My modified Ferber method really worked...

Re: My modified Ferber method really worked...

• Chrysallys member

  January 2010

  You do realize Ferber himself says not to start sleep training until at least 6 months, right?

  

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• Miriamgavalas

  January 2010

  Thank you for posting this.  I have been looking for something to try with my little guy who still refuses to STTN and this seems like something I can try.  Fingers crossed it works as well for me as it did for you. 

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• princessbeulah

  January 2010

  Chrysallys:

  You do realize Ferber himself says not to start sleep training until at least 6 months, right?

  This is not completely true. He says somewhere between 4-6 months. I have the book.

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• beckytr member

  January 2010

  princessbeulah:

  Chrysallys:

  You do realize Ferber himself says not to start sleep training until at least 6 months, right?

  This is not completely true. He says somewhere between 4-6 months. I have the book.

  hshhc and my pedi recommened started the same thing before 4 mo. (I did it at 3.5 mo) and it worked wonders for DS as well. 

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• princessbeulah

  January 2010

  cskogsberg:

  Probably going to jinx myself, but DH and I started LO on a modified Ferber method this week and it has worked wonders for her sleep!! I haven't read the book, just read about what the general method was and decided to try it out because LO was gradually getting worse and worse with her sleeping, getting up several times a night and not going back to sleep. I was so exhausted. So Monday night I finally let her cry for awhile after she would not go to bed, going in every 5 min or so to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep for the rest of the night after that...then Tuesday night we put her down drowsy but awake and she cried for around 15 min., I went in a couple times again to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep and slept from 8 p.m. until 4 a.m.!!! OMG it was wonderful...fed her at 4 a.m. and she slept until 6:30. Last night put her down at 8 and she didn't cry at all...turned on the sleep sheep and she immediately went to sleep and slept until 3...fed her and put her back down and she slept until 7:30!! I think this has been a big success...knock on wood.

   Just wanted to let other moms know that this could be a way to go if you agree with the method (not all do, I totally understand), but there is hope for all of us moms who are not getting any sleep at night!

  Good luck...

  You may want to read the book, because you don't go in every 5 min. The times get a little longer each time you go in and even longer for each day. He doesn't recommend using the paci either since your LO may associate sleeping with sucking and wake up for the paci. Good luck.

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• maui24

  January 2010

  princessbeulah:

  Chrysallys:

  You do realize Ferber himself says not to start sleep training until at least 6 months, right?

  This is not completely true. He says somewhere between 4-6 months. I have the book.

   Agree that this is not true. Ferber advises that the ideal time for most babies to sleep train is between 4 and 6 months.
  

  

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• LilCMom

  January 2010

  princessbeulah:

  cskogsberg:

  Probably going to jinx myself, but DH and I started LO on a modified Ferber method this week and it has worked wonders for her sleep!! I haven't read the book, just read about what the general method was and decided to try it out because LO was gradually getting worse and worse with her sleeping, getting up several times a night and not going back to sleep. I was so exhausted. So Monday night I finally let her cry for awhile after she would not go to bed, going in every 5 min or so to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep for the rest of the night after that...then Tuesday night we put her down drowsy but awake and she cried for around 15 min., I went in a couple times again to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep and slept from 8 p.m. until 4 a.m.!!! OMG it was wonderful...fed her at 4 a.m. and she slept until 6:30. Last night put her down at 8 and she didn't cry at all...turned on the sleep sheep and she immediately went to sleep and slept until 3...fed her and put her back down and she slept until 7:30!! I think this has been a big success...knock on wood.

   Just wanted to let other moms know that this could be a way to go if you agree with the method (not all do, I totally understand), but there is hope for all of us moms who are not getting any sleep at night!

  Good luck...

  You may want to read the book, because you don't go in every 5 min. The times get a little longer each time you go in and even longer for each day. He doesn't recommend using the paci either since your LO may associate sleeping with sucking and wake up for the paci. Good luck.

  Yes I say "modified" because I haven't read the book. I would have thought 4 months was too young, but when DD cries and I immediately come into the room and she laughs at me as if to say "ha ha I knew you would come when I did that," so I knew she was ready. I think we all have to do what's right for us, and she was progressively getting worse and worse each week, going from waking up once per night to several times per night when up until 3 months STTN. I had to do something so I read up on it online, and the sites I read said 4 - 6 months so I went with it. So far, so good...

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• alybookgirl

  January 2010

  For all those that balk at CIO, my pedi suggested doing it at 3 months if we encountered sleep issues. 

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• LailasMommy

  January 2010

  Cheers to you Mama...you do what works for your fam so if the modification works for you, you can worry about the paci later! Feber does indeed recommend between 4 to 6 months. I'm glad it's working!!!!!

