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Please tell me I'm doing the right thing...
We currently have an in-home DCP for DS and are very unhappy with her. Long story short, she is annoyed at having to feed him every 3 hours (he's 5 months old), doesn't want to follow our instructions on anything, constantly complains about DS' lack of schedule, and doesn't do any kind of learning or developmentally-appropriate activities with him. He literally goes from his pack n play to the exersaucer to a playpen with toys all day long. When I ask her what they did that day she gives me a blank stare and then says, "oh he liked the exersaucer..."
DH and I found a great center for DS and are going to start him on Monday. Problem is, I keep feeling guilty about switching DS to another daycare now that he's becoming more aware of his surroundings. I am afraid he will be scared on Monday and not know where he is, and will cry all day.
Please tell me we are doing the right thing! I am so worried about DS...
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Re: Please tell me I'm doing the right thing...
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
You're absolutely doing the right thing. First, at 5 months I think he'll be fine. I really do.
Second, where he presently is, you KNOW just isn't a good environment for him. It just isn't. Even if he is upset monday, a couple days of being upset just isn't going to compare to being in a DC situation that isn't stimulating for him.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I bet you that your son will have so much fun watching and interacting with the other kids at daycare that he won't even be phased by the change. I bet you that he'll be a happier baby even after that first day.
Really, you know that you are doing the right thing. I wouldn't worry another second about it.
Beyond the right thing! He will do great. The 1st couple of days may be a little tough but he'll love watching all the other kids and playing with the new toys.
My friend's DD just started in a center this past month (at a year old). She was weapy for a few days and here and there for a couple of weeks but is doing great. She is thriving and that girl is definitely a 'momma's girl'.
It's scary to have to switch what you had counted on as your arrangement - but it's probably more disruptive to you than to DS. Leaving him with someone who doesn't care about him would never be an improvement over a healthy environment.
Obviously you will have a different routine and issues to deal with (he'll probably get sick more often than he would have at home) but I don't think any of them are more significant than being with a caregiver who resents him.
It sounds like he isn't excelling where he is now so the move will be beneficial for his development and your own sanity as well.
He'll adjust fine to his new surroundings
And it is better to move him now then when he is 2 or 3, right?
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
if you're not happy with the provider, you're absolutely doing the right thing.
he may be hesitant, but he'll be fine. there will be more for him to do, and people to interact with. the center providers are probably trained in early childhood development and can do age appropriate activities with him to keep him engaged.
you're doing the right thing.
He will be fine. He will be amazed by all the stimulation around him, and the other babies, and the wonderful teachers, etc.
And yes, he might cry a lot. I was in DS's infant room a lot and saw new babies come and the first few days can be rough. But they adjust quickly. It's great to do it now, it gets harder as they get older.
You are doing the right thing--that DCP sounds horrible.
DS went from in home to center at about 5 1/2 months. He didn't blink! He loved all the kids. He is always super tired on Mondays though from all the fun he had that day! DH and I joke that Drew is sick of us by Sunday night b/c we aren't as fun as his friends.
Throwing leaves
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
You are doing the right thing. She sounds like a real peach. I'd be worried aobut this as well. I changed DCP when DD was 17months old because the one right by our house opened up. So she didn't have to commute w/ me anymore and it's less expensive.
Your LO will tansition just fine. He's young enough that he probably won't really even have a hard time of it. Sounds like you are doing the right thing.
Feb3, really? That was uncalled for. How can you say her priorities are out of whack when she is posting about her concerns for her child? Look for drama much?
Not looking for drama at all. I was honestly puzzled that she was more worried about taking her LO out of the daycare than leaving him in. Obviously she's concerned and doing the right thing.