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So, womens intuition was right again...

inbetweeninbetween
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H hadn't acted too differently up until the day I had to drag out of him that he didn't want to be with me anymore.

I automatically assumed he was cheating, or doing drugs.

Yesterday...I got all of the proof I needed. And of course, it was the girl I suspected...

H is 21, she is 17 and still in high school. While that wouldn't be a problem in a normal situation, he was married and had a baby!!!

This girl is one of his employees (he's a general manager), and she had come to our home to hang out with my brother. While she was there she played with our daughter, and said in front me and my brother 'I very rarely remember to take my birth control'.

I will laugh my ass off if this chick ends up pregnant. H is not ready to be a father and he really can't afford to pay child support for 2...though that's his problem!

Surprisinglly enough, I didn't cry,but I am slowly starting to see reasons that we don't need to be together.

He also came and took his car, leaving me with no transportation yesterday, and said that me and dd were no longer his problem.

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  • skimberlinskimberlin
    I'm so sorry, he sounds like total scum!!!! I'm glad it doesn't sound like you let him get you down to much. I think it's great that you are staying strong for you and your daughter!
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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member

    Wow.  I wonder what his employer would think of him dating an employee (not to mention while married w/ a child).  I realize that 17 is almost an adult, but I would be furious if my DD dated a married 21 yr old man while she was 17 (or any age for that matter). 

    EDIT - What kind of proof did you get, and what do you plan to do with it?

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member

    Wow. Total scum. How'd you get the proof??

    Out of random curiosity, how old are you??

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  • achase123achase123
    imageinbetween:

    H hadn't acted too differently up until the day I had to drag out of him that he didn't want to be with me anymore.

    I automatically assumed he was cheating, or doing drugs.

    Yesterday...I got all of the proof I needed. And of course, it was the girl I suspected...

    H is 21, she is 17 and still in high school. While that wouldn't be a problem in a normal situation, he was married and had a baby!!!

    This girl is one of his employees (he's a general manager), and she had come to our home to hang out with my brother. While she was there she played with our daughter, and said in front me and my brother 'I very rarely remember to take my birth control'.

    I will laugh my ass off if this chick ends up pregnant. H is not ready to be a father and he really can't afford to pay child support for 2...though that's his problem!

    Surprisinglly enough, I didn't cry,but I am slowly starting to see reasons that we don't need to be together.

    He also came and took his car, leaving me with no transportation yesterday, and said that me and dd were no longer his problem.

    Regarding item 1.-how is this not a problem?  Isn't that statutory rape?

    Regarding item 2.-document this!

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  • inbetweeninbetween

    I am 22, we we've been married 3 years.

    Legal consent age is 16 as far as I know.

    I'm documenting everything!

    As far as proof, there is nothing I can do with it...but at least I know that I was right, and that was just one more thing he lied about!

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member
    imageinbetween:

    As far as proof, there is nothing I can do with it...but at least I know that I was right, and that was just one more thing he lied about!

    Sometimes it sucks to be right

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  • lnbohaclnbohac
    Kentucky isn't too far from indiana and in indiana 21+17=ILLEGAL.  That's statuatory rape. . .turn his a$$ in.
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  • blondnearbyblondnearby
    I remember when I found stbx was involved with an underaged girl.  All I can say is the emotions were bad (I was also 7 months pregnant).  It seems like you are handling the situation a lot better then I did.
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  • transcriber87transcriber87 member
    Womens intuition is fascinating!! I have been there, but in a different situation, obviously LOL!!  Girl, I would report his butt so fast...For all of the reasons PP have put...The age difference and the fact she is an employee messing with her manager...I know that there HAS to be rules against that!! Get him girl!!!
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  • inbetweeninbetween

    While I know there are problems with a general manager sleeping with his employee...Hs boss is good friends with him, therefor he doesn't really care.

    In fact, H went and stayed with his boss inbetween moving out of the house and getting his own apartment.

    So, I'm not really sure other then coorporate who I could report it to, and even with reporting it he would deny it. It's not like I have pictures of them together or anything.

    He will get whats coming to him, without me trying to make it happen!

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  • kant08kant08
    Don't report him to his employer..... only for selfish reasons though.  I would hate for the support you will actually get from him to be lost if he was fired from his job. 
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