why do they make you wait 1 year of trying?

Hope4Baby#2 · January 2010

Until you can get tests done? Seriously. My first baby happened on the first try. This time its been 7 months so far. I am thinking it is long enough and they should do some tests. This month is a little different though because I used a new Ov kit - Clearblue easy digital and it was positive on day 24. The last 7 months we have used Answer and it was positive on days 16-21. We are keeping our fingers crossed. Today is day 27.

Does anyone know how long it takes before I can take a test if I ovulated on day 24? (unless AF comes).

Thanks!

sweetky_06 · January 2010

General advice is to wait to take an HPT until 14DPO, so CD38. You can test sooner if you want, but the accuracy rates are lower.

HPT Accuracy Results Percentages: (Based on a 25mIU sensitive test)
10 dpo : 35%
11 dpo : 51%
12 dpo : 62%
13 dpo : 68%
14 dpo : 74%
15 dpo : 80%
16 dpo : 88%
17 dpo : 92%

Serendipitie · January 2010

They make you wait because the odds of conceiving any particular month are 20% with PERFECT circumstances. It can take a normal, healthy couple up to a year (and sometimes longer) with no medical assistance.

Why would you, or anyone, want to jump into RE appointments, testing, drugs, etc. when you will probably conceive without all of that? Do you have a burning lust for the dildo cam? Co-payment money burning holes in your pocket? Do you like being poked with needles? I don't get it. Be patient.

yodasmistress · January 2010

Hope4Baby#2:
Until you can get tests done? Seriously. My first baby happened on the first try. This time its been 7 months so far. I am thinking it is long enough and they should do some tests.

FYI - As someone who has been TTC for 4 years and spent over $70K on fertility treatments this year alone, your words are REALLY annoying.

halfnhalf · January 2010

People on this board have been trying for a very, very long time and thus, are really sensitive to ladies who try a few months in a row and then freak out if they aren't pregnant immediately, so that's why you aren't getting the response you may have hoped for. That said, it is very frustrating going month after month with no success no matter what the situation, especially if you've conceived easily in the past, or in my case, if it seems like everyone else gets pregnant on the first try. It wouldn't hurt to call your doctor for a consult, but you probably don't need to bother going through any actual testing. There's only a 20% chance of getting pregnant for a person with no issues, and sometimes it just takes time (as annoying as it can be!).

GL!

Hope4Baby#2 · January 2010

Ok...apparentely I have offended some of you by asking why they make you wait. I apologize if you have been trying longer and have been through a lot more than me but....I am a person too. I don't appreciate the harsh words back. If you didn't want to assist me then don't post anything. I wish everyone well and wasn't looking to "blow my money" or "lie to a dr". I have known many people - especially in my fam who don't even need ov kits and have gotten preg right away. I know they are lucky. I was looking for some support/feedback and instead most of you have slammed me (except for one person - thank you for being kind).

I thought this site would be a good place to talk but now I am not sure...geesh. I figured people on here would be understanding, caring and kind!

rls07 · January 2010

Okay so yea I don't think was the board for you post that question on. Very rude and insenstive to the women here who have been trying much longer than 7 months. Try Google for a question like that.

gidge · January 2010

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carebear43412 · January 2010

Sometimes your DR will do testing without waiting a year depending on your case. I had hormone testing done at about 9 months of trying, but I also did not have a period from January 09 until November of 09. Also before I had hormone testing done I was put on glucophage for 3 months back in June and that was horrible.

mamamurphy · January 2010

Eww...I am really disappointed at all the nasty replies you got. For that I am sorry. As someone who ttc for 7 YEARS... 3 Miscarriages 1 eptopic...I WOULD NEVER SPEAK TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING this way ESPECIALLY one who is TTC. I have always said that when you want a baby you want a baby. Month 6 or Year 7...when you are living it, it feels like the world around you is getting pregnant on the 1st time!

Back to your question. I think it depends on a number of things before your doctor will begin testing. I know for me it was 6 mos. and I was 23, however I had a history of endo. I always thank god that I started trying early so that I was able to achieve my dream. To think if I had waited until I was 30 to start trying.

If you are concerned that there may be an issue, I would bring those concerns up to you doctor. Every pregnancy is different. For me my daughter was my 3rd IVF... When she was 3 months old we conceived my DS with no assistance...shocked everyone even my Fertility specialist.

