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RE: Hoping for BFP

MeechieNJMeechieNJ
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I just wanted to clear the air a bit becuse after my last post I seemed to have caused some sort of misunderstanding and offended some of you. I have actually posted here before and have told my story a few times before I've actually have been on this board since Jan 2009. I don't post regularly because I've been grieving over my infertility issues and monster-in-law problems by myself.  I would occassioanlly come on and reply to other posts especially those regarding PCOS. I wouldn't post BFP here and I guess I am now not allowed to post here at all. I didn't want to or mean to offend anyone on this bored but if I did, I apologize. However, I just have to ask...where am I allowed to post? I am TTC after 2 losses and I am not pregnant right now...so wouldn't this be the right place for me? I am not lurking just looking for people that are going through the same situation as me that can understand/support what I'm going through because they too are going through the same thing. Again - sorry if I offended any of you-I whole-heartedly wish you all the best of luck and will not post here again as to not put myself in such a hurtful situation.
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Re: RE: Hoping for BFP

  • AppleRidgeAppleRidge member
    No one told you you weren't welcome.  You were just warned that if you do post a BFP, people won't be that psyched about it because we don't know you.  Doesn't matter whether you posted an intro a long time ago - there are so many people coming and going on this board, you can't expect us to remember you and your story if you don't participate more actively.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    Sorry your feelings are hurt...but seriously, this is pretty over dramatic. No one said you weren't welcome to post. But your "hoping for a BFP" came out of the blue, you have 66 posts to your name, and I have been here for awhile and don't recognize you.

    Why not just make a re-intro and let us get to know you again? Obviously it's the right place for you, we just don't know you. So say "hey ladies, sorry, I realize I haven't been around for awhile. Here's my story..." You would have gotten a lovely welcome.

    GBCTTCAL doesn't get you the support you deserve, and honestly, I don't think anyone was all that harsh.

     

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    You can post here.  Just post.  I have nothing significant to add to a lot of the posts I reply to. I know nothing of IUI or IVF or follicles or clomid, but a good luck is always appropriate no matter what.
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  • momagain2009momagain2009 member

    You're welcome to post here.  I don't think anyone said you couldn't, however, keep in mind that this board always has people coming and going.  It's an everchanging group of women so if you don't post regularly (66 posts in a year is a little light IMO) nobody is going to remember who you are.

    Make friends here, we're all nice people.  Stick around and you'll see.  But don't get all defensive and wonder why you got the responses you did when you haven't been around much.

    I wish you the best of luck in your TTC journey.

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  • SpeedGlennSpeedGlenn
    I thought everyone was pretty nice to you.  I'm sorry your feelings were hurt.
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  • PeetiePiePeetiePie
    I responded to the OP.  I agree with PP, a refresher intro is always nice when people have been away awhile.  
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  • CLAYLIOVERCLAYLIOVER

    CHEESE AND RICE!

    No one said that to you! No one even came close to saying you were not welcome. I have never seen a intro post from you.

    And you said preggers...we dont like that word. I didnt know anyone actually was serious about that word.

    How can you expect answers to your questions when we dont know what your talking about? I guarantee you can not tell me what going on with me....but more than half the people on here can tell you what I am on and when my next appt is w/out even looking in my siggy! Point is....it is rude to post your "possible bfp" when we dont know you.

    I am the mod on this board and if something rude was said to you I would have caught it.

    Please feel free to stay around and introduce yourself. Give and Get thats how it works here.

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  • TravelinMamaTravelinMama member

    Well I've never seen you post up until your post today - I might be pregnant (and hence why I didn't respond) and I've been on this board for about 6 months now, so that's telling you something. Personally I could care less if you are KU cause you've never been there to offer me any strength or reassurance during my last year on the Bump.  

    So I'm sorry if you're not getting a warm and fuzzy welcome, but what did you expect? 

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  • noah-bearnoah-bear member
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  • babygirlpriestbabygirlpriest

    I just looked at your bio. You made one post on the 18th and then your next most recent post was exactly one year before that on January 18, 2009. Yes, you may have replied here and there but... like everyone has said, we don't know you.

    I know your feelings were hurt and I'm sorry you're diappointed by the responses you received but no one told you to go away and never come back.

    I hope you get a BFP and can join the PGAL boards. If not, stick around, reintroduce yourself, and provide and receive all the wonderful support this board is more than willing to give.

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  • ERICA21779ERICA21779
    honestly, I think you are being overly sensitive.  I went back and read the OP and there is nothing there saying you are not welcome.  Just a reminder that your announcement of a BFP should be made  at PGAL.  I do however, hope that you get your BFP. 
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  • suntotosuntoto member

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    No one told you you weren't welcome.  You were just warned that if you do post a BFP, people won't be that psyched about it because we don't know you.  Doesn't matter whether you posted an intro a long time ago - there are so many people coming and going on this board, you can't expect us to remember you and your story if you don't participate more actively.

    This and 66 posts is NOT ACTIVE!  

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