I am BFing too.  So, could we technically chart?  could that potentially tell us when we O'd, etc?
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    mrsmiller06mrsmiller06
    I was wondering about the charting thing too... but then I didn't think it would be effective bc the baby wakes us up about every 3hrs....
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    MrsPattersonMrsPatterson member

    imageeas15905:
    NOT a supid question!  I actually have no idea!  You guys are brave though!!  GL!!!!!!

    This, as well as OMG MrsMiller your DD is freaking adorable!!!!!

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    jeffraejeffrae member
    symptoms is the only way, plus POAS.  wow, 2 under 1!!!
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    Rachel&JoeRachel&Joe

    hmmm...  I don't think it is medically advisable to get pregnant within a year of having a c/s.  And perhaps your DH should swing by my house during witching hour with out teething & completely insane 5 month old adjusted daughter & he would re-think the whole 2 under 1 idea. ;)

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    gallerygirlgallerygirl member
    MrsM- Congratulations! I haven't been on lately and didn't see your DS! She is beautiful!!
    bfp #1 - 8/17/2008, natural m/c 8/25/2008, EDD 4/21/2009 bfp #2 - 10/6/2008, hb stopped at 7 w 3 d, d&e on 11/7/2008, EDD 6/19/2009 bfp #3- 3/14/2009.... stick, baby, stick!!!! (14 dpo - hcg 188, 16 dpo - hcg 421, 24 dpo - hcg 14,760!, 4/2 healthy HB of 130 bpm, 4/16 HB of 178 bpm!) bfp #4- 2/2/2011, EDD 10/17/2011 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    tiffanylaw06tiffanylaw06

    I think most women do not ovulate when BFing so it's unlikely that you'll get KU but some women do.  So I guess go on symptoms and maybe POAS once every 6 weeks or so just to be sure.  I can't imagine trying already but more power to you!  You make beautiful babies. :)

    Oh, and I also read that charting is not very effective until your cycles restart in a somewhat normal pattern. So we aren't charting yet since AF has not returned.

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    vml14vml14

    You really should talk to your OB... after a c/s, your body needs some extra time to heal.  My doc said we should wait 6 months before trying... we do plan to try sometime around when our LO is 6-9 mos old because we're not getting any younger, and you never know how long everything will take, but I wouldn't even think of it before then. 

    Also, BF is NOT an effective form of birth control.  A lactation specialist told me the only way it can be effective is if you NEVER supplement, and never go longer than 4-5 hours without nursing.  Which in the beginning may be the case, but hopefully not later...

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    jnealetjnealet member

    I think there are some clues if you get pregnant, your supply drops dramatically is a big one.  I can tell you that I don't think that I ovulated until December and I had a March baby.  And when I ovulated, my breasts HURT, and I mean HURT, when EC nursed.  It felt like she was ripping off my nipple, pain. 

    But if I were you, I would POAS every couple of weeks.

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