Feeling really alienated

bohemianbeauty7 · January 2010

I am just so down right now. Nobody wants to talk about my miscarriages, nobody wants to hear about it. People just say that it will be ok and not to worry. I can't even talk to my DH about it because it "stresses him out." I just feel so alone and like I am shutting down.

Catemb · January 2010

Sorry that you are feeling alone. I can completely relate. Only our immediate families knew and they kind of asked once and that was it. When I try to bring anything up, they just quickly change the subject. My DH is a little more supportive and will listen, but he always ends up saying, "It'll happen for us," or "At least we know we can get pregnant." I've honestly found the most comfort in this board, with other people who have been through it and can understand. Hope you find the same.

mdm2137 · January 2010

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Please know you can talk to us anytime. ((big hugs))

bestep · January 2010

While I technically haven't suffered a miscarriage, I lost our baby the day after he was born at 28wks. I can COMPLETELY relate to the feeling alienated. It seems like noboday, not even your DH, understands the pain. It seems that people are even less sypmathetic when it is a miscarriage or a late loss because you didn't have them for very long. They are still your child and it is an awful loss. Losing a child is not the natural order of life. And until someone goes through this, they can't understand. This feeling will get easier to deal with (mine hasn't really gone away yet). Please talk to us as much as you need. We have all suffered a loss of a child in some way and we are here for you!

jcath · January 2010

I'm so sorry - I hope you can come here and get some support and empathy. I think its hard for people to talk about b/c they just don't know what to say. Even when people ask me about it - I find I can't really talk about it coherently anyway. Have you ever kept a journal? Sometimes writing everything down can help.

betizzle73 · January 2010

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that you feel that way. It's true, no one understands until they're in your shoes, and unfortunately... not many people have been. Please come here to vent and talk to us any time you want.

bohemianbeauty7 · January 2010

Thanks ladies. It's so nice to be able to talk with people who understand. I think one of the worst parts about losing two babies is the loneliness and the anger at people who refuse to even acknowledge what happened.

Thanks for being here!

butterfly843 · January 2010

So sorry, sending hugs. My family doesn't bring up my loss anymore, they just talk about how we will get pregnant again.

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