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LittleMissParis
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If your LO's ears stick out..
LittleMissParis
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My LO takes after her daddy in the ear department. DH had his ears pinned as a child. I was hoping she would get my ears to avoid any surgery. DH remembers the surgery being really traumatizing as a 5ish year old. At the risk of sounding like a complete flake for even caring DD's ears stick out, do you know of any early intervention options to avoid surgery?
Just to add, I think my DD is absolutely gorgeous and perfect the way she is, I just don't want her to get picked on when she grows up (DH's mom was teased), and I really don't want her to have to have surgery when she is older.
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Re: If your LO's ears stick out..
My ears stick out. DD's ears are big. DD #1 got my ears and #2 got DH's.
Honestly, I was never teased. I was self conscious about them as a kid, but I just kept my hair down. I'm fine with them now. No offense, but I just cannot imagine putting a child through surgery for such a minor cosmetic thing. Wait until she's older and give her a choice.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
That's just it, I can't imagine having her put under for just her ears. The thought of it makes me tear up but I would also hate for her to be teased because of it. I am also hoping she will just grow in to them. It's really just the top part that sticks out. I don't know how to do a PIP or I would show you my little sweetheart.
I think it is something that we will let her decide for herself when she gets older. We will instill confidence in her so that she knows she is perfect the way she is but if it is a cause for self consciousness, she can then choose if she wants to do anything about it.
Thanks ladies.
Theres always something a child will be teased for, even if they are "perfect" Its going to happen regardless, and I dont see putting your child through that surgery making things any better. I was teased because of my forehead when I was a kid, eventually I just started saying "its big to hold my giant brain" - you learn to deal with it when your older, if you teach her that she IS beautiful no matter what (never say, your beautiful despite your ears) then honestly, she will never notice an issue, because IMO she doesnt have one.
Also- letting her make the choice when shes older makes me think that you or your husband are going to bring it up to her. I would say never mention it in the first place. Wait for her to bring it up if its an issue.
Excellent points Scooter. I am 5'1" and was teased from the time I was 3 and still am. It has never ever bothered me. I definitely don't want her to think her ears are a problem at all so will never make it an issue.
This is a great outlook on it. Thank you.
I had my ears pinned back about 5 years ago and they we not that bad. My LO has one ear that sticks out a bit and I am hoping it won't get any worse.
I think I would get him the surgery, but later in life.
Just like Scooter said, there will always be something that your kid will get picked on for. DD has ears that stick out, one being "floppier" than the other. She'll probably grow into them and the cartilage will tighten up. But even if they don't, I'm not putting her through surgery.
I was picked on for, among other things, my huge nose. It grew faster than the rest of my face and my dad has a huge nose. The only reason I had a nose job at 15 was because my septum was so screwed up and deviated that I was getting repeat sinus infections and always sick. It incidentally made my nose a little smaller. Otherwise, I wouldn't have gotten a nose job and just lived with it. We can't all look perfect!
i have no idea, but my uncle also had that surgery - actually, he had to have a few rounds of them, and it definitely scarred him as a child. so much that he is a hermit now. he has always been self conscious, and he got a full ride to Brown for college, but dropped out after a few years. finished up at a state school, got into vanderbilt law school, but dropped out after 2 years.
not to say that it would scar your DD, but i think there are worse things than having her ears stick out. they could be part of her personality and make her quirky.
i bet she would get picked on more for having to wear bandages on her ears - like my uncle was. but it's obviously up to you to do what you think is best.
so just to maybe give you a little hope...
here is a pic of me as a baby. this picture doesnt do my ears as a baby justice as to how big they were since my head had already started to grow into them. I was a little over a year here.
I was only self concious of my ears for a couple years around 6th or 7th grade and I was that way about EVERYTHING then. Ears, forehead, being a foot taller than everyone, weight, you name it. It was only after my grandma pointed out my "elf ears," as she called them, in a baby picture that I even noticed.
I had a friend in high school who decided to have the surgery on hers when she was 16. I think letting your LO decide at an older age, only if it becomes an issue, would be the right thing to do, but like someone else mentioned, don't be the one that makes it an issue.
Oh goodness you were a cute baby! Thank you for posting that.
I think we will just make it a non-issue and not pay it any attention. If in the future she brings it up, we will go from there. I am glad I posted as it has certainly helped to give me a better view.
thanks LOL. seriously though, I look back at pictures of me at like 6 months and think WOW am I glad I grew into those ears. Now, I can laugh at those pictures
And now I think my ears are pretty normal. I dont know what part of my family I got them from (I was adopted) but thankfully DD got DH's ears and we wont have to worry about that at all. Im just trying to give you some more hope now that in another couple ears you'll have to look at pictures to remember those cute ears. 