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Erin0922
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Is there anything you wish...
Erin0922
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had ended up with the other person in the divorce?
This freaking couch I sit on as I type. Hideous black leather, with rips and all kinds of other problems. The recliner doesn't recline anymore, and the pull out bed is stuck in there permanently. I swore it wouldn't come from the last apartment to this one. And when BM moved into her new place, I tried in vain to pawn it off on her. I mean, she helped pick it out, sat on it for 4 years, and helped tear it to shreds. I'm ready for an upgrade!
This vent comes from a place of super sunken cushions that my awkward pregnant booty has to roll off of.
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Re: Is there anything you wish...
It would have been nice if she would have gotten the bill for the home equity loan for the house she refuses to move the f-ck out of. That would have been pretty spectacular.
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"Karma1969: If baking someone a birthday pie/cake is romantic, I must be a slut."
The karate belt racks.
Fi's ex doesn't have an elegant bone in her body. She bought these light pine ladder style racks to which you attach the karate belts with elastic. Cheap and tacky. The top rung is etched with his name. It holds six belts, so when he completed his brown belt series and achieved a black belt, she ordered another one that the kids gave him for Father's Day that is engraved at the top with "Daddy". The finishes don't match.
I would just have replaced them with a lovely cherrywood cabinet with a glass front, but there is now a history. When I first moved in with FI, the oldest girl (adjusting to the fact that there was a new woman in her father's life) wrote a note and taped it on the rack asking me to not touch it.
I have not only fulfilled the request, I left the darn note attached to the belt rack. I have moved that rack (and its mate) three times and hung it in FI's office every time -- with the note attached.
If you are wondering why I could only pick the belt rack, it is because FI's ex let him take nothing but the clothes on his back, a few mementos and his office and workout furniture. Everything in our lives is either stuff I brought into the house or things we have bought together. Don't mind a bit because that woman is tacky.
No, quite the opposite. She took everything, DH let her have it. We were just dating and he had all the stuff cause she was living with her family. They scheduled a time for her to come get it and he just rolled over. The ONLY thing I wanted him to keep were the throw blankets he got when he was in Iraq. They were the warmest blankets EVERRRR and I think she took them when he wasn't looking cause he's upset they're gone too
I mean seriously....you took everything, can you leave the blankets BM? He didn't even go there until after the separation, so you had NO CLAIM
I didn't let the ex get anything but his clothes. And his motorcycle. He didn't deserve anything. I came home from work early and caught him in bed with another woman. IMO, anybody, male or female, who cheats on their spouse, deserves to lose everything.If they can't have enough respect to wait until at least moving out or separation papers are filed to mess around, then they deserve to lose it all.
And I understand how these other women in the pps didn't want to let their ex have anything nice or his stuff to share with the "other woman". Now, if the divorce was based on other things, or the cheating spouse got everything, that's a different story.
If children are involved, then the person who has custody most of the time at the time of the break up should keep most of the stuff so the kids lives aren't interrupted more then they already are.
When someone leaves, they should make sure they take their important personal stuff with them; it's pretty stupid not to, especially if they are leaving because they are moving in with another person. Can't expect the injured spouse to be "nice" to their belongings!
And no, I do not have that issue at all, DH moved a lot and has nothing left.
I'm guessing that little vent was aimed at me. Just FYI BM cheated on DH while she was pregnant with my youngest SD (and it wasn't the first time she cheated either). They were stationed overseas when it happened, I was not even on the same continent when this all went down. I met DH about a year after they split up. He had the furniture because she was staying with family and had no where to put it. When she moved out on her own, he let her have everything because she did have the kids most of the time and he literally used canvas lawn chairs to watch TV for about a year until he got a roommate that had furniture. I think my DH went above and beyond to accomodate her in a breakup that was by all intents and purposes, her fault. I get that my comment may have read like I was his gf on the side but that's not the case so I wanted to clarify.
Just in case the snark was aimed at me...
When I got romantically involved with FI, he had been separated for a while. He was living in a Divorced Daddy Condo with rented furniture. It was pretty dreadful. When we moved in together, all of the furniture was mine. By now, most of the furniture is stuff we have purchased together.
Nope.
Is there anything he's brought into our home I'd love to send to BM?
Yep. DH decided last year that he had to have these red sandwich baskets, like from a dive that serves extra greasy burgers to drunk college kids. He now pulls them out at any occasion he deems special enough and fills them with fries, popcorn, etc. I hate them. I'd ship them to her in a heartbeat with a red bow on top.
Nope. Fi left her with the house and Lexus parked in the drive. He left with nothing but the cloths on his back. She sent him a manila envelope filled with photos of the two of them at one stage, not sure what happened to that. When we moved in together we brought nothing from our pasts.
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"Karma1969: If baking someone a birthday pie/cake is romantic, I must be a slut."
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"Karma1969: If baking someone a birthday pie/cake is romantic, I must be a slut."
That is so true, unfortunately SOME people allow thier selfishness and anger at their exspouse to cause nothing but pain to the children by refusing to allow the kids to have their things even after they no longer live with that person. Its heartbreaking to think an adult would care more about sticking it to thier ex than giving their kids the things they own.