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SIL Lost her baby.

jolynreedjolynreed
in Northern California Babies

We took our HPT's the same day, and she and her husband had been trying for months. I don't know what to say, what to do...

 

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    That's~Mrs.StephanieThat's~Mrs.Stephanie
    I'm sorry, that is going to be a tough situation when you have your little one.  I don't know what to advise you to do, since I have not been in this situation.  Hugs and my thoughts to your family.
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    amyfeliceamyfelice
    I am so so sorry. I think the best thing to do is express condolences, of course, and then follow her lead. Probably she won't want to see anyone pregnant for a little bit and you can let her know you are there if she wants to see you or talk, but you understand if she needs some time to mourn alone. Poor thing, I can't imagine how upset she must be. 
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    oceanangelbeautyoceanangelbeauty

    So sorry for your family's loss.

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    NotJustAnAuntieNotJustAnAuntie

    I'm so sorry... the same thing happened to us... it was actually my BIL telling us his GF was pg that made me realize I was late and then test the next day... just be aware and don't force yourself (or the baby) on them... I've noticed that BIL is much more at ease with Max these days, as he gets less and less baby-like and more like a kid he can just talk to, KWIM? (It probably doesn't help that he and the GF broke up after the loss, so she isn't around any more...)

    (((HUGS)))

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    CelynCelyn member
    hugs!  ditto what everyone else has said
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    SweetiePSweetieP
    I'm so sorry for her loss.  I would just tell her how sorry you are...and that you are there if she wants to talk or needs anything...but you also understand that it might be painful for her.  Don't take it personally if she avoids you for a while. Although it's so nice to be able to share a pregnancy with someone, it really really hurts to be the one who "lost" their baby while the other goes on to have a healthy child.  It's a long term/forever reminder of what could have been/should have been.  :(
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    ZoeMay06ZoeMay06 member
    I'm so sorry T, how sad.
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    amorsitaamorsita
    I am so sorry for your familys loss. I think you should just let SIL know that you will be there for her.
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    kkennerkkenner
    Aww I'm so sorry for SIL's loss. Just try to be there for her when she asks! Hugs to you and your family!
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    tri_bride05tri_bride05

    Big hugs - to you and SIL. I had a friend due two weeks after me and she had a miscarriage as well. I offered my support on the phone and sent her a card letting her know I was thinking of her and there for her, then followed her lead. I don't know that there is much else you can do or say.

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