Friend Had Her Twins at 32 weeks

nygrl79 · January 2010

Hi all,

I probably should know the answer to this having been on this board for awhile, but I need some advice. A friend of mine unexpectedly had her baby girls last night at 32 weeks exactly. They are healthy for their gestational age, but are obviously in the NICU. I want to do something for her and her husband, but not sure what. So far, all I have thought of was gift certificates to restaurants around the hospital area.

I also know that they are not really all set up for the girls yet. They are jewish and in jewish families it is often considered bad luck to buy things for the babies way ahead of time (thus, no baby shower). I don't want to butt into their business, as I'm sure the MILs are going to be busy helping them set up, but wondering if I should still do something to help them in that regard.

Otherwise, any and all advice would be useful. TIA.

SoldiersGreenBean · January 2010

Gas gift cards, in addition to restaurant gift cards.

ErinCB · January 2010

T&P that the babies continue to do well in the NICU.

GC's to restaurants are good ideas. Maybe a gift basket w/ snacks, mini toiletries, magazines and things like that. I don't know what spending time in the NICU is like w/ your child, but I imagine if she's spending much of her day there, just something to help her grab a quick bite, refresh a bit and even relax when the kids are sleeping might be nice, since we all know hospital accomodations aren't always as homey.

Regarding setting up the nursery--I'd let the mom's do the big stuff. But maybe get her some small essentials they might not think of. Like breast pads, milk storage bags and lanolin if she's going to be BFing. Maybe swaddle blankets or a few layette sets. Things like that. Those things are small, but really add up, so being stocked on them in the beginning is nice. Even a bunch of diapers. Sounds like she'll need preemie diapers and NB diapers. Sometimes those sizes can be hard to find, so maybe get her a stash started.

Temp6313048411121614 · January 2010

I would suggest restaurant or BRU gift cards.

abbzy85 · January 2010

We are also Jewish and had our babies early. Since we don't have showers and we don't buy until the babies arrive, we had very little baby outfits for our boys. Normally, people celebrate right after the birth, but when your baby is in the NICU, it's hard to have a celebration. That's essentially when they would receive most gifts. If it were me, I would appreciate someone buying clothes because the moms may buy the big nursery items. If you know that she has clothes then go with suggestions from PPs.

jbl126 · January 2010

Congrats and best wishes to your friend. I had my twins at 33weeks and they were in the NICU. And I too am jewish. once the babies were born, the nursery was set up. I wouldnt worry to much about that. But gc to restaurants would be great. And like pp said, clothes would be great for the girls. I am sure your friend didnt buy much for them. And seriously, diapers. it is amazing how many they will go through.

Bybo · January 2010

I just have to say that you are a really good friend!! It is really thoughtful of you. Us MoM's need to stick together

jasonlovessara · January 2010

I also think just being there for her is important. While my two were in the NICU people avoided me like the plague. I think people didn't know what to say but it made a rough time even harder.

The GCs are great but calls so she knows you are thinking of her are great as well

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