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Sensitive About the "You're Soo Big"/Look Further Along Comments

amanda31Hamanda31H member
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I'm sure everyone has gone through this, but I'm getting really sensitive about the comments from people about how big I look.  I was a size 12 before I got pregnant, so I've always been a curvy girl and was always having to work to maintain my weight.

There is a woman at my office (who I barely spoke to before, btw), who literally gasps when she sees me.  I have explained to her that I will look further along than I am b/c I am carrying twins, and even when I told her "I'm actually measuring about 5 weeks ahead, so I really look like I'm 6 months" she replied "Ummmm you look further along than 6 months....."

It also doesn't help that another girl at work is pregnant and due a week later (with one baby).  I'm truly not kidding when I say that she is the smallest, most petite woman I know.  She's was probably a size zero prior to being PG.

Then there's the lady at Panera who on Friday said "So..any day now, huh?"

At my last appointment I weighed 1 lb under from Dr Luke's recommended gain for my height/weight, so I thought I was doing ok.  My DH is wonderful and keeps telling me that the most important thing is chubby babies...but it's just hard, especially for someone that was constantly watching their weight before.

Everyone on here usually makes me feel so much better about this stuff! 

 

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Re: Sensitive About the "You're Soo Big"/Look Further Along Comments

  • mikiesgirl70106mikiesgirl70106

    You DH is right...healthy mom = healthy babies...don't worry about the woman at your work.  If people have never had a multiple pregnancy before then they don't understand the weight gain and belly size you have with multiples. 

    I'm only 14 weeks and have a good bump and people are quite shocked here at my work also. But I'm eating healthy snacks and meals and the weight is just coming on very easily because I'm grown 2 babies not just 1...{{{HUGS}}}...also trying to follow Dr. Luke's advice, too.

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  • MrsDonnelly2007MrsDonnelly2007
    big hugs, don't let them get to you.  I get the random strangers telling me "woah, you look you're going to pop!" and one woman, at work, who has a chid, mind you, said to me one morning, "wow, what did you eat last night? looks like your got even bigger!"  I then told her that shouldn't she know that pg woman don't want to hear how huge they are, just they they look beautiful and fabulous?? People don't think, the bigger the belly, the bigger the babies! keep those little ones growing and ignore other people!!
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  • nygrl79nygrl79
    I get the "any day now" or "soon, ha?" comments all the time.  Someone flat out told me that I look bigger than the day she delivered.  Ignore these people, they are clueless and insensitive.  There is nothing wrong with looking big, in fact, that means that the babies are growing.  It also means that your belly grows outwards, which hopefully will minimize the pressure on your stomach, lungs, bladder, and other internal organs.  Try to be proud of your belly (not always easy, but necessary).
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  • Nikki1007Nikki1007
    You are doing great. Don't let them get to you. I get upset because people tell me I look too small to be carrying twins.  People are just clueless.
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  • LALASEPT05LALASEPT05 member

    I understand. And pp are right all that matters is that the babies are gaining weight and growing big. I am a small person and yesterday measured 7 months pregnant...I'm barely 5 months! I notice that often when I pass people in the hallways they are looking at my belly! And it is an uncomfortable feeling to know everyone is measuring how big you're getting.

    You're doing great for your babies! Keep up the good work! 

     

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  • tiki_ttiki_t

    Well on the flip side, I use to go out with friends and strangers would either try to light up a cigarette near me or try to walk into me. I turned to my friends and asked what was wrong with everyone. 

    They said the community where we live, there are so many overweight people in it that even though I started out a size 12 and was carrying twins, I still looked smaller than some of the people who weren't pregnant. And yes, I did look VERY pregnant at the time but I just couldn't get people to recognize it. Which is frustrating! That really took the wind out of my sails. Okay, maybe I wanted a little fuss about me when I was pregnant but what woman wouldn't?

    So on the bright side, if people are making those comments, they at least acknowledge that you are pregnant, don't give you dirty looks when you park in expectant mother parking, don't try to walk into you and don't try to light up next to you. Those things are a lot worse!



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  • ZaIreryZaIrery

    You're doing a great job building two whole people! Others just don't get it when they make comments; don't take it to heart. I know that's easier said than done!

    When I was about 16 weeks pregnant, I got the "any day now" & "ooh, you're about to pop", and it was hard to just laugh it off... but then I also remember that, before I got pregnant, I had no clue either. I think most people are not trying to be malicious on purpose, so shrug it off.

    I'm with your dh: chubby babies all the way! HTH

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  • amanda31Hamanda31H member

    Thanks everyone!  As my mother has told me, the comments will be rolling in full speed after the babies have arrived, so I have to get used to ignoring what people say!  (comments about how big they are, advice, etc...)Smile

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  • melp723melp723
    people are just stupid!  I was walking into a store the other day, when this guy grabbed his daughter's arm as she was about to walk in front of me, and said "look out, she's about to blow!"  I seriously almost punched him in the throat.  Instead, I just gave him the side eye, and reminded myself that some people are just as$holes. Try not to let it get to you!!
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