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Can't stop crying...I want to be a SAHM!
I have to go back to work Monday and I am so shook up about this. Nobody prepares you for how hard it is. I want more than anything to be a SAHM but can't figure out how to swing it. I am taking this so hard. I wish I could find a night job so I wouldn't be away from her so much and wouldn't have to put her in DC. I don't know what to do. Boo Hoo!
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Re: Can't stop crying...I want to be a SAHM!
First of all, she is adorable!
Second, I'm sorry that you're going through that. I can't imagine how much it sucks if you want to be a SAHM, but you have to trust that you found awesome care for your LO and that she'll be in good hands. I know you'll miss her, but you are doing a lot of good for her by working, too, right?
I hope that your transition's better than expected, and hopefully you can work something out to SAH later.
I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I hear it gets easier as time goes on if that's any consolation.
Have you and your husband sat down and taken a good hard look at your budget? Sometimes it takes a pretty big sacrifice to SAH. For example- we downsized our housing in order to make it work because we wanted me to SAH.
Don't give up, you just never know what opportunities might come your way to make this dream of yours a reality!
Have you considered pizza delivery at night/on weekends? Two ladies (that I know of) on this board have done it/are still doing it and make great money! Any way you could keep another infant/child in your home to help you financially?
Very best of luck and welcome to the board!!!
eclaire 9.10.06 diggy 6.2.11
I'm so sorry.
I agree with just crunching and recrunching the budget. Start saving as much as you can. Hopefully you can achieve your goal, soon.
I hope your first day back at work goes smoothly.
Oh my. I totally hear you. My SIL lived with us until DD was 6mo and then I worked another 2 months to help them make the transition to me not being there anymore. It totally SUCKS! I cried every day...not just tears, big "boohoos". We sacrificed a whole lot for me to be able to stay at home. I even worked nights at Wal-Mart for a couple of months until I found out I was pregnant with #2. It was awful working all night and staying up all day with her, but totally worth it to not put her in daycare.
I hope y'all can figure something out soon.
I'm really sorry, that must be an awful feeling. I really couldn't imagine leaving DD, especially as an infant.
The only advice I can offer is to figure out if there is anything you can do in order to make it possible---downsize your home, sell a car, etc. Those may sound like drastic options, but if you really want to be a SAHM, there has to be something you can do to make it happen. Especially if you are only looking to stay home for a year or two. Good luck!
It absolutely gets better. Keep your chin up, and try to enjoy your time with DD rather than dreading going back to work! For me, getting back into the work routine helped a lot. It's just what had to be done, so I did it, you know?
I worked until DS was 15 months. I defintely agree with PP that it is easiest to leave them (after the first week or two of adjustment) when they are infants. She will be well cared for at daycare, and will give you lots of snuggles and hugs when you get her home at the end of the day.
Once you get back to work, keep looking for other options, if you still feel that you want to be a SAHM. You might surprise yourself and enjoy life as a working mom. Many woman really enjoy having that experience.