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Does your DH clean up after dinner?
Assuming you made dinner that is. Before I quit my job I would make dinner and he would generally clean up. We don't have a dishwasher, so it's a little time consuming. Since I quit he still cleaned up, but the last two nights he hasn't. He said he was just too busy and tired and that he was sorry. He offered to let me leave the mess and he'd clean up after work, but I don't want to look at a dirty kitchen all day plus I hate making dinner in a messy kitchen. I don't want to be a nag, but I also don't want to feel like a servant in my own home.
Just wondering how it works in your household.
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Re: Does your DH clean up after dinner?
Depends. He's either taking care of kids or cleaning up. Sometimes it's his choice, sometimes DD is extra tired and just wants me so he cleans. If we're both tired, just the bare minimum gets done rather than having a perfectly clean kitchen.
I do have a dishwasher, but when I'm doing a lot of baking where I'll have tons of dishes to wash by hand I fill the sink with hot soapy water and drop things in there. Then they wash up with just a quick swipe and it's done fast. Could you do something like this while you're cooking so it's not as big of a deal?
He very rarely does. I normally have most of the clean up done before we eat, I clean as I go. So the only dishes are the plates we eat off of and the pan I cooked it in. I take care that stuff while DS is finishing up eating.
I do 99.99% of the cleaning in our home. DH works 10+ hours a day, so when he is home we spend time together. When I was working everything was pretty much 50/50. It doesn't bother me because I know if I didn't have time to do stuff, he would be willing to do it.
depends on my mood!
if it's been a rough day w/ C, he will just take care of them and I will clean up. sometimes he will take care of C and then clean up after he puts him to bed if it's been a really rough day
Ditto.
DH didn't do anything until I had a talk with him about a week ago and now he is definitely, at least, picking up after himself. Also we've been alternating - DH does a lot of the cooking (he's much better at it than I) so if he cooks, I clean and vice-versa. Unless, of course, one of us is just really tired, the other will step in.
I hope it keeps up - it's been great and has made for a much more harmonious household for us.
That is what we do.... Sometimes DH even cooks dinner!
I am blessed to have a DH who really seems to "get it". Regardless of who makes dinner, he puts away the leftovers and at least rinses the dishes. I often will put them in the dishwasher the next morning, but this is more because I prefer it than anything else. I just don't like the way DH loads the dishwasher.
I always cook. And DH is good at helping with dishes, but never immediately. It's more like if there's dishes there when he gets home from work, then he'll help out. I don't know what it is about DD, but anytime I try to wash dishes she has a hysterical fit, shoving me away from the counter, etc. It's easier to do it when DH is home, but right after dinner, I go straight into doing her bath, etc, and then afs soon as she's in bed, I go to the gym. Or do hw, or clean.
Sometimes. If he's not cleaning up after dinner, he's giving ds a bath or tending to him while I clean up. As long as he isn't laying on his a##, fine by me.
Yes, DH helps clean up. There are days when I do all the clean up, and days when he does all the clean up. I don't nickel and dime my husband over things like this.........just NMS.
Your DH is offering you a compromise - he'll clean up, but after work. If you don't want to accept that because you don't want to look at a dirty kitchen, unless you can come up with an alternate plan you both agree on, then you will have to clean up after dinner.
I would just communicate your feelings to him and see what he says. Maybe he'll be a bit more understanding and you guys will figure things out. GL!
Yes, it's one of his "jobs" here in our household.
I do 100% of the meal planning, shopping & cooking for all three of us, every single day, three meals a day. I told DH that because I did all of that, it would be most helpful for him to do the clean-up after dinner. I told him we could trade should he want to... he REFUSED!
Granted, I do clean as I go along throughout the day, I don't leave piles of the day's dishes for him to do. He just washed any pots/pans, puts away the leftovers, and loads the dishwasher.
eclaire 9.10.06 diggy 6.2.11
I usually clean as I go and then he takes care of the pots and serving stuff.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05