To all of you that are oh so bitter that you can't even ignore a post if you have nothing helpful to add...I feel bad and just remember KARMA is a Beast!

Serendipitie · January 2010

Hope4Baby#2:
Ok...apparentely I have offended some of you by asking why they make you wait. I apologize if you have been trying longer and have been through a lot more than me but....I am a person too. I don't appreciate the harsh words back. If you didn't want to assist me then don't post anything. I wish everyone well and wasn't looking to "blow my money" or "lie to a dr". I have known many people - especially in my fam who don't even need ov kits and have gotten preg right away. I know they are lucky. I was looking for some support/feedback and instead most of you have slammed me (except for one person - thank you for being kind).

I thought this site would be a good place to talk but now I am not sure...geesh. I figured people on here would be understanding, caring and kind!

Your ONLY question was why do they make you wait. They make you wait so that you don't put yourself through unnecessary tests, cost the insurance companies money and waste doctor's time, as well as your own time. We answered your question, and I thought I was nice enough about it. I didn't realize that I needed to blow rainbows up your butt while giving you a truthful answer. Excuse me.

Serendipitie · January 2010

mamamurphy:
To all of you that are oh so bitter that you can't even ignore a post if you have nothing helpful to add...I feel bad and just remember KARMA is a Beast!

suntoto · January 2010

Hope4Baby#2:
Ok...apparentely I have offended some of you by asking why they make you wait. I apologize if you have been trying longer and have been through a lot more than me but....I am a person too. I don't appreciate the harsh words back. If you didn't want to assist me then don't post anything. I wish everyone well and wasn't looking to "blow my money" or "lie to a dr". I have known many people - especially in my fam who don't even need ov kits and have gotten preg right away. I know they are lucky. I was looking for some support/feedback and instead most of you have slammed me (except for one person - thank you for being kind).

People who suffer from IF and have TTC don't "lie to a Dr." nor "blow money". I think you really need to educate yourself about IF before ignorantly accusing others of things.

jadabac · January 2010

Please don't think that everyone who uses this site is so negative. I am appalled at some of the responses you got to your question. I too have been TTC for some time and can understand your frustration. My advice is to talk to your doctor and get an idea of what their practice is for women in your shoes. I spoke to my doctor and now I know what his plan is for me for the next 6 months. Obviously I live in your world filled with rainbows and puppies and think that some of the other "women" on this site would benefit from a day in our world! Good luck to you!

miesl · January 2010

jadabac:

Obviously I live in your world filled with rainbows and puppies and think that some of the other "women" on this site would benefit from a day in our world! Good luck to you!

If that other world is getting PG with my first baby the first month trying with my DH, then having to try 7+ months for the second...sign me the f*%& up

gidge · January 2010

miesl:
jadabac:

Obviously I live in your world filled with rainbows and puppies and think that some of the other "women" on this site would benefit from a day in our world! Good luck to you!

If that other world is getting PG with my first baby the first month trying with my DH, then having to try 7+ months for the second...sign me the f*%& up

No sh$t.

sw_in_kc · January 2010

Hope4Baby#2:

Ok...apparentely I have offended some of you by asking why they make you wait. I apologize if you have been trying longer and have been through a lot more than me but....I am a person too. I don't appreciate the harsh words back. If you didn't want to assist me then don't post anything. I wish everyone well and wasn't looking to "blow my money" or "lie to a dr". I have known many people - especially in my fam who don't even need ov kits and have gotten preg right away. I know they are lucky. I was looking for some support/feedback and instead most of you have slammed me (except for one person - thank you for being kind).

I thought this site would be a good place to talk but now I am not sure...geesh. I figured people on here would be understanding, caring and kind!

I read through the responses and I don't see harsh words. The people who responded were answering your question of "why wait?" The reality is harsh, not their words.

JennyAnne022776 · January 2010

mamamurphy:
To all of you that are oh so bitter that you can't even ignore a post if you have nothing helpful to add...I feel bad and just remember KARMA is a Beast!

Cool! Thanks for the lecture, especially considering you've been on this board for, um...let me see...30 seconds.

I'm sure that many, many people here will take your words to heart. It is the FIRST TIME we have ever heard them.

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