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Please help my postpartum husband

MamaChi418MamaChi418
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I desperately need help for my husband.

Our daughter is a month old and he started to suffer postpartum symptoms when she was 3 weeks old. its only been a couple weeks since I noticed the stress of a newborn being more than what it should be but he is getting really really bad. He feels like he can't do anything right and he is becoming a very angry and depressed person.

 He says he is having terrible thoughts and dreams about hurting the baby and when he wakes up he walks around like a zombie because he says he feels ashamed of himself and is sometimes afraid to care for the baby because he says he has come close to loosing control. 

 I am being deeply affected by this and am starting to become very depressed myself because I am too afraid at this point to let him care for her too long so I'm overworked and exhausted and starting to have the same thougths and feelings he is. a house with two people suffering from postpartum depression is a very dangerous place for my baby. 

PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!!! if you know of a place where my husband can get help please respond he wants help very badly we just dont know where to go

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Re: Please help my postpartum husband

  • *speedracer**speedracer* member

    ask around at local hospitals and breastfeeding stores for a support group, and find him a therapist.  i found mine through google searches.  they were the fastest resources for me when i was deep in the middle of it all.  Do you have anyone nearby to help care for the baby for an hour or two occasionally? he doesn't even have to leave the house if he doesn't want to, but for me getting outside of the house, even just to walk, was really helpful.

    also, i would talk to your OB/GYN asap and see if possibly they can help prescribe him some antidepressants.  they take about 2 weeks to work, which can feel like a lifetime when things are really rough.  it's great that you recognize what he's going through and you can help him take the steps he needs to get help.  he should not be ashamed, it happens to people all the time.  ((hugs to you both))

     what area are you located in?  this website can help you find resources near you, and there is a phone number you can call and they will call you back too. https://www.postpartum.net/Get-Help.aspx

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  • MamaChi418MamaChi418
    We're in Vancouver, WA. thank you so much for your help!! I didn't think anyone would respond and poor him thought that he'd be laughed at cause he feels guys can't have postpartum but the signs are obvious. thank you so much. we have people who can help us watch her so he can get out of the house and breathe too.
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  • *speedracer**speedracer* member
    men can definitely get it, if he wants to talk to someone who went through similar stuff he can email me nest.speedy@gmail.com. for me, talking about it helped a lot.  its nice to know you're not the only person with those kinds of feelings, ya know?
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  • texmommy3texmommy3
    Poor guy!  I am sure that is terrifying.  Please, please, tell him to contact a general primary care dr.  They can refer him to a psychatrist.  Anti anxiety/antidepressants may help.
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  • rosesandpeoniesrosesandpeonies member
    imagetexmommy3:
    Poor guy!  I am sure that is terrifying.  Please, please, tell him to contact a general primary care dr.  They can refer him to a psychatrist.  Anti anxiety/antidepressants may help.
    This. and if he doesn't have a dr. any walk in clinic or ER will help him get the meds and therapy that he needs. 
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  • Sally JSally J member
    I was able to get 8 free sessions of therapy through my work's Employee Assistance Program.  My husband also got 8 free sessions.  Also contact your primary care physician.
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  • J+OJ+O
    Get out your insurance card and look at the mental health part, call the number and they will help you find a counselor for help.  I think talking to someone combined with medicine is really the best solution.

    (((hugs))) 
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  • JermysgirlJermysgirl member
    Dads can get PPD too.  As can adoptive parents.  It's not just limited to bio moms...tell your husband not to be ashamed, he's not defective. 
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