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anyone want to join my pity party???
I'm going to preface this by saying I *KNOW* there are much worse
things that could be happening right now. But... I am still having a
really hard time right now.
I took Avery to the pedi today because she's sick. She is green snot city, her eyes are goopy, she's all around just a little miserable. I am doing everything that I can to get her better - you should see the arsenal of drugs we give her at night - Allergy eye drops, nose spray, zyrtec, accuhist...it's all too much. This has been constant for weeks now. I'm sick of it. I'm tired of her sitting around day care getting sick all the time. She's still in the Infant B class but she's the oldest one in there by 3 months. She is still there because she is not walking.
I HATE that my kid isn't walking. It is so hard and so frustrating to sit around and wait for her to decide she's ready to walk. I talked to the Pedi and he and I both feel like she should be in the young toddler class despite her not walking. they are so much more developmentally advanced in the next class up. they are signing and teaching versus I feel like the current class she's in is more of a playcare - they sing they take care of babies but I'm not sure how much "LEARNING" she is doing. SHe is really starting to excel at her speech and object recognition. I want to foster that - I want to encourage that.
My pedi asked that I get her moved up... and if they wouldn't move her up, he would write a letter asking that she gets moved up (way to go PEDI!). I talked to the director and assistant director today and they gave me the run around about how she isn't walking so she can't be in that room. That they need her to be walking because when they go outside or have to evacuate she needs to be able to walk out of the room herself.
But I think that it is all about the money... there is another baby who is younger than Avery in that class - not walking yet, but bigger than Avery is - and they have accommodated her. and if Avery was to move over, they would have to hire another staff member... So what!?! I am so tired of Avery being the one who gets walked over because she is not a needy and demanding child. I pay too much money for her to still be in a room with 10 month olds when she is 16 months old and ready to learn.
I am so upset. I'm pissed off at Day Care. I am frustrated that my kid isn't walking and there is not a damn thing I can do about it.
I just need a big hug - or a big cry fest to get me thru this.
Thanks for listening. Any words or advice are greatly appreciated.
I took Avery to the pedi today because she's sick. She is green snot city, her eyes are goopy, she's all around just a little miserable. I am doing everything that I can to get her better - you should see the arsenal of drugs we give her at night - Allergy eye drops, nose spray, zyrtec, accuhist...it's all too much. This has been constant for weeks now. I'm sick of it. I'm tired of her sitting around day care getting sick all the time. She's still in the Infant B class but she's the oldest one in there by 3 months. She is still there because she is not walking.
I HATE that my kid isn't walking. It is so hard and so frustrating to sit around and wait for her to decide she's ready to walk. I talked to the Pedi and he and I both feel like she should be in the young toddler class despite her not walking. they are so much more developmentally advanced in the next class up. they are signing and teaching versus I feel like the current class she's in is more of a playcare - they sing they take care of babies but I'm not sure how much "LEARNING" she is doing. SHe is really starting to excel at her speech and object recognition. I want to foster that - I want to encourage that.
My pedi asked that I get her moved up... and if they wouldn't move her up, he would write a letter asking that she gets moved up (way to go PEDI!). I talked to the director and assistant director today and they gave me the run around about how she isn't walking so she can't be in that room. That they need her to be walking because when they go outside or have to evacuate she needs to be able to walk out of the room herself.
But I think that it is all about the money... there is another baby who is younger than Avery in that class - not walking yet, but bigger than Avery is - and they have accommodated her. and if Avery was to move over, they would have to hire another staff member... So what!?! I am so tired of Avery being the one who gets walked over because she is not a needy and demanding child. I pay too much money for her to still be in a room with 10 month olds when she is 16 months old and ready to learn.
I am so upset. I'm pissed off at Day Care. I am frustrated that my kid isn't walking and there is not a damn thing I can do about it.
I just need a big hug - or a big cry fest to get me thru this.
Thanks for listening. Any words or advice are greatly appreciated.
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Re: anyone want to join my pity party???
Sarah, I'm so sorry. I can see how you'd be frustrated. If you aren't in a contract of any sort w/this daycare, and there's another one you'd be happy with that will meet yours and A's needs, I'd let this daycare know that you will pull her and put her in somewhere else. Then they'll see what money is all about. Because it's more about your child and getting what she needs.
Plus, that's stupid about evacuation and such - I mean, they'd have to do the same for her if she's in the infant class, right?!!?!?
Many hugs friend and hope she gets to feeling better soon!!!
Oh Sarah I am so sorry...I can't even begin to imagine how frustrating it is.
I am glad to hear that your pedi is being proactive about this...why is it fair to Avery that some kid who is younger and also not walking gets to be in the next step up class...they tell you she has to be walking but then they let another child in who isn't walking either? That's messed up! They are just holding Avery back because like you said she is ready to learn and is not getting what she needs from the infant classroom. I don't have any advice but it sounds like a good step in the pedi writing a letter.