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• maui24

  January 2010

  cskogsberg:

  princessbeulah:

  cskogsberg:

  Probably going to jinx myself, but DH and I started LO on a modified Ferber method this week and it has worked wonders for her sleep!! I haven't read the book, just read about what the general method was and decided to try it out because LO was gradually getting worse and worse with her sleeping, getting up several times a night and not going back to sleep. I was so exhausted. So Monday night I finally let her cry for awhile after she would not go to bed, going in every 5 min or so to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep for the rest of the night after that...then Tuesday night we put her down drowsy but awake and she cried for around 15 min., I went in a couple times again to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep and slept from 8 p.m. until 4 a.m.!!! OMG it was wonderful...fed her at 4 a.m. and she slept until 6:30. Last night put her down at 8 and she didn't cry at all...turned on the sleep sheep and she immediately went to sleep and slept until 3...fed her and put her back down and she slept until 7:30!! I think this has been a big success...knock on wood.

   Just wanted to let other moms know that this could be a way to go if you agree with the method (not all do, I totally understand), but there is hope for all of us moms who are not getting any sleep at night!

  Good luck...

  You may want to read the book, because you don't go in every 5 min. The times get a little longer each time you go in and even longer for each day. He doesn't recommend using the paci either since your LO may associate sleeping with sucking and wake up for the paci. Good luck.

  Yes I say "modified" because I haven't read the book. I would have thought 4 months was too young, but when DD cries and I immediately come into the room and she laughs at me as if to say "ha ha I knew you would come when I did that," so I knew she was ready. I think we all have to do what's right for us, and she was progressively getting worse and worse each week, going from waking up once per night to several times per night when up until 3 months STTN. I had to do something so I read up on it online, and the sites I read said 4 - 6 months so I went with it. So far, so good...

   

  I'm with you. DS was ready at 15 weeks and showing all the signs like you are describing above. Everyone is different and I am so glad this worked for you! Don't let the haters get to you
  

  

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• JulesLuvsSean member

  January 2010

  cskogsberg:

  princessbeulah:

  cskogsberg:

  Probably going to jinx myself, but DH and I started LO on a modified Ferber method this week and it has worked wonders for her sleep!! I haven't read the book, just read about what the general method was and decided to try it out because LO was gradually getting worse and worse with her sleeping, getting up several times a night and not going back to sleep. I was so exhausted. So Monday night I finally let her cry for awhile after she would not go to bed, going in every 5 min or so to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep for the rest of the night after that...then Tuesday night we put her down drowsy but awake and she cried for around 15 min., I went in a couple times again to soothe her and put the paci in. She fell asleep and slept from 8 p.m. until 4 a.m.!!! OMG it was wonderful...fed her at 4 a.m. and she slept until 6:30. Last night put her down at 8 and she didn't cry at all...turned on the sleep sheep and she immediately went to sleep and slept until 3...fed her and put her back down and she slept until 7:30!! I think this has been a big success...knock on wood.

   Just wanted to let other moms know that this could be a way to go if you agree with the method (not all do, I totally understand), but there is hope for all of us moms who are not getting any sleep at night!

  Good luck...

  You may want to read the book, because you don't go in every 5 min. The times get a little longer each time you go in and even longer for each day. He doesn't recommend using the paci either since your LO may associate sleeping with sucking and wake up for the paci. Good luck.

  Yes I say "modified" because I haven't read the book. I would have thought 4 months was too young, but when DD cries and I immediately come into the room and she laughs at me as if to say "ha ha I knew you would come when I did that," so I knew she was ready. I think we all have to do what's right for us, and she was progressively getting worse and worse each week, going from waking up once per night to several times per night when up until 3 months STTN. I had to do something so I read up on it online, and the sites I read said 4 - 6 months so I went with it. So far, so good...

  Congrats!  I think you have to do whatever works for you.  Each LO is so different.  I agree with what you said above, I think babies are sometimes smarter than we give them credit for.  CIO for a few minutes won't hurt them (as long as it's not a terrible cry & you know nothing is really wrong).  I posted a question about CIO on a different board one time and totally got flamed.  Congrats again & hopefully you have more peaceful nights in the future!  :-)     

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• mrb0808

  January 2010

  Congrats!!  I read Ferber last night and have started it today.  My DD could not sleep without her swaddle and being bounced to sleep.  Same deal...she wasn't scared or anything, she just wanted me to bounce her to sleep.  And, since she didn't know how to go to sleep, she couldn't stay asleep without the swaddle when she would startle.  This morning...she cries for 20 minutes completely unswaddled in her crib (I checked at the progressing intervals) and takes her usual nap.  2nd nap, 10 minutes of crying and asleep, on and off crying as she wakes up and gets frustrated for another 20 minutes.  Agree on not wanting to jinx anything, but this is amazing.  I knew she had it in her because she can fall asleep on her own in the middle of the night (only if I feed her first), but I've never had the guts to let her cry for awhile until this morning.

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