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NMR: Viewing/funerals and babies

omalleyomalley
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My husband's aunt passed away this week and the viewing is tonight at the funeral home and the funeral service is at her church on Saturday.

We cannot find a baby sitter so I am going to miss the church service and luncheon to stay home with the babies so DH can go on Saturday. 

We were thinking of going to the viewing tonight all together.   Do you think it is appropriate to bring the babies to the viewing?  


 

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Re: NMR: Viewing/funerals and babies

  • SoldiersGreenBeanSoldiersGreenBean

    Honestly, I think it is appropriate to bring them to everything.  Signs of new life, like babies, tend to be very much appreciated during sad times.

    In fact, I'd be more likely to take them to the funeral as opposed to the viewing.

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  • jacobandcrystaljacobandcrystal member

    I don't think you should have to miss it in order to not bring your babies. 

    Here's our experience with kids at a funeral home... when my hubby's grandma passed away in August, we had our 2 older kids (youngest was just turning 1) at the viewing for about an hour and were really relieved when my grandparents came to pick them up (we stayed the whole day). 

    While the kids were there, we spent most of our time in the family kitchen area with all the other cousins because it was a little awkward to have them around all the quiet people reflecting on their memories.  (Although some people were definitely happy to laugh at the boys being cute.) : )  For you, it would probably depend on how long you plan to stay.

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  • jacobandcrystaljacobandcrystal member
    imageSoldiersGreenBean:

    In fact, I'd be more likely to take them to the funeral as opposed to the viewing.

    I'd probably say the same.  In addition to my last reply:  We did take our boys to the funeral the following day and all the other little kids were also in the church.  My husband was a pallbearer and it was raining really bad outside anyway, so I just sat in the car with the kids when we were at the cemetary afterward.  And the kids had a lot of fun at the luncheon : )

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  • omalleyomalley

    Thanks for the advice.  I was thinking it would be ok b/c he has such a huge family (his aunt has 20 grand-kids!) but there are not any babies besides ours.  I never paid attention before I had kids - I didn't know if there was an etiquette against it.

    I also thought it might help "lighten" the mood.  Who can be sad when there is a cute baby smiling at you?!?!

     

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  • amanda31Hamanda31H member

    My father is a minister and has always encouraged those who have babies to bring them to wakes/viewings and to the funeral.  It really does bless people and lighten the mood- it can be very healing.

    Obviously, if the babies are screaming, they have to be removed until they calm down- but I think that goes without saying!  :)

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  • groovygrlgroovygrl member

    The only kind of funeral I don't think is appropriate is a funeral that is for a baby/small child.  

    But like MrsLee said, the noise potential is important- I would sit in the last row & be ready to bolt outside at the first hint of possible crying or noise.  

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