I hope it all gets better soon! Big Hugs!
Ugh, that totally sucks about the daycare!! I think you should stay on them, and keep pushing for her to be moved up (and mentioning the other kid)! I would definitely write a letter to them.
So sorry you are so frustrated! Sending big hugs your way!
Sarah, I'm so sorry you're frustrated. I hope Avery gets to feeling better soon!
As far as daycare, that is crazy that they make an exception for one child, but not another. At 16 months, she needs to be in a class where she is learning, not just being babysat. I would get the letter from the pedi and go from there. If the daycare still refuses to acommodate Avery, I would start shopping for a new daycare.
Sarah, I'm sorry that you're having to deal with all of this. I can imagine how frustrating it is.
Like PP's have stated, I would get the PEDI to send a letter to the daycare saying that Avery being in a class where she would learn things and can excel is in her best interest. Holding her back b/c of her not walking is doing more damage than good. If the daycare still doesn't do what the Dr has recommended then I would start to look for a new daycare. Maybe one that isn't so stringent on rules and that cares for the baby instead of the money.
I totally agree. I would give them the letter from the pediatrician and if they still aren't willing to move her, let them know that you will move her to another daycare if they are not willing to move her up to the toddler class.
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Of course things could always be worse, but that doesn't mean you're not justified in being frustrated!! That situation is REALLY crappy and I would feel the SAME way!
It's pretty sh1tty that they won't move her up and I must say, I don't buy their "she has to be walking" excuse. I mean, it may be true, but it sounds like a load to me - and it would be good exposure for her too! I would keep pushing and see what happens.
Also, the class ratio thing is annoying and we've dealt w/that at J's daycare too - although she has been moved up now twice to an older room b/c they needed room for younger ones. They have always asked us first, so I guess that's nice, but still....
This is a really good point. Putting Avery around others walking might be the push she needs to get up and moving herself. That might be something you could point out to them.
IMHO
Daycare = Sucks
Pedi = Rocks
Oh & Avery = Cautious & Contemplative...that doesn't mean she's delayed {which BTW, pulled up 3 sites & they all said some babies don't walk until 16,17, or even 18 mos} Stick that Pedi note in their faces!
The Baby Blog.
Sarah- I think you are TOTALLY justified in being ticked off at daycare for not moving her up. One of the ways to maybe encourage her to try to walk is for her to see all of the kids around her walking! Same with the speech, etc. Kids really excel when they are around older peers, etc. I think she's probably bored in that other class, b/c Avery is a smart cookie. I would get the Pedi to write a letter and threaten to pull Avery out completely (not that you would really do that, but it might entice them to get the ball moving).
I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this...it sucks, I know.
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Unexplained Secondary IF
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2/3/11: IUI #5 - Femara/Follistim/Ovidrel/Crinone = BFP (2/14)!!!
Beta #1 (12dpiui): 53 Beta #2 (14dpiui): 203 Beta #3 (20dpiui): 3932 Beta #4 (28dpiui): 60,775
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SOOOOOOOOO agree w/this and everyone elses viewpoint.
Yikes...I can totally see how you would be frustrated. If she was surrounded by her peers and observing what they're doing, she might start walking. You'd think the daycare would want to encourage that.
I hope she feels better soon and you can find some resolve to the day care situation!!! ((hugs))
Sarah...I totally agree that she should be moved up. If it were my child, I would totally want that. Leaving her in the baby class isn't going to do her any good and could hender her development or hold her back. I mean, she needs to be around toddlers her age...watching what they do...hearing them talk...seeing them walk around...watching them play, etc. Who knows...she may start to walk if she were seeing others doing it around her all the time. I wholeheartedly believe that Caleb did several developmental things early because of being at The Little Gym with others his age and a little older and seeing them do it. Sitting around babies all day who do nothing but, sleep, cry, eat and poop isn't going to do her any good. It definitely sounds like it's all about the money issue and having to hire someone new. That is their problem, not yours and your child shouldn't have to suffer because of it. Her getting sick all the time certainly has to have something to do with the fact that she's still in there too... I dont' know for sure, but I would think that there isn't as much sickness in the toddler class b/c they have had time to adjust to being in daycare and their immune systems are stronger. And, if there is already another kid in that class who can't walk yet, I would be raising hell if they told me no! Sounds like you have been way nicer than I would have been.
I would have the pedi write the letter and if they still say no, I think I'd be looking for another day care. Sorry you are going through this...let me know if I can help in any way!
I am agreeing with what everyone else has suggested. I hope that the daycare steps up and does what is right to help Avery. Good Luck!
Ditto. (((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))